Do women live to manipulate men? And what is the impact?

Question

Seems like women enjoy manipulating men.

Their main tools are: Guilt or playing the "victim", Emotional outbursts, acting detached and acting "dumb" or "innocent" to hide their true motives.

I bring this up because I'm tried of women always claiming to be "victims" of horrible men. I know more men who are victims of horrible women, who may not have been hurt by them physically, but got destroyed emotionally. Also women are the dumpers in 90% of relationships.. so men are the ones getting beat up and hurt. But, yet you don't hear men going around crying about how horrible women are as much as you hear women complaining about men. The only exception would be this forum.. haha

But I think the whole "victim" thing is a form of manipulation. And this need women have to manipulate men I believe is one of the causes of misogyny and other gender related issues.

DISCLAIMER: Nothing I say applies to EVERY women or man on earth! But its true more often than false.

Opinions!

MAHOGANY79:

If its THAT bad maybe you should just stay single... you're WAY too angry babe

Answer 1

You nailed it. (Many) women play "victim" to gain sympathy from men and even the answers above portray this fairly well. From "men do it too" to admitting that they take the upper hand.
With me, I can be manipulated, most everyone can in some way or other but tears and shaming absolutely do not work with me. Anytime I see a woman start with the crocodile tears, or resort to attempting to guilt me into an action (if you loved me you'd....whatever) I'm gone. With me, tell me what you want, why you want it and you'll probably get it. Attempting to manipulate me into something will likely result in talking into the wind I create when I'm leaving.

For instance, one of the arguments for abortion on demand is that poor women cannot support a child while at the same time feminists demand that men step up and support children they also cannot afford.
Along the same line, they like to use the shaming tactic in that women have to bear the burden of pregnancy and childbirth as a reason that men should be denied the same right to abandon an infant as women legally can, for you see, in this and other areas, women play the "victim" card often and well.

and yes, it is accurate much more often than not.

Answer 2

Your young or you'd know that this happens to both sexes. I know of a guy who acts the same way you describe, has all his life and he's 45! Yeah, young women play the "oh I am such a victim" and then they get sympathy. I think today more people both male and female portray their lives as hard. Try taking boiled hot water up a flight of stairs to the only tub in the house for a hot bath because there isn't any running water. Have only two pair of shoes to call your own and a matching shirt and jeans. Today people are coddled and this makes them think that if "someone yells at them." They're abused! Please. Give me a break. But it's not just women babe, it's both sexes.

Answer 3

Being a woman who has done her share of manipulating both of the sexes, I've got to say-I've been manipulated by men just as much. My son has the whole thing nailed. He was raised with me and 3 older sisters. He can spot a manipulation a mile away. Maybe he should teach a class.
By the way- I teach a class teaching women how not to be a victim. It's a total cop-out. We're better than that-right?

Answer 4

Trust me when I tell you that there are plenty of women who want no part of manipulating men. They value honesty and being upfront, and want that in return. As far as the "men don't go around crying, " that is just not true. I'm not sure how old you are, but men are just as likely to cart around emotional "baggage" as women are. You will find that out at some point.Your disclaimer is also not true. You will find manipulation abundant in both sexes, just as you will find good, caring people, and one sex isn't more likely to be that way than the other.

Answer 5

Men are wonderful. I think women are so happy when a man they really like responds and likes them, but they feel abandoned and hurt when the man does not respond as they would wish once the relationship gets going - and they resort to manipulation to try to get the man's attention or love - just as a child with parents - sometimes this works and sometimes not. Actually, a women's manipulation is actually a sign she cares - that she wants your love - if she didn't care, she wouldn't manipulate. Now, sometimes a woman is just in a relationship for money, power, or to go along for the ride - in this case, sometimes things seem to work better for the man - the woman doesn't manipulate emotionally here, as the man in this case is usually busy providing whatever "externals" the woman craves - money, power, etc. and has to work to keep her attention - but he can't really make her care for him -- a woman's abuse is actually a sign she is emotionally invested in the relationship and is afraid of losing it - so the solution is to work with her to try to communicate better and to make the relationship "work" - if that is in fact what you choose to do (she is afraid you don't want to make the effort and will instead dump her to look for someone less demanding, easier . . . and less invested in you). So, find someone who likes you and then work with her on the relationship (ha) . . . well, at least I tried to explain this phenomenon.

Answer 6

You need to meet my dad. this man can play the victim better then anyone. but then there is my mom also a good player. they both act like they are the only 2 people in the world that has been hurt. the only thing they don't tell you is. they BOTH abuse each other. my mom hits and beats my dad. my dad hits and beats my mom.

Then they Both go and tell their friends he/she beat me again oh boo hoo. I am sick and tired of the crap from BOTH of them. so yes a maybe a few women do this but don't count out my dad he's the master.

Again I am SAYING BOTH my Parents do this. I am NOT saying only my dad to be fair they BOTH are Jerks

Answer 7

What are you talking about 'manipulation of men?!'
You make it sound like you and your 3 legged friends are victims.
Men exist with the intention of taking advantage of women if and when they could. Sure some women are Barracuda's but all men are dogs even the faithful ones. Yes, there's such a thing as a faithful dog. I don't understand how you men can do wrong all day long, lie when the truth will do and cry when a woman does it right back to you, bigger and better. I mean c'mon. When sh*t is dealt to you by a woman just remember who taught us how to fling it.......you males.....PALEEZE!
Oh yeah, men do cry in their own stupid, macho ways. Your crying right now! When men start caring about women, then maybe, just maybe we'll start giving a crap about you.
P.S.
That disclaimer don't mean sh*t.
Peace...

Answer 8

As a woman, I have to say at first I was slightly offended by your entry... but after I thought about it, I realized you were right. There are "victim mentalities" in BOTH genders, and enablers who encourage such "learned helplessness".

I think it depends on the people involved.

Nice move on the disclaimer, by the way... that'll save you some typing later! ;)

Have a good weekend.

Answer 9

you know i agree that maybe its a form of manipulation because its easier for men to unconditionally submit to women if they are doing it because of emotional reason. yet at the same time many women are victims at time. many women are beat and treated like crap. not all me do it, but many do. i do agree that there's is manipulation by bothe genders though.

Answer 10

They dont age faster except for maturing earlier hitting puberty earlier than males but as for old age thats just your brain used to it. Girls and guys have the same amount of wrinkles but guys pull it off more so you dont think they look as old.