Bullied in high school ... will I ever be alright again?

Question

I was always very quiet as a child (still am), and I was bullied in my high school.. which has led to me feeling that something must be wrong with me, even though some have said that nothing is wrong. I'm now a senior in college - will I ever be the way I ws before being bullied? Is there any way I can change?

Answer 1

You will never be the same. You will be compassionate and nurturing because of your experience; you will empathize with others' suffering; and your children will never be allowed to bully others. You will make the world safer for the next generation of children.

And if you haven't already, you will soon realize that the world is a much bigger place than High School or even college, and that you are now a capable adult who can hold your head up high and know that you've overcome your difficulties, and that those who tried to hurt you are no longer worthy of a single passing thought. They have probably grown into sad, depressed, angry, underachieving, parasitic "adults" with stunted mentalities. You are now in control of your own life and those things that happened before no longer have any power over you.

Answer 2

Remember this, you're going to get out of there soon. Until then just ignore oh and if you want to go this way, whoever is the favorite girl, she wanted to kiss you but she has a cold sore inside so you don't think so. A bullying thing. When I was in high school (I know asshole central) many wanted to bully me and it was a public school so it was easy for them. Until I joined a motorcycle gang just for protection. Hell I had to be 21 to get a license.These weren't just stories though, it was very physical. So the first guy or girl (turned out to be both-a couple) to try me were made examples of. My worries were over. I was not exactly a bully, but I was in the position where I could have been in college. Head cheerleader, the football team were like my bodyguards. I saw a girl getting a bucket of water dumped on her and sent them to help her. I took her to my dorm and let her shower and get into dry clothes. That day started a 7 year relationship. Being a bully or whatever isn't as easy as it seems, but I really wasn't.

Answer 3

if you are still focusing your mind on the bullying and the bullies from HS they still have power over you...focus on what you learned about yourself from that experience and move on. You are not your past and you are the only person that gets a say in this life as to who and what you are and what you are worth..we are the lucky ones, we get to breathe in and breathe out and experience this life...so do that...only you get to say who you are and no one can take away your power unless you let them....even if you don't see it, reach inside and define yourself by all you want to be and know yourself to be and start over...you are not your quietness etc. either, those are just your habits, and all habits can be changed... if you want to change them... you have to decide if you get more out of being the victim or if you have the courage to control your destiny to the largest extent. That is the challenge for all of us, no? Decide now whether your life will be an example or a warning to others and make those changes one at a time to coincide with that choice. It's not easy.. but nothing worth while ever is... and just know, the whole world is doing the same dance... you are never alone.

hope this helps!

Answer 4

You are a senior in college you are about to enter the real world high school is so much different than adulthood it might as well be a different life. Believe me life goes on things get better and you learn that the people who hurt you once upon a time mean nothing to youthe people who matter are the here and now your friends and family who you will have around you for the rest of your life.

Answer 5

You say you're quiet. I'm guessing you're an introvert. Some people say it's "shyness." There's nothing wrong with being an introvert. All it means is "I prefer to be alone, I prefer to be quiet." It's just a preference, it's really not a limitation.

I'm an introvert. I possess the ability to be social, I can handle myself just fine at a party, where I don't know anybody, I do fine. I just prefer to be elsewhere. I go to parties pretty often, I socialize all the time. As long as you possess the ability to socialize and you use the ability to socialize, you're doing fine. Then be alone when you want.

Answer 6

It's all about confidence. I was bullied a great deal in primary school, in part because I was quiet, but during my high school I was quite confident, and had a lot more friendships. People want to be around someone who is social, you just have to develope that I would think.

Answer 7

Yes, you have to believe bullies are nothing but punks that prey on people like you and me. I was bullied, called everything under the sun. I turned out fine. If it is really bothering you, talk to someone, let them know how you are feeling, there are so many resources for you. They will win if you give in.

Good Luck.

Answer 8

Read some Nietzsche. Take Martial arts. Learn to assertively defend your boundaries. Never attack but defend yourself with the equal energy by which you are attacked. There is no escape, no rationalization. As a human being, this is our responsibilty, to chew energy, no matter how it comes at us, and to process it in a higher form. Learn to defend yourself, speak up, fight off attacks, then use your compassion to educate. But NEVER mistake cowardice for being rational, for taking the high road.

Answer 9

don't care about what the people who where mean to you before said, you never have to change yourself for someone else's benefit no body can change you from being you or take away that freedom just try to be strong and not let that bother you they where just trying to cover up their own feelings and taking out their anger on you,stay confedent because nothing you did was wrong

Answer 10

Sure you can. Express your experience to a close friend or better to a couselor, psychotherapist. You will learn to accept yourself as you are and leave the past behind for a stronger beginning. You don't have to continue to lead your life as a victim. Own your own destiny, keep your power, be the person you want to be.