Do you value kindness or truth more?

Question

thank you for your ponderings......=)

Answer 1

Kindness. Typically those who are kind speak honestly and those who speak honestly are not necessarily kind. Being good to one another is best, specially considering no one really knows what "truth" is. We are all on a ride, it's best to share compassionately.

kindness should not be deceiving, if it is, then it isn't kindness it's deceit.

"truth" is a muddled gray area and technically can never really be known. Truth is completely relative. If you're actually kind you are not deceitful, you are compassionate and good to all.

Answer 2

Whooaaa, this is a tough question, that's for sure. I need to really think this one through. If you had provided some idea as to the situation/s, I would be able to answer accordingly. However, that's not the case, so here goes: As a Social Worker, I'll will give you my best professional opinion. It's just an opinion, and there's probably no right or wrong answer with your question. I see kindness as being cordial, pleasant, willing to go the extra mile, and willing to help others when they could use or appreciate help. For example, let's say you see an aging person crossing the street while the light is green. It would be true kindness if you were to step up to the plate and pull that person backward before an accident happened. On the otherhand, truthfulness, again as I see it, is providing an honest and accurate answer when asked a question. If, however, the answer to that question would be harmful to the person asking the question, then, what I do, is always try to redirect them in a way that allows me to take the burden of being truthful away from me and unto to them. Another example, if my best friend asked me if I knew his/her spouse were having an affair. Naturally, my first inclination would be to be truthful, but the sensitive side of me suggests that my response would be.....If you feel s/he is having an affair, I think you need to ask him/her yourself.
Hope this isnt too confusing.

Answer 3

Truth

Answer 4

I agree that this is a double standard question: truthful
words can hurt and can leave deep scars that last a life time.
I believe being kind and as honest as you can be.

There are multiple interpretations of "truth," My truth, your truth, God's truth, society's truth, philospher's truth and the rest of the story.

There are few absolute truths. it is usually someone's opinion of their view of the truth. The problem is that there are different kinds of truth as I said and multiple views of the truth, interpretations and logical errors. Plus culturally accepted truths.

We can't abstain from judging, but we must be careful how we judge what is the real truth. Kindness makes us content, also dishonesty brings disillusion in the long run, therefore, I would usually prefer truth! One has to know what the truth is. .

If we concentrate on loving each other then we will do what is best in fulfilling God's purposes (loving the other person), than harmony and peace of mind will result.

Half-truth, object metaphor, the truth of how something appears is the totality of different perspectives and opinions. Conflict resolution,is a better word and my understanding of truth is to do that, resolve the issue.

You cannot please all the people, all the time. In the bible, "Job," acknowledge God's previous kindness to him, but it is in the context of complaining, not knowing God's truth. he does not praise God for the kindness. Job himself calls it a complaint (Job 10:1). God's mercy (withholding the truth) and true words are joined together; King david;
"For his merciful kindness is great toward us," in this context merciful is withholding some truths kindness... and the truth of the LORD. Psalm 117 The same divine Spirit which expatiates in the 119th Psalms condenses GOD'S utterances into mercy (which is withholding the punishment).
Acknowlegement to Charles H. Spurgeon

Answer 5

Some believe protecting another from the truth will protect them from the pain that would become of it, but in truth the longer you postpone the truth, even the most kindness you show, the pain will grow the more you delay revealing the truth, the more pain will become or it, so I say if you know the truth, say it, or else the kindness will slip through your hand and form hatred and anger.

Answer 6

Of your two choices...I value truth more.

The truth may not always be welcoming to experience or pleasant to hear...but, the truth is real and if absorbed well will propel a growth.

Kindness . . . That's great stuff. Yet a person may be kind to another when what might have really been more productive was to caringly guide that person to what really needs to be done.

Answer 7

That's a hard one. I think sometimes it varies for me. If the time suggests that truth would create the best solution then I have to be truthful. If kindness however delivers better results then I have to be kind.I value them both. Kindness and truthfulness are great values and good virtues are always good to hold dear.

Answer 8

Truth....a kind lie is still a lie! Truth, while you may not see it as kind, in the end, is kinder by far for being the truth.
Say you were to wear a shirt that made you look pasty, frumpy...and you asked, do you like it? I'd rather say no, it doesn't suit you, and risk your displeasure than to let you wear a shirt that was unattractive.
A lame example, I know....but best I could do on the spur of the moment!

Answer 9

I would say kindness is more important yes the truth is very important but kindness over all is a great value something I search for

Answer 10

I should and wish I could say "Truth".... but the truth hurts sometimes, yet "kindness" can be false - a lie. Can I say both, equally ?
May I say both equally? Cuz that would be the answer that serves the heart and mind the best. One value can shape and the other yet both can destroy.