2007-07-06 12:00:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know that relationships take time, commitment, and cooperation. I want to know how long it took others to know that the person they are with was the person they want to marry. I am 24 and have dated quite a bit - some long relationships and some short. I know what it takes to make a relationship work and think that my boyfriend is who I want to be with forever but do others feel that this is something one can just sense or do people feel that it is something that has to develop over time - or both?
2007-07-06 12:10:35 · update #1
i knew the second i saw him that i wanted him... no idea why exactly... i'm marrying the guy tomorrow!
2007-07-06 12:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he does stuff like...
forget to flush the toilet (or, worse yet, clogs it!)
pisses you off by pointing out one of your flaws (and -you hate to admit it, but he is right!)
sometimes refuses to say he's sorry after a fight
admits he thinks some of your relatives are crazy
ALWAYS "forgetting" to scrape/rinse the dishes before putting them in the dishwasher...
...basically, all of the annoying things guys can do - he does this stuff, but even when you are mad at him, you still love him and realize that it doesn't affect how you really feel about him deep down.
Long term love isn't that "spark:" in the beginning of a relationship -that is EASY and everyone has a great time then. Love is dealing with the day to day crap that gets everyone down... and still wanting to be with him. That is what truly takes commitment & dedication.
EDIT: I have been w/my boyfriend 5yrs & we are getting married in the spring. Although I felt that he could be "the one" from day one...it was after we had been living together for about 2yrs (3yrs total in relationship) that I really felt certain. The first year living together was tough and a big adjustment period. It gets much better though =)
In regards to your question, I feel it is both something you sense and develops over time.
2007-07-06 12:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experience. Part of the process of being in a relationship is getting to know the other individual in ways that include their humor, hopes, and character. Dating is meant to be a process in which you get an idea of the type of character that you really can spend the rest of your life with. How soon? Your hormones beg to differ from reality, so keep in mind that honest feelings and love can be patient. If you two really care about each other, then waiting a little longer relationship under the "dating" status should provide the result you'd like.
2007-07-06 12:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by kusainezumi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you're in love, doesn't mean you're meant to be with them, much less forever.... even if they love you too, it doesn't mean the relationship is right or healthy or both of you.
You can't have a successful relationship without love, but a successful relationship needs more than love. It takes honesty and trust and self-knowledge.
When you're in love, you know it, and there is no doubt in your heart.
You'll never truly know that this person is the one you're *meant* to be with - you just have to take it on faith and say, right or wrong, this is where my heart is, and I don't wish to go elsewhere.
2007-07-06 12:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When that special feeling seeps in, you can't stop thinking abou them and you can see your self with that person years down the road. You just know.... A spark will ignite and then your done for.
2007-07-06 12:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. It takes several years to find out if you're going to be together forever. No one is 'meant' to be together. It is not predetermined. People manage to stay together through strong relationships and mature behavior.
2007-07-06 12:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by anotherbsdparent 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what I hear. as soon as you know beyond a doubt, that you could not live with out the person. you know you are hooked. But there are no guarantees in love.
2007-07-06 12:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by breezy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can tell your in love when you cant stop thinking or dreaming about this person every nite! when he the one you dream and think about for ever!!!! and when he their to take care of you and that he the one you want to be with for a very long time! and please make sure that he love you too!!! ♥
2007-07-06 12:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by chick41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋