Should I stay or should i go?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and he has developed a drug problem (speedballs) IO have stood by him watched him ruin his life and he was not working for about 7 mos and i carried all of the bills and my tuition ...I basically paid for everything. I love him very much and there is only so much that I can take. I tried to get him help and at some point it did but he slips every so often. He started a new job thankfully but I am so worried that if I do leave he'll die I am the only person that he has. Does any one know of what I should do ??? Please help

Answer 1

baby girl, this is a good sit down talk you guys need to have.get him help is the best thing you could do. give him the ultimatum, choose his drug or you. this is the only way to make him change his life style. otherwise, it's a spiral downward from here and he'll take you with him. baby girl, for all best intentions that you're giving him, please also think about yourself. you can't baby him forever right? it's time to be boyfriend-girlfriend. instead of mother-son relatonship. it sounds harsh, but i want you to think about what you want from this relationship.

Answer 2

It's obvious that this person is in need of some professional help. I have seen this tactic work. Find a treatment centre in your area and make up the story that you are taking him in to an agency to sign up to receive free money or something. When you both get there and he realize that this is for his own good, he will not only thank you when it's all over, but worship the very ground you walk upon because you will not only have saved him from killing himself but ruining your life as well. I believe only an exceptional woman can overcome and survive times like these with their significant other. What you need to do also is to take some time out for yourself. Remove yourself from the situation when you possibly can just so you don't go crazy. There's no doubt that you have a lot of foundation and love built with this bloke. Continue to talk to him. Through the muddle he will hear and will eventually come to his senses. That's the best you can do really. He needs to now take ownership and start healing and mending his ways on his own. So, I can't tell you to stay and I can't tell you to go because I know this is an extremely difficult situation to be in and to bear. Good luck to you both.

Answer 3

You've already said that you can only take so much. For him, if you leave, it's true that he might die. But, it's equally true that if you stay and he continues this behavior, eventually, he will not only kill himself, but he will financially and emotionally bankrupt you...and kill all that is good between you. In fact, he may have already done that. You must stand up for yourself. You cannot let yourself be dragged down by his addiction. *HE* has to want to get help for any kind of therapy to *be* of any help to him. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Give yourself and him a set amount of time for things to turn around and be firm with it. If by that time things keep up or start up a little bit afterwards... get a fresh start somewhere else. He needs to be responsible for his actions. If he has problems with something that's causing him to do this, he needs to talk about them and start getting them fixed.

Answer 5

He needs to be a big boy and clean up his act. It will be the hardest thing you will do, but you need to leave him to fend for himself. You will be ruining your life if you stay with him.

Answer 6

no one can help him but his self.quit dishin out your money where do you think it going to speed balls too.hes not slipping hes just going back to his old habits . if hes wants help he will get it. and you need to get this is a wake call for you or you would not be askink is question.good luck.

Answer 7

If he goes down the tube he will take you with him, if that's what you want.
As hard as it may be to do, I'd get out of this relationship---quick!
You love him. If he loved you, he'd be clean.