Will men ever understand women ? - Guys and Girls both answer !?

Question

... like ever ?

Sometimes I feel I do the right thing only for it to be the wrong thing ! You say " I'm going out ", then you get back and get told off for going out, why did she say it's fine in the first place ? This is just one of many examples !!!! HELP !!

Answer 1

Things guys should know about girls:

1. Don't ever lie to us; we always find out.
2. We don't enjoy talking dirty to you as much as you enjoy listening.
3. Don't say you understand when you don't.
4. Girls are pretty, but yours is ALWAYS the Prettiest!
5. You don't have PMS; don't act like you know what it's like.
6. Saying something sweet might get you off the hook; doing something sweet will always get you off the hook.
7. A system in your car only impresses your homeboys not us.
8. It's good to be sensitive, sometimes.
9. If you did something wrong or even if you didn't, apologize.
10. Be spontaneous; dinner and a movie won't always cut it.
11. Hugs and kisses must be given at all times.
12. Shave; no matter how cool you think your goatee or beard or mustache looks
13. Even if you think it is cool to burp, fart, or emitt other strange gases from your body, itisnt, so DONT..
14. Don't compare our breasts with Pamela Anderson's; hers are fake, just remember that.
15. We are beautiful at all times.
16. We will always think we are fat, so humor us and tell us we aren't.
17. Most importantly: we are always right; so don't forget
it.

learn this and you will never EVER fail!

Answer 2

To answer your question: Probably not. Our brains are constructed differently. A man's reality is not the same as that of a woman's. Maybe when we can understand the human brain in it's entirety, we might make sense of each other. But I doubt it. Instead of wondering if men will ever understand women and vice versa, let's do something that actually helps -- make a considered effort to get along.

You also asked for help, so...

The girl you indirectly described sounds jealous, controlling and possessive.

Which most likely means she's insecure. Jealousy (in a relationship) is often rooted in insecurity. People get jealous when they're not comfortable with who they are. When you are not secure with yourself, anything seems threatening, like outside friendships or even crushes on celebrities.

Some people think that jealousy is a sign of affection and love, and a tool used to safeguard a relationship. But you should think again if your partner doesn't trust you to do things by yourself or to spend time with your friends. When someone starts tracking your every move and is in your face all the time about where you've been and whom you've been with, then it's time to rethink whether this is a healthy relationship.

The best thing you can do with her is communicate effectively. Call her on this behavior, but in a calm, cool way -- almost indifferent, using the same tone you'd use with a friend, i.e. "You're my friend and I'm saying this for your benefit." Also, provide positive reinforcement about herself. When she looks pretty, tell her. Hide a note in her purse for her to find later. Let her know you're thinking about her. It /will/ help to curb jealous behaviors. And guys should be doing those things anyway.

Answer 3

You must be very young. You have to learn that there is no definitive answers coming from women. Yes is a maybe, ok is a no, go ahead is do it at your peril, I'll think about it means don't ask again, etc. If you understand these vagueness, you just do your own thing.

WOmen's emotions are abstract and irrational, ie,, cannot be measured by a checklist. Without a list, men cannot take actions. So whatever you do is wrong, it is a moving target and shrinking goal posts. Solution for men: act dumb, fat and happy.

Answer 4

I agree. I think both men and women are expected to act a certain way, and it can be stressful and difficult trying to conform to such expectations. Men are not expected to be emotional, so they feel they have to bottle everything up. Women feel that they must put everyone before themselves, which can make them feel resentful. I actually hadn't thought about that, about how it is only the self esteem of girls and women that receive the focus of society and the media, but I think you are right. Some men may think they don't provide well enough for their family (if they are the breadwinners), or they may feel like their wives could've done better than them, or there is the issue of a man's "size." Perhaps it's because a lot of men don't like accepting help or advice that their self esteem is not taken into consideration (that may be stereotypical, but I guess it's one idea as to why this happens). But really, their insecurities deserve as much attention as women's, because both genders deserve to be content.

Answer 5

disco said never don't try it you would end up with brain damage . Well i think you already have it for asking a question like that . Maybe you should seek counseling or just try to put the hole thing out of your mind and try to ignore It. sorry for your pain but as men we all go through it just part of being a man . The older you get the more you will adapt to there language

Answer 6

Ever read the book about how men are from Mars and women are from Venus? We will never understand each other, but there are some women out there who will be more open and honest with you than this current one. She sounds very immature.

Answer 7

NO just like women will never understand men

Answer 8

I understand and accept that I will never know everything about women. But each day when I wake up I kiss my wife and kids, I try my best to understand. She does her best for forgive my lack of understanding and doesn't try to judge or understand my reason for doing man things.

Answer 9

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! we are made from different cloth. we do not have the same hormones. i've learned that men think with the brain(sometimes,lol) and women think with the heart. thats what makes us all different. you will just have to learn the tell tale signs of when we say yes, we may mean no. sorry, gotta figure it all out on your own. good luck!

Answer 10

Will we understand each other totally....absolutely not in your wildest dreams. But we get better at navigating around certain pitfalls that have messed us up before, and as we mature we develop better methods of communication, and we learn when to listen to our friends on relationship issues, and more importantly,when to ignore them.