I am married and I have a male friend I've seen via pictures only but only spoken too via my internet group I love him to bits as a friend but he has told me has fallen for me and hopes one day I don't know how to tell him that I love him as a friend only without upsetting our friendship please help thanks xxx
2007-07-06 04:25:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Unfortunately you have to be blunt and to the point, it could get seriously out of control if you start flirting to make him feel better!!
I would also make sure your husband is aware of the way he feels and make it clear that you dont feel the same way (if he doesnt already know)
Good luck!x
2007-07-06 04:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Blush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you have to stop giving him any indication that you may feel differently - so don't say you love him (even as a friend) etc as that could really give him the wrong impression. Presumably, he knows you are married if not, you need to make that clear. You just need to be firm here - you are a married woman and you do not have feelings for him in that way. Unfortunately, if your friend feels he cannot communicate with you any more then fine, I can understand that and you would need to appreciate that too. At the end of the day, this is someone you have "met" over the internet so just be straight with him.
2007-07-06 11:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you only want to be friends
don't say that you love him at all
tell him that you are a married woman and that you love your husband
he might be upset that you don't want to have a fling with him and it might hurt your friendship but seriously what would you rather happen
would you rather ruin your marriage or just an Internet friendship?
i personally would rather ruin a friendship than a marriage
does he know that you are married? He needs to know that you are married. Does your husband know about this? because your husband needs to know abut this
2007-07-06 15:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by j p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find honesty is the best policy.
I have told many of my friends that I love them, but as a friend only or even better I love them like a brother.
Have you suggested to your friend that you are unhappy in your marriage?
If not tell him that you are happily married and not interested in 'a bit on the side'.
Works for me, and I have many male friends who I have explained my situation to.
As long as you are happy that you have not 'led him on' you have nothing to fear. Explain to him that you have not led him on etc etc etc.
Good Luck.
2007-07-06 17:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by Oros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you made it clear to him that you are married? As long as you keep mentioning the fact then hopefully the message should get through. Unfortunately you may risk sacrificing your friendship, but is it a proper friendship if your friend refuses to acknowldge the fact that you are married?
Good luck.
2007-07-06 12:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by beausbreeches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-06 11:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by silverlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're sorry but you just do'nt feel way about him. Tell him you like him as a friend and you hope you'll continue to be. Tell him there's someone out there who will make him very happy, only its not you.
2007-07-06 11:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't understand what is going on with you guys.
you changed your real life for a syber, artificial world.
come on and wake up.
you have your life, your husband which should come to the first place.
no regrets my dear for having a family. tell him you are married and don't make problems out of nothing please.
people have problems, they are sick, do not have what to eat etc and you were to brave to consider the childish situation for a problem.
2007-07-06 11:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by veceras 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know you are married. If not tell him. But if you tell him that you just like him as a friend he wont mind. Just be honest.
2007-07-09 13:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by wildnmad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really awkwerd, But ive been in this place before! You just need to put him down GENTLY.. explain to him why it wouldn't work and apoligise for everything.. but you cant force love! its not your fault and dont feel bad x
2007-07-06 11:32:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋