Why do wives in most cases want they husbands to explained every move they make .?

Question

you the husband leaves home for a couple hrs to shoot some pool at your friends house but decided to change the location .should you have to call home?/ or on your way back you happened to run into John at the gas station and chatted for an xtra 30 min .should you call?

Answer 1

Geez, I'd prefer you just leave me alone for awhile so I can get some stuff done around the house!

Answer 2

I think that is all about trust. I do think that if like a location changed you should have communication with your wife, out of respect. There are just things that more important than others like running into a friend would be a thing you talk about when you got home. And it does not mean we are trying to be your mothers, it is respect between wife and husband.

Answer 3

No. Only an incredibly insecure and controlling woman would have a problem with that scenario. My husband has no concept of time; a quirk that while at times frustrating (when we have a function to attend, etc), I accept in him. I have absolutely no reason to think he's "up to no good", so if he says he'll be home by a certain time, I automatically tack on an extra 30 minutes as a buffer zone in my mind. He's out enjoying himself, and besides, I'm not his mother. If you have set plans and you know you're going to be late, give her a call to let her know. Otherwise, you don't owe her an explanation. If I were you, I'd stop answering the phone while I'm out.

Answer 4

i have to answer this. My husband went out with his friends. he told me he would be at his friends home all night. the next day i get a call from my (never got over it ) ex. he tells me my husband was in a strip club flirting w/ a stripper. Now i dont care, he's a grown man. however it made me look stupid, because i didnt know. I also made him look like a cheating a**hole because when they decided to go he either lied or didnt tell me. But if i had known like the other million times my ex called with his 411's i could have just laughed it off. Thats why. Some nosy busybody will one day call and say guess where i saw your other half. If she didnt know she will get pissed.

Answer 5

This question has come up in my household more than once. And I'll tell you why...in most cases, men will hang with their "still bachelor" friends. Not so appeasing to the wife. Bachelors, in our eyes, especially those without girlfriends, we see them as "trouble". We like knowing that our husband is not hanging out strip clubs, or party with a bunch of "bachelor friend's girl friends".
If your friends are married, we may see them, too, as trouble. They may be having problems in their relationship and need a wing man.
I bet she askes, "why do you have to go?" and "why don't they come here and hang out?"
Try included her in one of your outings so she can get a feel of what you do when you do go out. And be sure to let her know you love her, and your glad she's there. Showing the "love" will ease her mind a bit about you going out.
Good luck...and include your wife.

Answer 6

Yes, that has nothing to do with checking up on your, but it's nice to know where your husband is. Mine goes out whenever he wants with his friends and I don't care about it, actually I'm glad he's doing it. but if he tells me he's gonna be home by 1am and he starts doing something else then it's nice for me to know so I don't worry about him. Same thing on my part. It's just respect. Does she ask you to call every five minute, or just to let her know where you are. There's a big difference.
I hope that answers your question.

Answer 7

I don't think most women are like that. I know I'm not. But I'll tell you, when a man is in love, he doesn't MIND communicating to his wife. No, he shouldn't feel like he has to report in every 30 minutes but it's only considerate if his plans change, to let her know. Otherwise, yeah....it kinda looks like you're trying to hide something a little.

Answer 8

My ex-husband never used to let me know where he was going or where he was at. So, when my dad died, I couldn't find him so my co-workers had to drive me home and console me. When I was in a car wreck, I couldn't find him , so once again, my co-workers had to come get me and my neighbors had to pick up my kids from daycare and basketball practice. When I fell and broke my elbow, my co-workers took me to the hospital, waited in the emergency room with me and drove me home. I could go on and on and on...but I think you understand why he is me EX-husband. Oh yea, not to mention all the cheating that he was doing every time I couldn't find him!!!

Answer 9

Personally, I do not require my partner to give be a minute by minute update of his whereabouts, since, luckily, I have a life, a social life and a professional one as well.
Mind you, I trust him as he does me. So far, it has worked for us.
The question here is, are you to be trusted?
Maybe just maybe, you were caught in a lie by your spouse, and since then, you need to be watched and monitored.
If such is not the case, then you must discuss with your spouse the fact that you do not care to be so closely monitored and controlled. You do not do this to her, do you?

Answer 10

My hubby calls now and then and lets me know whats up and all that. But if i need something i just text him and tell him good night or whatever.
But i dont expect him to. I mean if he is going out with his friends then so be it have fun i will see you when you get home.
I trust him so i dont mind him going out and having fun with his friends he deserves it .

Answer 11

i don't think that you should have to talk for an extra 30 mins but you do need to let her know where you are. What if something happens to you? She won't know where to tell the cops where you were or who you were with.