How can you ensure that your woman does not get fat on you after you make a commitment to her?

Question

There is not much worse than a woman who used to be attractive blowing up on your after you get married.

Answer 1

Are you marrying her because you "love" her, or are you marrying her because you think she is attractive?

How can we (as women) "ensure" that our men won't get beer belly's or bald?
Love is not about how one looks, and if that is what your love is all about, then you are a very superficial person.

How can you "ensure" your woman that you will always be attractive.

Women gaining weight, is like men going bald.
It comes with age, and there's not alot you can do about it.
So don't marry someone only for their looks, cause it just won't work.

You can't even be sure that you won't be in some horrible accident that would disfigure you.
Would you want your wife to leave you because you are no longer attractive?
What kind of love is that, not one that I would want.
I would rather be alone all my life (which I'm not).

Love a person for who they are.
Love a person for their personality.
Love a person for loving you in return.

Good luck.
Gaining weight is a fact of life.
It's going to happen. And the reason I say this is because I know from personal experience.

Ok, here it is....all my life I was thin, had a wonderful figure.
I was 5'6" and weighed 103.
No matter what I did , I could not gain weight.
And believe me, I was a good eater.
But it's natural, in my family, we are all thin.
Now, as I am 41 (I'm only telling my age because nobody knows me on here), I am gaining weight and can't stand it.
I am now 5'7" and 148.

I would die if my husband wanted to leave me because of my weight.
But also, keep in mind, my husband was(is) a very attractive man.
As he is 40, he is starting to bald, has some health problems that causes him to now be under weight (when he was all built up with muscles).
I still love him
Even more as time goes on
Once you are in "true" love, you see the person for who they are on the inside as well as on the outside.

Answer 2

If you want a woman to don't get fat on you don't marry any. That's life man. Not everyone has the same metabolism. People get fat for different reasons, and many not necessarily because they eat a lot. I think it is immature to not expect changes in a person's physical appearance. What if she has a car accident and looses a leg? Would you divorce her then? What if she gets cancer? It may look like an exageration but it is basically the same thing: its change. Things will not always be like they were on the honeymoon. If a person thinks he or she cannot handle changes in a person's life in any of these areas, the same should not marry. I understand that we women let go of ourselves, but it is easy to pass judgement on women for getting fat. Later you find out that that women helps her husband in his businesses from morning to night, helps the kids with homework and school projects while the husband is on business trips sometimes around 70% of the time, and she cannot squeeze in time to go to the gym, and then you understand that living in front of a computer 12 hours a day or more to earn a living and make ends meet and not being able to have time for yourself can really put some weight on anyone. Plus while it is good to encourage and motivate a partner to lose some weight, you also have to weigh other more important things. It is always wise to put ourselves in the other persons shoes. I haven't personally heard stories of women leaving they husbands because they became bold over the years and grew a beer tummy, though I'm sure it must have happened, but at the end of the day, you have to see when you really need someone beside you, it may be the fat lady that you have at home the one that never leaves you.

Answer 3

The same way she can ensure you don't get a beer gut and sit on your @$s on the couch all the time instead of taking care of some of the household responsibilities...you should not be making a commitment to someone since you are so shallow anyway

Answer 4

Firstoff, decide if you love her unconditionally. If your answer is "yes" then the two of you need to make a commitment to YOUR HEALTH (not to her pleasing YOU), that you will eat right, exercise and take care of your bodies TOGETHER.

Something you should know about--people's bodies will not always be the same and even though one may not "blow up" your body is going to change in some way or another. Ever look at a picture of someone in their prime and then one of them 10 years later--15 years later.

It's good though that this concerns you (even if the reasoning is a little off). Staying healthy increases your longevity and that can give you many many years of health and happiness.

Answer 5

I feel so sorry for your wife. Does she know you feel this way and that you put this question on here? If you love her, you will not care what she looks like in 20, 40, or more years. What do you think will happen if she has any of your children? Not all women can lose the weight, you know. Think about all this before you make a commitment to anyone. Kind of sounds like you are a pig.

Answer 6

my hubby gained weight after we were married-15 lbs. and had an slightly different view if i gained. its not okay for men to eat ice cream every night and expect you not too also. keep healthy habits. do it with her a family rule- don't eat late night junk- don't eat junk-don't keep it in the house. don't buy cookies nad chips and soda to have around. my hubby also didn't buy sweets unless i bake the,. sounds like a jerk-but it was actually the best b/c if i was craving sweets i had to make it otherwise he wouldn't buy any. also exercise with her. if she gains Little play it smooth and take her for a "romantic stroll in the park or a bike ride" its all about the approach.

Answer 7

Stay single.

If it's not weight, it will be something else. A disfiguring accident or medical condition? Gray hair?

There is not much worse than finding out you married a shallow jerk after you tied the knot.

Answer 8

Sure there is -- a guy who turns out to be a pig. Most of the time women get fat after they get married is because they have low self esteem. Usually caused by a guy who nags and nags and nags and nags and nags and doesn't appreciate what he has.

Answer 9

Make sure she leads an active lifestyle before you make the commitment. Also, make sure not to get her pregnant. Nothing puts on the pounds like a baby in the making.

Answer 10

you can't ensure it, marry someone who is health conscious and knows how to stay fit. i think it's great for both people to want to be attractive for each other.