He makes comments on my weight I not even really over weight a little chubby maybe. THen he always talks about how good other women look . He just can never say anything good about me, It has gotten to the point of depression. Am I just jelous or What do you think?
2007-07-06 09:14:17 · 29 answers · asked by I love it here! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are not jealous. You are a human being that deserves respect, not demeaning comments about your appearance.
Just because a man is on a diet, doesn't mean he can't look at the menu. However, he does not need to announce what he wants, when he already has a tasty dish in front of him!
It is HIS insecurity being taken out on you.
2007-07-06 09:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by Brownie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you married the wrong man.
The next time he makes a negative comment aimed at a physical attribute, ask him why he married you if he doesn't think you're good enough.
Does he think he's perfect? Or too perfect for you?
It doesn't make you a jealous person to feel bad when someone makes a hurtful remark and compare you with someone else. It's just normal to feel hurt.
Has there been other problems in the relationship?
I may be wrong here...but could be that he's intentionally hurting you so that you would be fed up and leave him so that he won't be the one to leave/break-up with you. There are people who are big cowards when it comes to break-ups/divorce.
If he's never done as you described before and started being mean out of nowhere, there may be something happening here.
If possible, the next time he says something really hurtfuly, don't get angry, just talk to him normal and ask him if he knows what he just said really hurt you.
And if he's the kind of guy who can sit down and discuss serious issues, you should have a talk with him and find out what's really going on.
Otherwise, if he's hopeless, maybe it's time you leave him. You deserve better. Don't let this jerk bring you down. It's not easy being a woman this day and age.
Good luck!
2007-07-06 09:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every woman needs to be treated with respect no matter what the situation might be. He could a least help you lose weight by doing his husband duties in and out of bed. Never let a man take your self of esteem because I've been there and it's not fun at all. If he continue to be disrespectful towards you about your weight and continuing to talk about other women in your present to make you feel bad walk out of that marriage with your head held high and with your pride in tact. He will miss you and everything about you as a woman.
2007-07-06 09:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you should for get him if he's like that has he been that way since you guy got together? any how ma if your just chubby then go start walking and cut your portions and drink a 12oz cup of water before you eat and if you can stop drinking soda's and sweet bread any thing with lots of sugar its OK one time out of the week . I bet that will work you will see I know what you mean ma your prob been with him for ever any how you can play his game too pay attention to your self put some MTV on you'll see alot of them whol-s that will make want to loose more I been there when I just had my baby get a new hair cut get a make over what ever that you think is going to boost you up and you will see how he will change. If not some one else will love you even better.
2007-07-06 09:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be a jerk. It is time that you quit letting him define you. If he won't give you compliments then give them to yourself. He can only take your self confidence away if you let him. So stand up tall and help yourself. If you want to lose the chubbiness then exercises and eat healthy. See life for the wonderful thing it is and SMILE! Enjoy yourself in everyday tasks and your kids if you have any. Quit listening to him. I know that that is hard but it can be done. When he ways something like that just smile at him and laugh. Start noticing other men in front of him. Say, "Wow look at the pecs on that guy" or "I wonder how much he works out?" I'll bet he won't like it. If he gets angry at you just smile and blink your eyes innocently and say "I thought it was okay because you do it." See what happens. Good Luck
2007-07-06 09:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by Praire Crone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, if he's making comments about you, he obviously has a problem with your weight. Which is wrong, if he loves you he'd love you regardless of the weight. Ask him why he feels the need to make comments and when he answers I'm just trying to help you, you tell him you didn't think you needed any help and that you are fine just the way you are. And if he doesn't like it, then there are plenty of guys out there who will.
Never let a man push you down and make you feel like you aren't worthy.
2007-07-06 09:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 02:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by dawber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk. First of all he should love you no matter what. Second of all he should never make you have low confidence or make you question your appearance. Third of all everyone is attracted to other people sometimes but he should never say how good they look in front of you. Fourth of all he is wrong and you are a beautiful person who deserves better!
2007-07-06 09:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you are depressed but it does hurt when the person you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with constantly comments about you. Everyone needs to hear that they look good. It builds self-esteem and makes you feel good. You really need to sit with him and let him know how much his comments hurt. Let him know the pain you are feeling and that you need to hear positive things about you. If you really want to get out of that rut, you can always try and lose the weight you have gained but do it for yourself and not your husband. You want to look good for YOU and no one else. Good Luck!!!
2007-07-06 09:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by !~!~Edward~!~! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to control you. This is how it starts. First he wants to make you think that no other man will want you. This is very very common. It happens all the time. He is insecure and putting you down makes him feel good about himself. He probably does not want you to have friends either and probably does not want you to visit your family. If that has not happened it will. Please don't put up with this. Get a divorce and find a man who is kind and respects you. Do not let him tell you that you are just jealous. He is a hateful prick. It will not get better. Get out!!!
2007-07-06 09:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋