I need help with My Fiance and I.?

Question

I AM CALIYAH AND I HAVE AN FIANCE BY THE NAME ANDREAS, HE IS VERY LOVING TO ME,(MEANING HE GIVES'S ME THE WORLD, BUT WE HAVE AN LOT OF TIMES WHEN WE THROW BAD WORKS AT ONE ANOTHER,WHEN THAT HAPPENS IT HURTS THE BOTH OF US. IT DOES NOT LAST THAT LONG BUT COMES UP OFFTEN. WE KNOW THAT WE WANT TO BE HUSBAND AND WIFE BUT HOW CAN WE STOP THAT PROBLEM. O AND IF THIS WILL HELP WE BEEN TOGETHER 5 YEARS.

Answer 1

u have to much of a combative relationship. u need a new man.

Answer 2

ONLY YOU can control your mouth! There is no magic formula that works except to shut your mouth and keep it shut. Walk away when you feel this coming on. Don't kid yourself..words said in anger are very damaging, sometimes for a lifetime. Words leave bad scars, so stop tearing each other apart everytime you get mad. You may be on a merry go round of make up sex after a bad fight! This is a very bad game to play, for it only gets more violent with each turn of the wheel. Stop it now! If you do not stop this childish "game' (and that is just what it is, a game to get better sex), you will lose each other when the words get so bad that neither of you want to make up. It WILL happen if you do not change your ways...been there, done that, have the scars to prove it!

Answer 3

This is something that you both have to be willing to work on together. Try to stay away from arguing over the small things. You have been together long enough to fell somewhat secure in your relationship so think before you react to things. Marriage takes work, compromise and understanding from both people. You just have to decide not to let the small stuff get to you. Talk about things rather than yelling or arguing about them. A couple of counseling sessions would probably be really helpful to both of you before you get married. I wish you lots of luck and happiness.

Answer 4

Well number one you should start by respecting each other.Profane language is a form of disrespect.If you truly love each other than you will make time to sit and iron out your differences like two mature adults.Act your ages,and not throw temper tantrums like two year olds.Everytime you feel YOURSELF getting ready to slip,stop relax for a second,think of a more civilized or respectful manner to address him.If you don't feed your disagreements with the same vulgarity than he should follow suit.The only person you can control is YOU

Answer 5

The problem stops with you. It takes two people to argue. One of those people has to take the intiative and be the bigger person and ignore it.

The two of you are in love and relationships at times can be stressful and words are thrown out that aren't meant but they hurt just the same. Take time out and sit with your man and discuss the problem. Once he knows in his heart that you will no longer throw nasty words, he'll pick up on it and stop as well.

Answer 6

Does arguing keep your passion in the relationship? If you didn't constantly fight would you become bored?

Makes me wonder how you think your ready to be married to each other. Sometimes you can love someone, but they arent the right person for you. I don't know the whole situation either, just makes me wonder why all the fighting.

Answer 7

you need to stop arguing with each other. Try to pinpoint what things make you want to get mad at each other and talk about them or agree to walk away. Talk to him about it as well. Communication is key in a marriage. I wish you the best of luck!!

Answer 8

We didn't need to know your names, but whatever. Bad works? is that like cursing at one another? If you two can't control your temper (or grow up), then don't even consider getting married.

Answer 9

every couple has problems... go to counseling!