I was sexually abused from the age of 4-6 by my moms boyfriend. Things were good with dad, but I was at moms most of the time. The molester beat the crap out of me with belts and tortured me. He used to handcuff me, flush my head in the toilet, make me eat my own vomit, make me do oral, torture me with knifes- though he never cut me, made me do disgusting things. He made me watch my mom & him have sex, and threatened my life constantly.
I grew up fantasising about finding him as an adult, seducing him somewhere private and hurting him somehow like with scissors....
So now I am an adult, I have three children, I am married and most of the time happy. BUT my biological mother just gave me all the info I need to find my molester, its been too many years to prosecute him. But I want him to pay, and I hate imagining him doing this to someone else. What do I do?
2007-07-06 11:20:12 · 10 answers · asked by SandLady 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I have gone to therapy, thank you!
2007-07-06 11:36:40 · update #1
I think you may be wrong about it being too many years to prosecute him.
See an attorney, find out about the statute of limitations.
Even if the criminal statute has run, there's a chance that you can still get a civil suit at least filed. If there's an applicable statute that has run out, that's his problem to plead that.
Meanwhile, there will be a civil complaint that he's a total monster with accompanying sworn affidavits that are public records. Imagine what life will be like should some reporter with time on their hands learn of that.
See an attorney.
2007-07-06 11:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by open4one 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are allowing this guy to control you years later. Even though you believe it might be too late to prosecute, contact your local Prosecutor's Office and let them decide. This puts you back in control and helps your feelings/belief that he might do this again. Finally, it is your choice if you want this to control your life. You can never take back the pain he has caused, but you can let go of it. It is your decision. Much Happiness.
2007-07-06 13:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by vbrink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if it's too late to prosecute him, you can still probably sue in civil court. Get a lawyer and find out.
2007-07-06 12:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the prosecuting attorney where these things occurred. Good luck.
2007-07-06 11:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, go get therapy.
Second, go see an attorney. You might be able to sue in civil court. I won't guarantee that, but it is possible in some jurisdictions.
2007-07-06 11:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can still go to the police with this no matter how many years go by, tell them and at least get him on the sex offenders register.
2007-07-06 11:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by louise d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear thats vulgar. Can't you get on with your happy life and try to find away to get rid of your anger and thoughts?
2007-07-06 11:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by Rachellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't post what I would do. That would be pre-meditated. ;)
BTW...Report it anyways. There may be other girls that have been victimized more recently that can prosecute.
2007-07-06 11:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let people know about him , send him to prison , they will sort him out , dirty old f*****.
2007-07-06 12:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by Stephen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Borrow a gun.
2007-07-06 11:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋