when u love some one n u know previously his cast then why should it arise as an big problem while being commited?can its not possible to make our parent agree4 it?
2007-07-06 06:55:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this caste problem is ver y common now a days .....see if it is abt convincing ur parents ...?? that can be done but if ur guy is confused u have to take a step forward .......and try and expalin him ...or if he's tstill not listening then he wants to have sex with u nuthin else ....u knw physical attraction ..!!
2007-07-06 07:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been in the same situation a while ago, I empathize with u. It's very confusing and hurtful when a guy who says he loves u later tells u that he doesn't love you enough to marry you. It is possible to make his parents, and urs too, agree to it. But both of u have to be strong. It depends on ur family types too.
I know a guy who told his parents that he would marry the lower caste girl he loved or noone. His parents jus said, "Then don't marry. Stay with us and be a good son." Since they didn't want to marry without the parents' approval they waited for 5 years and then, the girl got married to someone else... The guy is still unmarried. His parents were that stubborn and orthodox...
You know ur families best. U guys should be able to decide.
But unless there's complete commitment on both sides the relationship will not last. So, if the guy isn't willing to stand up for u, the relationship is doomed.
Since the guy has known from the beginning that u were from a different caste and that didn't matter while u were lovers, if he suddenly changes his tune, it means only that he's been using you.
I'm not a person who thinks that all guys r out only for one thing, but there are bad ppl in the world and a girl should take care of herself.
One thing you SHOULD NOT DO is elope. Ur parents have taken care of u for so long. Is that the kind of respect u show them? And that too, the guy seems to be trying to use his caste as an excuse to avoid commitment. If u run away with him, who can say how he'll act?
You seem to be quite young. You have the rest of your life before u. Before making any irredeemable decisions, u should be able to stand on your own feet. Have you finished your education? Are you able to support yourself? Is that guy able to support you as well as your parents have, at least? If you can, well and good. If you can't then wait until you can before you try to take control of your life.
If you truly think that this guy is the one you are meant to spend your life with, then I suggest you fight for your future. But think hard first, for this is the one decision that can make or break your whole life. And whatever you do, DO NOT ELOPE!
Whatever decision you take, I hope you live a happy life. Take care!
2007-07-06 17:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by krithi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey common yaar,.This is 21st century and still we belive in caste & all. Shame on us.
look if u both really love each other then there is no problem just convince ur parents tht he is a good boy & loves u alot & u will be happy with him.
coz i belive all tht parents want is tht thier children should be happy but pls never leave ur parents or hurt them coz u wont be happy then even if u get ur love
my saying parents first.
Always remember true love always wins
be positive and try to convice ur parentsif they love u they will understand.
but first convince ur boyfrnd tht if he is afraid due to caste difference
but if not then maybe he doesnot want to marry now,then maybe its not the right time for it know the reason first.
My advice :-- Talk to him clearly and both of u togeather make a decission coz this is matter related to lives of u both
All the best
bye
2007-07-08 04:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are in love but some don't believe in marriage; some have a belief deep in them that they and their partners love is very strong to the point that marriage cannot express this love, love can transcend the very fabric of marriage, marriage is only seen as tradition sometimes, but! some are waiting to allow the moment to be perfect for them and their partners; they want and need to feel balance with their partner; not all but some. Then! again some feel the time is not right, to start; because when they love their partner, they want to focus only on their partner; so they get other things out of the way that might interfere with the joy of them and their partner; once that is cleared; they will be fully focused just on their partner.
2007-07-06 14:06:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kaneka Majii 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Simple answer: He doesn't want to, for watever reason. If he did then nothin wud have mattered, but since he doesn't want 2 marry u so he is usin the cast n family objections as lame excuses.
Whatever happens happens for good.
2007-07-06 14:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by ZZZZZZZZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Caste problem is nothing new.
it seems the boy does not love you and is out for some fun, free of cost.
Avoid those guys who do not have the courage to assert their commitments.
2007-07-06 14:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by sexy grandmother 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
firstly conscider the following.
1- is the guy sutible for youand your family status.this might not bother you now but will bother you inyour later life.
2- secondly how compatible is your family with the other guys family .if it is not compatable then think of some one else.
Remember do not indulge in meaning less relations.
as it will degrade you.
regards
2007-07-06 14:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by Bijeet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask yourself this question: who is more important to you, your parents or him? then you will find your answer. Be wise and dont do something you will regret later.
2007-07-06 14:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by ROYaJANI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means the time is not right.
2007-07-06 14:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Lianne L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family forbids it, either elope or forget about it if he isn't interested in going against his family.
If he doesn't love you enough to marry you, it's time to move on.
2007-07-06 14:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by GeriGeri 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋