I have a 6 year old daughter and am now 19 weeks pregnant with another child. My husband is not the real father of my 6 year old (well he is her father but not biologically). I had a baby shower 6 years ago. My family wants to throw another shower. My sister in law has a huge problem with me having another. Even though she wasn't at the first one. Do I just make sure she's not invited? My husband and his parents are real excited about the baby, but his sister doesn't seem to be.
2007-07-06 08:24:41 · 20 answers · asked by Becky 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
His sister can shut up.
Anyone, ANYTIME can throw you a baby shower.
It's not like you're throwing it yourself to fish for gifts right?
Any pregnancy and subsequent birth is a cause for celebration...why would this baby not be just as deserving as the last??
ENJOY your pregnancy, and let your family revel in it and celebrate too if they want to...
If your SIL won't get on board and want's to pout in the corner...let her. Don't let her rain on your parade!!
Lol...she's clearly being a big dummy...don't worry about her...don't exclude her..she may come around...but don't let her hamper ANYONE's excitement!
Babies are the best reason ever to celebrate...tell her to get with the program!
Congratulations by the way!!
2007-07-06 08:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some rules about having multiple baby showers. But in your case I'd say shower away. First of all the time between your children are far apart enough that you probably don't have your original baby stuff. Second of all it's a new family and they want to be able to experience this with you. It really doesn't matter what his sister says she's not the one whose having the baby. Maybe she's just jealous because of all the attention you are getting. Oh well.
2007-07-06 09:04:19 · answer #2 · answered by hey culligan man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should mind her own business... every baby deserves a shower... yeah we the parents are the ones who use the gifts... but they are meant for the baby... even if this is your 8th child and it's the 8th girl...there are still gifts to be given. Even if it's just diapers and wipes. Sounds like your sister-in-law has issues.
I did go to a "diaper BBQ" last summer.... it was a couple expecting baby #5... and they had 2 boys & 2 girls... in different seasons each... so they were covered on clothes, blankets and such. Everyone agreed they needed a shower, though they didn't. Someone suggested this diaper/wipes party and it took off!! It was basically a family BBQ, the joke on the invitation was that if you showed up w/out a bag/box of diapers or wipes you would not get a plate of food!!
oh, and invite your sister in law. it's the right thing to do. if she does not show, her loss - if she does show and is rude/disrespectful in any way, have someone pre-picked to show her the door.
2007-07-06 08:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You celebrate each child's birthday, so why not each child's pregnancy and birth? I personally am of the 'every baby deserves a welcome party' group! I don't think there is anything wrong with having a second baby shower, *especially" after a 6 year gap between this one and your first! There are always going to be party-poopers, those who believe you only get a baby shower with your first... but if there is someone who wants to throw you a shower, and if there are people who want to come to your shower, go ahead and go with it! My stepmom threw me a second baby shower, and everyone was excited about it until one of my aunts had a huge fit (even though she wasn't at the first one!) and said it was improper, blah blah blah. She did not come to the party. It was no big loss, as far as I was concerned... who wants a party pooper at the party anyway? I have several friends who want to throw me a shower for my third pregnancy, even! I will only be inviting the people who ask if I'm having a shower or who said they would come if I had one, mostly friends! Enjoy your pregnancy and your baby shower!!!
2007-07-06 10:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly OK to have a shower. Especially since people WANT to throw one for you. Its been 6 years! Surely you need to replenish your stock of baby stuff. BE SURE to send your sister-in-law an invite. I know you said she doesn't think you should have one, but if you leave her off the guest list, that'll be a whole other fight. Besides, you'll be the bigger person by sending out an invitation and she can still do with it as she wills. If she doesn't want to come, then fine, at least she can't say she wasn't even invited. Best of luck and congrats!
2007-07-06 08:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a baby shower with every pregnancy. I don't understand why she should have a problem with you having a baby shower. Maybe she is trying to compete for the attention you are receiving from her family. Just try your best to overlook her. For the ease of your own mind, invite her anyway. She probably won't come even if invited with her behaving so childishly. You definitely want to have a shower because it is the welcoming of the new baby into everyone's lives. With every child you carry, you have a baby shower, it doesn't matter if you have 1 every year! She is just showing her childish side. Maybe she will come to her senses and accept that she is going to have a baby niece/nephew.
2007-07-06 08:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT?? Oh gosh, Have another baby shower, if someone is throwing you a shower yes have one, They are fun. Your sister is obviously having some jealousy issues, Sounds like my sister in law. Dont let her bother you, I konw I tell you this but I can't tell myself this. I have a 4 year old and i just had a baby and my family threw me a shower, my sister in law was jealous cause she didnt get a baby shower. Oh well. It is not wrong to have another baby shower. Its fun, have another shower play some games, have the baby, be happy!!! Congrats on baby!
2007-07-06 08:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jen L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw his sister. That was 6 years ago. I'm sure you need new things by now.
I believe that EVERY baby is a reason to celebrate. Have a wonderful baby shower - and don't invite her. This is your and your hubby's first baby together.
His sister might just be jealous or something?
2007-07-06 09:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had another one. I had a shower with my first born and a shower with my second. If your family wants to give you another shower, then let them! Your baby is definitely a reason to celebrate!!!!!
Invite your sister in law anyways, just to be nice, and if she has a problem with it, then she can just sit her butt at home while everyone else has a great time!
2007-07-06 08:32:35 · answer #9 · answered by E C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her, it has been 6 years! They have come out with so much more stuff in 6 years for babies. Invite her, be nice, but if she starts acting like an idiot about it ignore her. This is your shower and your very special baby. Enjoy your shower and your new baby.
2007-07-06 08:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋