2007-07-06 13:22:19 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sure he already knows, based on how you've been treating him lately.
2007-07-06 13:25:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My good friend said her husband and her were eating dinner when he said, "I think I would like a divorce". She couldn't believe her ears. She knew he was not happy, but thought it was just something he was going through at work. He then proceeded to tell her that he didn't think he ever really loved her. (They had been married for 13 years). She was devastated, but she is getting somewhat better now. They have been divorced for 6 months now. They have two lovely children. What I am trying to say is that there is no easy way. If you can't stay in your marriage and work it out with counseling--which I think you should try if he is willing, then there is no easy solution. There will be deep hurt--probably on both parts. And the children will feel the hurt also. But it really isn't fair to stay in a marriage because of the children, or you will only end up resenting them. I hope you can work things out.
2007-07-06 13:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by conni 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I think "you" have to decide why you don't love him any more.
Do you love him, but "not in love" with him?
Has something happened between the two of you, that hasn't gotten resolved so it's causing you to resent your husband.
If that's the case, it could be something that could be worked out, by talking it over and finding a way to work on things. And it will take alot of work.
Once you decide why you don't love him any more, then I think you owe it to him to just sit down and talk to him.
There's not going to be anything easy about it, but is it easy living in a "love-less" marriage?
Plus you should give him the opportunity to be able to go find someone that will love him, for who he is. He may not see it that way at first, but we all want to be loved...especially by our spouses. And if he's not getting that from you, then that's not fair to him either.
And it's not fair to you either to stay in a marriage where your heart is not in it.
We only get 1 life, you have to go look for what makes you happy. And don't settle for less.
Hope everything works out for you. It will take time. But:
"All Good Things Come To Those Who Wait".
Take care ;)
2007-07-06 13:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't! You made a commitment and you need to stick to it. Love is an action. Even when you don't 'feel' like you love him, you must continue to work on your marriage. The 'feelings' of love come and go with the different seasons of your life. The grass always looks greener on the other side, but you will find that when you get over the fence....that grass, too, will soon need tending.
2007-07-06 13:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by Joy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While looking foolish.
LOVE is not just about your gushy, cloud nine FEELINGS. Love is a commitment. A covenant that you make together. Feelings will come and go throughout the relationship, as long as you keep the covenant THAT YOU MADE with him.
So if you don't "FEEL" lovey any more, that doesn't mean that you don't love him....it means that you aren't interested in holding up your end of the covenant anymore.
So, doing it while looking like a quitter.
2007-07-06 13:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, I don't know if I love you any more. However, I am still willing to make this marriage work because that is what being married is. I made a commitment, and I intend to keep it but didn't want you to feel like I was hiding something.
2007-07-06 13:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out with him and see how he feels. If u have kids think about this might affect them. This is a very hard decesion to make that affects many people so be 250% sure that the decesion u make is the right one. Best of Luck! =]
2007-07-06 13:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by yoooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would keep my mouth shut..this kind of stuff is transient, passes in time, and suddenly, you are in love again. Today, we are all in such a rush to always feel love...what the hell is this all about. Love is something that flows like water...high tides and low tides. If you jump ship at low tide, you may well end up in some serious mud.
2007-07-06 13:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you love him any more? Is it the 7 year itch? try to work on it . If you cant tell him straight up and move on quickly
2007-07-06 13:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by "RED_FISH" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't.. those arn't the words at all.. those are meant to hurt, not provoke change.. think about what you want out of it and change the burn.. that is just crushing.. don't attack.. just smack him around a little and work back and forth with improvements or a suggested plan to have an open relationship, if it is far too broken
2007-07-06 13:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sit him down and break the news gently but honestly.
You DO NOT leave for a couple weeks, come back, leave, come back, stomp on the heart, back & forth......like MY exhole did.
Trust me, a CLEAN break will heal faster.
2007-07-06 13:48:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋