Until I find the right person, I guess I should enjoy my singledom.
2007-07-06 06:25:40 · 20 answers · asked by ~ 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Your not missing out. Enjoy it while you can take your time, FIND THE RIGHT ONE
2007-07-06 06:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by steve 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello Charming :
You're exactly correct !
Enjoy your 'singledom'. ( I like that word )
The most important piece of advice I can give you is, " Be patient ! "
The male is usually the 'hunter'. When this 'someone' has YOU in his sights, you hold all the marbles because the female has the option to accept OR decline !
So, before you do any 'accepting' , make sure this guy 'turns your crank' ! You really dig him.
It takes most of a lifetime to totally understand your partner. Your eyes won't see everything about him with just one date.
It takes a lot of talking together too ... and asking questions about each other.
Make sure you've got all your " Ya - Ya's" out and sowed most of your wild oats. Because, marriage usually brings on a cash-strapped life. With the right man, however, it will bring love.
You sound like a good person ... tell yourself that you need a decent guy.
I don't know if you'll like this thought or not, but, you can try ( if you're anxious ) praying for a married life. Something a minister explained to me a long time ago ... God can say, " NO ! " For you, I hope he says, " YES ! ".
At any rate, it really sounds like you're in control to me. ( since you said that you should enjoy your singledom )
Try to get rid of that feeling that you're missing out. There's more positive things in life to focus on.
2007-07-06 14:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Helpme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should enjoy your LIFE until you find the right person. You can go take community classes or adult education classes in something you're particularly interested in (fitness, art, writing, drama, a foreign language, etc.), and will probably meet people you'll like--having similar interests and dreams/goals. If you like playing a particular sport, by all means join a team/league.
Spend time with good quality friends; dump any that are dragging you down. Spend time with the relatives who you enjoy, and round out your life by going to places that you may never be able to go to again (trip, cruise, camping, a really nice vacation).
Don't 'settle' where it comes to the one you want to marry--be truly sure that you have found the 'right' person--one that, ideally, you'll be happy spending the rest of your life with.
2007-07-06 13:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh golly...the princess and the prince. Most little girls dream of getting married and having children...we play house a lot as kids. Its just in us I suppose. For some it carries into our adulthood and for others it doesn't. Unfortunately/fortunately some never live out that dream/fantasy. I was one of those kids that planned on ten children but never thought about the marriage thing! Which is probably why I was 31 when I married for the first time. On the other hand, my aunt was married and divorced young and never remarried. She still to this day wishes she could find the right one...she is 56.
2007-07-06 13:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by PrettyMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its in a womans nature to behave like this. To want what everyone else has got.
So you wont be "left out" Excuse me, but It could be hardwired into your genes.
It *dictates* that you should go along with everything that is "popular" or "in".
Young girls have it, all girls have it.
It might have served a purpose thousands of years ago.
When everyone was living in small communities. And in order to survive you'd pay close attention to those directly around you..
Well, if you like being single dont rush...
BTW. theres also this thing called a biological clock that is whining. Well is it?
If not.. Enjoy your single life for an extended period of time :)
(Children need alot of attention.)
And I dont mean to go about yer bissniss, but its my personal oppinion, as a guy who never had a father, that a child (especially boys) should have a father around.
If you would be willing to do that for me when youre ready..
Make sure theres this man around to teach boys become real Men. Really many dont know the worth of this....
Only men can teach young boys what women can't. Its not anti feminism. Its sort of like a forgotten truth..
Fare well. Bye.
2007-07-06 13:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by jocksnguis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is not what it was and respected. When you get to retirement age couples who may have been together for 40 years are now having to get divorced so they can get their full social security. Christan capitalism, who preach about how marriage and family are what holds us together, is such crap. They have made it impossible for the retirement grandparents have to get divorced to make their bills. Love is between two people who love each other. You can have a relationship with a partner for life with out the marriage. Wait and you will find the right person when they come along. Believe me when you are not looking is when it happens. Enjoy your life and that is when you will meet someone, who may see what a good person you are. And being picky is great!!!
2007-07-06 13:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by hipgram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young. A lot of people believe that marriage "will bring them happiness." You're setting your expectation of marriage WAY too high. It's unsettling at times, it's heartbreaking, it's something you fall in and out of. It's gut wrenching and it's as wonderful at times as it is bad. But it's something that will come if you create a void for it.
If I were you, I'd stop focusing on the "marriage" part and start on the friendship part. Find someone who you are terrific friends with.Someone you can build a life and someone who will be there when it is difficult. Marrying your best friend has all kinds of rewards! Work on the relationship part. Then the marriage and family will come.
2007-07-06 13:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by Reba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can feel left out, it isn't abnormal. Don't use that feeling to jump into a marriage just to be married.
Enjoy finding yourself, having fun, enjoying life and before you know it you will be married.
2007-07-06 13:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by Eq2Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm almost 55 and have never been married, though I have had serious relationships. I adopted 2 great kids. I support us all and can take care of what's necessary. I hear about what men and women do to each other and am just as glad I'm single.
2007-07-06 13:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably feel you're missing out because it's nice to have a partner around for support. But you're right--you should enjoy being single for now.
2007-07-06 13:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by Judy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋