do you know anyone in jail..or prison?

Question

my best friend was arrested last month. i hate it i feel terrible for him. i know he messed up but he is a good person...right now he is looking at 2-5 years! im going to stick by his side but i just hope he doesnt get out of prison with that "prison mentality". i just hope he is the same person that i know and love. i have had other friends get out of prison after only doing 8 months and they are completly different! do you know anyone who served a long time and still came out being the same?

um "princess" no im not a "gangster" and just becuase you go to jail doesnt make you a "gangster" you dont know the situation and if you dont have an answer to my question then dont post ****. stupid *****.

Answer 1

A very good friend of mine went to prison and he gets out next month. I went to visit him and I could tell he had turned mean. He also talked about laying down with other inmates. I am worried about him trying to use me as a scapegoat if I hang out with him when he gets out. Or just as bad making a pass at me. I am thinking about writing him off. If he has the same attitude when he gets out he will definetly go back.

Answer 2

I'll never forget when the Zoologist Desmond Morris, comparing human urban behavior and that of animals in zoos, wrote "In an unnatural environment people behave unnaturally." Prison is a lot like an urban environment, but more condensed and distorted. Patterns of behavior are often adopted for the sake of security and survival. Some individual prisons are better than others. Some prison systems are better than others. My best recommendation to your friend is to get an established routine of some kind as soon as possible and stay busy. It may be school, vocational training or just work and recreation. Maybe develop a hobby. The point is to keep oneself occupied with ones own, preferably rewarding, concerns. And read a lot.

Of course, unless your friend goes to solitary confinement, or what they sometimes call segregation, it is impossible to avoid coming into contact with less than good people. Some difficult choices may have to be made. At the same time, there is an old saying that the only people in prison are the unlucky and the stupid. In those two groups, there are some who are still basically good.

"Prison Mentality," behaviors and habits can last for many years after, even for life, depending on various factors. Some things become a kind of conditioned response to certain stimuli. It is, or can be, something akin to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. But with enough time, support, even counselling, a lot of it can be managed and some even reversed.

Your friend may never be the same, but that does not mean always the worse for his experience. Think of it this way: He has been to the Forbidden Kingdom, if you will. He will see and learn things about human nature that many never will. If he uses he knowledge wisely he may do well after his release and difficult re-adjustment to the "free world." If he holds a grudge against the world when he comes home or accepts the idea of failure that the system works to instill, his freedom will be difficult and possibly short-lived.

Best of luck on this, and if you have any further questions you can go to my profile for my email address.

Answer 3

Nope. When they come out there isn't any jobs. But to be on probation you gotta have a job. Probation officer might find something for you like taking care of a Vet with no limbs and a colonstomy bag. Still no job when the probation time gets done. Doesn't take long to get back in jail. Jail's a beetch. You think BET is bad. 2-5 ain't nothing. Try 25 years for 5th DUI (but he should be out after 7, many states giving 3 for 1, some states giving 4 for 1).

Answer 4

I have a friend who is in jail for 45 years. And no I am not gangster either. Stupid people bother me. But anyways,he obviously hasn't gotten out yet nor will he anytime soon. I can tell you though that I stuck by him until he lost it. I am not saying this to discourage you in anyway but prison is alot different from jail. Once he was sentenced and transported to prison he became a different person within months.He started threatening to give my address out if I didn't send him money and he told me he needed me to send him more pictures because he was selling them to other inmates for things he wanted. This was my best friend. He did holidays with my family and had been around for years. He went into survival mode and when I moved I decided I was going to cut off contact with him. I think about him everyday but he changed and is now only looking out for himself. I needed to look out for myself and I know I will never talk to him again.

Answer 5

Sorry to say that no one is the same when they get out. Maybe given time they will come around, but it is a mentally damaging thing to do time. Some times good people get caught up in bad situations, and going to jail only makes them more angry and distressed.

Answer 6

It's really rare that anyone comes out of the joint the same. There's a lot things a person goes thru in there. They can become a better person or a worst person.

Answer 7

YEs. For the most part my friend was the same guy. No doubt, he was a lot more thoughtful and had matured a good bit but it did change him in any bad ways.

Answer 8

yup he can come out of the jail the same way but in jail he has to stick with being yourbest friend!or else he will be ierde and mean when he comes out!

Answer 9

my cousin went to jail 8 times in one year but still did the things he did to get in after he got out. and he's still stupid. =]

Answer 10

No person comes out the same. You don't stay the same, you change as you experience life.