i asked a question about changing the locks on the house so my wife couldn't get in and got blasted. let me give you some background. first off she left and then started coming in and taking stuff while i wasn't there. second she sent a list to my attorney of what she wants, and it's basically everything. third she's a spoiled brat who was raised that way and thinks she deserves everything. i was just protecting myself from her by changing the locks. now she's mad as heck. i told her give me a list of what you want and I'll put that stuff in the garage for you to pick up. she is so angry i won't let her in the house but i had no choice given her actions and what she wants. I don't think I'm being unfair at all given her actions and I don't know why she's mad at me. she knew that she wanted everything and was pissed i didn't let her have everything. things need to be divided equally. I had no choice so now why is she so angry? I'm moving her things for her out to the garage.
2007-07-06 05:23:33 · 9 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you both own the home (are actually on the deed) then you both have a 100% right to possession of the home. You have every right to change the locks, however she can essentially break in without repurcussion. This could obviously create a tenuous situation.
The remedy is for your attorney to file for an emergency hearing giving you temporary exclusive use and possession of the family home and its contents until such time as matter can be decided. This is a common request and these orders are often granted when one person voluntarily vacates the family residence.
2007-07-06 07:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by Daniel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's her house too and you have no legal right to lock her out of her own home. Technically, she is still your spouse and that's the marital home.
Paying thousands of dollars in legal fees to split $1 cups $ 2 dishes is not worth it.
My honest advise is to be painfully generous now and try to be civil and give her the stupid stuff and move on. It's not worth the drama and the peace of mind, besides, with what you save in legal fees by dragging a divorce through the courts for years over a coffee table, you can buy brand new furniture and housewares.
If I was you, I would be more concerned about possible charges of unlawful eviction, she can call the police on you for this and this will surface in court, and in divorce court you have to prove your good will or else, the judged will side with her.
Be smart and a gentleman. As bitter as things may get, show that you are the better person.
Good luck
2007-07-06 05:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, been there done that. Mine would sneak in also, when I was away, etc and take things.
I had door locks changed, and a iron gate put on the entrance leading to my property.
Still she would come down. Finally set up a trap, where when I was gone, had someone watch house, and then when she went to house, a neighbor locked the gate, and called the police.
The police directed the ex to not come down to the home again, since I was living there.
You did absolutely the right thing. During divorce proceedings, people just get in a fight or flight mode. So they are angry most of the time, hormones raging, etc. Be careful and don't set yourself up for false allegations of rape, abuse, etc. Good luck.
2007-07-06 05:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by madcat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you got blasted for your last question. By all means, change the locks, that's what I did with my ex, for he was doing the same thing, taking things etc... Would come into the house while I was having a bath or a shower, after he was served with some papers from the lawyer that day. He never hurt me, but, at times it was very scary, and my children where scared at times as well. Yes change your locks. Take care.
2007-07-06 05:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cindybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not read your first question but be reasonable, don't let her live in a place with no furniture when you could supply a couple of things to her. You would not let her sleep on the floor right, I hope not. Let her have access to her things as soon as possible and don't be a grudge, so what if you have to depart with a few things to help her move on. She is the one after all who moved out of her home and has to start everything from zero. Be a gentlemen.
2007-07-06 05:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you (changing the locks). Don't give in to her bullying.
Good luck!
2007-07-06 05:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!!! Protect yourself and the property until you and your attorney's can properly divide it.
2007-07-06 05:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by dawnb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because she lost control. You did the right thing.
2007-07-06 05:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by Stefka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so tired of women like her. They make us all look bad.
2007-07-06 05:44:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋