Yes he has cheated on me, i plan to spend the next 6months while he is on tour in iraqa getting over us cuz we will more then likly be getting a divorce. But he leaves in two weeks, should i go see him a couple days before he is gone for 6months or stay away so i dont get suckered into ne fights or him trying to make me feel bad for not trusting him. what should i do?
2007-07-06 12:06:09 · 24 answers · asked by corrick_1 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See him say your good bys and let him know that he is in your prayers. No matter what he says to try to make you feel bad laugh it off and ignore his comments. Do not even react to his words at all this will make him look and feel crazy to be talking to himself. Then after that go live you life to the fullest.
2007-07-06 12:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has cheated on you and you want a divorce, get going on it. Get the paperwork done and signed before he leaves for Iraq. If he has cheated, that will make you feel like you can cheat while he is gone, too. That isn't fair to anyone and it will look especially bad when he is fighting in a war. Talk to him and find out what he wants. He may want the same. Be nice either way. He may not ever come home literally. Remember that because if you are mean and hateful to him and he is killed, you won't forgive yourself.
2007-07-06 19:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....you don't say how long you've been married...but I would see him off. Even if the marriage is headed for divorce, there is no reason to be unfriendly. Like I saw someone else on here say...what if he didn't come back. I think should that happen...you would most likely regret not saying goodbye for the rest of your life. Nothing says that you have to see him a few days before. Just go to his departure point and wish him well and tell him good bye. After that...go find you a bf while he's gone.
2007-07-06 19:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should go see him off, but do not, I repeat do not send him off with any sex. The facts, I suspect, you still care for him and he may not come back. So, wishing him well and being supportive of what he is doing, "in the name of his country" is a good thing. But do not reward him just because he's going on tour. This 6 months will tell the tale. Do you want him back, does he want you back? Some counseling, for you, in the interim may prove to be quite helpful. It takes both parties to work through infidelity, both have to be willing. Let a counselor help and suggest to him, that if he wants to keep the marriage in tact and he is truly sorry, that he seek counsel while on tour. If he is not willing to do this, then divorce his sorry ***. You will be better off.
2007-07-06 19:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by bill b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be able to find peace within yourself should you hear that he was killed or injured in Iraq. You know the chances all of our military take when they go to Iraq.
It appears as though you are both seperated since you write "go to see him a couple of days before." If this is the case, you can send him a card wishing him well while overseas. But I also find nothing wrong in seeing him off on the day he leaves.
You'll find the right thing to do.
2007-07-06 19:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would see him off just because you would feel very bad if something happened;but don't sit home and not have a life if you are planning to divorce. Cheating is a godly reason to divorce;and if you have any children talk good about their father and tell them how brave he is to be fighting for our country but you don't have to let them know that you don't like him anymore. Let them see him and talk to him as much as possible, too. He cheated on you not them. I am praying for you, your children and your husband (as a soldier). GOD BLESS YOU!
2007-07-06 19:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off the minute i heard about the 1st time I would have sent him divorce papers ASAP!
Dont see him...you might get sucked in cuz you said your going to spend the 6 months healing or whatever..so it sounds like your still in love.......
So what he's going to Iraq a lot of people are....just wish him luck (if your feeling nice) and dont see him! Its a trap!
2007-07-06 19:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a no win situation.If something happens to him and you don't see him before he leaves you will probably feel the guilt for a long time.I suggest you see him,try to keep it as light as possible, when he comes back you can always consider divorce.
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2007-07-06 19:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan to stay with the guy yeah, by all means see him off. If you're really serious about ending it, then end it. Don't wait, you'll just feel bad longer.
2007-07-06 19:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by mrs j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See him off,and bring your boyfriend.Nothing like our fighting men/women going off to a place they could be killed with the thought that their is nobody waiting for them when they get back.
2007-07-06 19:12:22 · answer #10 · answered by m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋