Why are guys SO sensitive?

Question

ya both sexes are sensitive at times...but why are men in particular so sensitive with female comments. (or does it depend on the girl...)I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around guys because they're so delicate and take everything the wrong way. I can't joke or talk sarcastic about other guys, can't tell them I have a life beyond them? Whats with men holding grudges for so long too? I feel they can't take sarcasm without being so hurt...whats with this?

no Mike T is doesn't bother me with what you say..yes some women are very catty, superficial etc..but theres reason for that too.

I do not mean men are senstive about insults

Answer 1

Well i think its because men are intimidated by a woman they like,love or respect. its kinda like they have low self-worth when around one of these ladies mentioned above. Why i don't know because I'm not a man, but i have read about the male and some issues they face when it comes to a female they love or respect. they become putty in our hands. i think that's why that saying is that a woman can get a man to do anything.

Answer 2

Well here is what I think about this statement:

1. You are dating people with not enough to do. I will use an analogy for this: Guy A (the sensitive guy) buys a Ferrari. Guy B takes his money and instead of a Ferrari buys a 4, $30,000 cars. Suppose guy A gets a dent in his Ferrari (an insult from the girl). He is going to be so upset, he invested everything in that car. If Guy B gets a dent in one of his cars he still has other things to do and occupy him.

- I always have made it a rule that if I am the best thing a girl has going for her I wont get into a real commitment.

2. Guys take a lot of flack from their friends when they pick up a girlfriend. When I started dating my current girlfriend (now 2 yrs) my friends gave me tons of BS about it. I never left them, we still hung out, and they werent 100% serious but they still layed it on. The last thing he wants to hear is he is taking BS from his friends for you, then you give him crap.

3. Some guys have low self esteem. Its that simple. Guys can always tell when another guy has his first real girlfriend cause he turns into a *****. Melts like butter. Even guys who have good self esteem can fall apart because they hold the girls opinion so high.

Answer 3

I think it's an upward curve in Asperger's Syndrome. Something in the water, or air w/e, is causing a precipitous drop in empathy. I am VERY sensitive, but I think I try to be very considerate. When I clean up, walk the dogs, make the bed (hey, i'm a guy, that's like asking for directions) take care of kids, buy and arrange flowers and then cook dinner and my mate comes home in a bitchy mood and takes that for granted, says bring my dinner in bed and leave me the eff alone, it hurts me just the same as it would hurt you.
I've always been puzzled as to why ANYone, male or female, is sensitive to their own pains but not that of others. People do things causing actual physical pain to their pets and children (usually has something to do with hairdressing) and have no sympathy for them (it bothers me when little kids cry, especially for silly cosmetic reasons). I'm partly sensitive b/c I was beaten badly and molested (some, mostly my mom's bf's when i was less than 10) and I HATE bullies; but for some reason try as I might I get in one relationship after another where there is no mistake about it, i'm abused and punished for the behavior or other men. I think the "sensitivity" you refer to is actually immaturity, where ppl childishly want all they can get, for as little as they give. My feelings are easily hurt, I'll admit. but I try to not hurt the others around me, and non-verbals (the pets and the kids) love me but inevitably the moms practice cruelty and dismissiveness

Answer 4

Because we can't fight back without looking like an *** or a bully. Special laws of nature apply when a larger, stronger person picks on a smaller, weaker one.

We can't win and we're targeted by female groups because of it.

Some laws of the workplace:
I can be dismissed if i greet a female co-worker in a way that makes her feel uncomfortable. Depending upon her mood is how I'm to address her, but she dosen't wear a mood ring that warns me when she's in a foul mood. If I don't greet her, I'm being discriminatory.

Now I know some of you look at this and say, BS. i just had to fire a subordinate on charges of sexual harrasment for NOT greeting a female co-worker in his usual maner because he had been warned that she was in a foul mood.

No BS, She went right to HR, filed a complaint and I get the memo to prep him for termination. He was here 2 years and never even late.

Answer 5

Sounds to me, from what you just said, that you say hurtful things and expect him not to react.Making jokes, sarcastic or not, regarding other men,is an attempt to knock down his self-esteem.Throwing it in his face, that you have a life beyond him? Sounds like a way to say,"I don't care about your feelings,You are nothing to me"` If he was insensitive, and just moved on, you'd be the one claiming,"I am the Innocent Victim,I did nothing he just left. Just in case, no one ever explained it to you, sarcasm is a mean persons way of saying hurtful things, then recanting by saying it was just a joke..... I would analyse why there is a need to hurt him verbally and correct it.

Answer 6

You can call a man fat and he'll shrug it off. Tell a woman she's fat and she's start crying, or worse.
Most men I know think noting of insults, especially from women. Women, in general seem to be far, far more touchy to me.
Men can be called ugly, told they can't get a date, that they are stupid, etc., and it means little to them...
Whenever I am verbally attacked by a feminist, I consider I must be doing something right. It's a badge of honor to me. I especially get a chuckle out of women telling men what a "real man" is supposed to act, as if they had a clue.


Unless you're talking about teenagers, then both sexes are super-sensitive, insecure and quite possibly insane.

Answer 7

You've GOT to be kidding! Seems like both genders are too sensitive in regard to the other gender. Ever see what happens when a men talks about women in front of women? HIDE!!

How would you feel if I said women are catty, superfical, overly emotional, irrational, and only good for sex.. feeling good?

Answer 8

Some people can dish it out, but they can't take it. Everyone is so different. But sometimes I think guys are more sensitive to insults than women. But then again I see women who are the same way.

Answer 9

It may be the guys you are around at this time. They sound like they are more sensitive than most. However, it may be because of the past experiences they have had with you and/or your social position relative to them. For example, if you don't usually joke around with them, they are more likely to take it more seriously.

The guys I am around aren't sensitive at all and don't take most things too seriously. It sounds like you are hanging out with a bunch of demasculinized men.

The sad thing is that our culture is pushing men to be the way you described and stop being as masculine as previous generations.

Answer 10

When I was young I thought the rough and tumble boys were insensitive. That changed when I gave birth to 3 VERY sensitive little boys. I think there is a possibilty they *may* be more sensitive about social issues than women.