2007-07-06 10:42:01 · 18 answers · asked by ~~~Tara~~~ 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Some people need to do this to keep themselves a notch above you. It's a mean but common practice. All you can do is practice non-reaction to it. Then they'll see they don't have any power over you. :^)
2007-07-06 10:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by Holly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Reverse the negative comment in your mind and find proofs that you can believe in its positive opposite.
For example: Someone says to you, "I think you're fat."
Immediately turn around the thought "I am fat" to "I am not fat" or "I am thin" or, best yet, "I am the perfect size for me right now".
Support those opposites with proof such as, "I could be a lot heavier and for my size I look pretty good. Even if he/she thinks I'm fat, it doesn't mean I less worthy as a person and less deserving of respect. If they don't like my size, it's their problem, not mine. Too bad they aren't open minded enough to see past something as ridiculous as my size."
Another thing, acknowledge the truth in their observation, either to them or in your own mind. "Yes, compared to some other people I'm heavier, but so what? Why do you feel the need to point that out about me?"
You'll get better at this when you realize that you are exactly ok as you are. You are human, full of imperfection just like every other single human out there. Their negative comments, especially if repeated about you, though, can point to where your own behavior puts off the people around you and makes you uncomfortable to be around. If you don't like that type of reaction, then alter your behavior. If you don't care, then don't alter your behavior, but don't expect everybody across the board to treat you differently.
2007-07-06 11:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by Happy Little Moron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By separating yourself from the negativity and surrounding yourself with positive and healthy influences. Why should you let someone's rude comments rule over your life, and fall into the trap of their comments becoming manifested in your life. I truly believe that Words carry power..get enpowered by people who believe in your gifts, and abilities. Speak beautiful words over your future. Get away from the negativity. People are like crabs in a bucket..no crab wants the other to beat them to the top! Please don't let anyone pull you down..You're better than that!
2007-07-06 13:12:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because people will only tell you negative comments if they think you need to hear them...
So basically they're jealous, they can't see anything wrong with you so they pick on negative little things to make themselves feel better. They can't really see anything really wrong with you so the smallest thing they'll pick on.
They all need to get a life (I'm being honest, not jealous of them!) And get some people skills!
Just ignore them and think of why they're saying it.
2007-07-06 10:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop being one who needs negative comments made about them or stop listening and do your thing.
2007-07-06 10:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by Legend L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if its not true then just ignore them the people who make negative comments have no life or just plain *** haters
2007-07-07 11:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard. Staying away is the best policy. You know the statement, "If a lie is repeated enough times it becomes the truth?" We're all vulnerable to suggestion. If you can't stay away, talk to other people for a reality check. Or you can just tell the person, "Thanks for sharing your OPINION. But no thanks." Or you can say "opinions are like *******, everyone's got one and they all stink."
But seriously, no one really knows so don't take what they say too seriously. They're not talking to God to get their information. They're just people telling you what they think. A lot of times they tell you stuff they'd really like to tell their mom if they ever got the nerve and it doesn't really even apply to you.
2007-07-06 10:52:18 · answer #7 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 01:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by sutliff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have thick skin and know that if what the people are saying isn't true you can let it roll off your back and move on in life.. Also, it's a good help to have God in your life to help you get over some of those things....
2007-07-07 04:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by Alisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend like that.
i believed her at first and it messed with my self-esteem.
then i started therapy and realized that she is like that. a controlling, manipulative little witch. she always saw what i was doing WRONG and rarely right (only to win me over if i got mad). she was so phony.
listen to your heart. you are your own biggest, and most important critic.
show those negative people you are in control. when u start believing them, they control how u view yourself and that just sucks
2007-07-06 11:42:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋