my wife and I are expecting our first child. we bonded with another couple who is also expecting and they introduced us to this lady whom they have reached out to. trouble is, she has been displaying very distubring traits. she says she is very angry with people, that she wants to kill herself and sometimes she gets so angry she thinks she could hurt someone. she just confided in my wife that she killed her pets ( ducks, etc.) with a crowbar when she went through an extreme depressive/angry state as a teen. this lady constantly says she is jealous that my wife and our other friend are pregnant and married. personally i think she is a walking time bomb. we always just figured her to be a bit odd and an outcast but she dropped the bomb about actually killing another living being out of anger.. on us just a couple days ago. we are nervous now because she is on the invite to our baby shower. how do we handle her without setting her off? we don't wish to have any further contact with her.
2007-07-06 09:23:51 · 15 answers · asked by Brandon K 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Tell your couple friends what she told you. Ask if she has a psychiatrist or is on meds; or if they can contact a family member.
If not, call a mental health hotline to ask for advice.
Do not 'break up' with her before the shower - you might set her off. Make sure at least some guys are handy at the shower; there will be enough people there to handle her if there is a problem.
If you think she is stable enough, you can break off with her; but otherwise just stop returning her calls.
2007-07-06 09:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is telling you all this because either she's never done any of it but still just plain crazy and thinks she has or is looking for attention or she has really done these things and it looking for some help. But of course you can't provide her with the help she needs in either situation and you might want to think about telling a mental health professional. She seems like one of those women who would cut open a pregnant woman and steal her baby and pretent it was her own. So I wouldn't keep in contact.
2007-07-06 12:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have to see her tell her your wife has not been feeling well and she'd rather not have anyone around. If she says she is jealous about your wife (and her friend) being pregnant that is not a good sign. She seems like a ticking time bomb ready to go off. Anything sudden just may set her off. Whatever your going to do, do it soon.
That lady is nuts..
May God bless and look after you and your family.
2007-07-06 09:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by MOM of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just slowly stop talking to her associating with her etc. but be careful still, if she realizes you are backing away from her it that may be all she needs to be set off. If she says or does anything that seems threatening in any way I would inform the police, let them know her history and that you fear for you and your familiy's well being. Unfortunately there isn't much they can do until she's has done something. Keep 911 on speed dial and keep your cell with you. She sounds like a total nut case!
2007-07-06 09:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could give you some advice other than to say you need to stay away from this woman. And protect your wife and baby since she has admitted to being jealous of her. You just don't know what else this woman is capable of!!!!
Good Luck.
2007-07-06 09:32:16 · answer #5 · answered by Psalm91 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Texas has a officer at the local sheriffs office that handles this type of stuff, they are called a mental health officer. I would call yor local law enforcement, although they can't do anything if she has not directly threatened you, bt you make them aware of the sitation. Ask if they have a mental health officer, he/she will go talk to the mentally ill person and get them help. If they are a threat to society they can have them instittionalized without there consent... Call law enforcement and talk to them about options. But I would have no more contact with her at all.....
2007-07-06 09:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
for one for your child's safety FIRST, get the hell away from this crazy woman. You need to stay away at all cost. Do not communicate with her at all. You should inform the other couple in case they dont know. Then she should abosulutely not be invited to your shower. Dont except calls, visits, anything. if you do you're asking for trouble. You dont know what she is capable of doing
2007-07-06 09:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by ShesMyAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I would want to stay away from her too! You might want to cancel your baby shower and reschedule it for a later date. It will take alot of work getting a hold of everyone and rescheduling them, but to have her not there would be worth all the work. And hopefully, the rest of your friends will understand. Find a pregnancy reason to postpone. Good Luck!! I hope you can get her out of your lives easily!!
2007-07-06 09:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by serendipity_siren 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She possibly couldnt do any injury on the bathe-with all of the different human beings available. From there on, shop your distance from her. She feels like she'd be risky to anybody she got here in touch with. Be busy, get caller identity-do something you could desire to-to dodge her.
2016-09-29 05:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by pantano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that the information that she gave you was unsettiling and that you would prefer that she not come to the baby shower. Outside of canciling it and rescheduling it without her being invited there is not much that you can do.
Then just be busy all the time!
2007-07-06 09:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by Angelus 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋