How do i fall in love with someone?? i was in love with my first boyfriend who i was with for 4 years,he treated me badly then i got with someone who treated me wonderful,bought me presents all the time and was kind.I'm still with that person and now have a 4 year old daughter.Hes so in love with me and i dont feel the same.Everything bugs me about him,ive tried splitting with him but he doesnt go away.Obviously he wants to see his daughter.She loves her dad,but,i feel i have to suffer in silence.I feel as though my daughter is better off without me as i dont wanna take her away from her daddy but,i feel like getting on the next plane to as far as i can get?? I was 18 when i had my daughter,although never change her,just wish i waited.Me and her dad are more like friends and always have been.I dont know where to go or what to do..we are totally different people.please help me.
2007-07-06 03:21:36 · 7 answers · asked by tess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We are not married and have been together 6 years. but,he spoke about marriage and another child.Which is obviously a NO.x
2007-07-06 03:34:43 · update #1
shjolds_442= what would jesus tell me to do?please,tell me.any advice.x
2007-07-06 03:48:27 · update #2
i would also like to point out that we are SO different.His idea of a great night is getting STONED every night.i am anti-drug.he wont give up.And i tried to split from him but he came back all the time banging on the door,scaring our daughter.
2007-07-06 03:55:55 · update #3
What do you think Jesus would tell you to do?
"Keeping the Honey in the Honeymoon", by Dr. Hugh Pyle
"Me? Obey Him?" (Revised Edition), by Elizabeth Rice Handford
"Known Only To God," by Martha Cummins Love
"The Home--Courtship, Marriage and Children," by Dr. John R. Rice
2007-07-06 03:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do have to suffer in silence, since you chose to make a baby with this guy. Why punish either one of them for something YOU chose to do? Since he obviously doesn't want to marry you, the best thing I can tell you to do is to move out, get your own place, but stay near the dad. Yes, the dad will be a part of your life forevermore, but that was your choice. One of you can file for custody, child support, etc. and the other will get her on certain days and pay child support. Whoever can provide a better life all around is the one who should have custody of your daughter.
I'm not trying to be harsh, just giving you a reality check. Like you wanting her daddy to go away. Not going to happen, nor should it being it's his daughter as much as she is yours. Go to a women's shelter. And next time no sex until your wedding night. Good luck.
2007-07-06 03:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay things will just get worse for you. Its better to be honest and say how you really feel. It will be bad to start with but time is a great healer. You can still be friends. I just hope that your'e not one of those women who likes the bad guys!
2007-07-06 03:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy with him then why sud u stay with him.. ?
just because ur not dating him dosent mean ur child wont see her father you could alway try and just be friends with him tel him how you really feel, Im sure once he knows how you really feel he will accept ur feelings that you dont want to be with him but you still want him in your childs life...
hope everyting works out for you
xx
2007-07-06 03:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by poppy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is not a option, esp. u have a daughter. think of ways to improve the relationship. be responsible.
2007-07-06 03:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you are the only one who can answer this question but what i can say is this,the truth although sometimes it hurst is always the best.
2007-07-06 03:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to decide for yourself. Divorce IS an option.
2007-07-06 04:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by WMD 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋