ok, so i'm not pregnant, and with some protection and luck i hope i'm not for at least 4 more years. i've been on birthcontrol for 3 years and we always use a condom, but you know, accidents can still happen. so we (mainly me) have already decided that if that happens i'm going to get an abortion.
i was just wondering if any women out that have had one, what kind of side effects did you have (both emotional and physical)
do you think you made a mistake? did it hurt your relationship (if you were in a serious one)
please no rants about how abortion is a sin.
2007-07-06 03:09:09 · 11 answers · asked by Intelley 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think having an idea of what you want to do before hand is a good approach (although you never really know what you are going to do until you are in the situation). An unplanned pregnancy comes as such a shock though, it is very helpful to know where both you and your partner stand before hand. My boyfriend and I talked about what we would do before hand, and when the accident did happen, it helped.
As far as physical side effects there was of course cramping and bleeding. It was actually quite painful for me although that isn't common. And my appetite/eating habits were on a bit of a roller coaster for a few weeks. None of it was serious though and it all passed fairly quickly.
It was definitely hard emotionally. I don't think I made a mistake though, I know it was the best decision as I was neither emotinally or financially ready for a child. It was definitely a test on the relationship since an abortion is a difficult ordeal, and we both had a hard time dealing with it, but if anything I would actually say it made us closer - having gone through something so difficult and sticking together and being there for each other.
I have heard of relationships being hurt over an abortion though. This of course can partially depend on how strong your relationship is to begin with, but also depends on if one of you is having a hard time dealing with it. If you are don't take it lightly and get help (professionally councelling if needed) - at the very least talk about it with people you trust and are close to.
2007-07-06 10:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by gjs2113 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accidents can happen but you are being responsible and don't ever trust to luck.Always use a condom and make sure that he puts it on before he comes on any where near you. If you are aware of an" accident" it splits-long fingernails or it comes off then consider the morning after pill.If you did get pregnant what are the options1 termination 2 keep baby 3 have baby adopted-your choice no easy solution. problems with abortion-regret,this is very common-often the What if I had the baby Q what would it be like-sometimes the regret is so strong that they immediately choose to get pregnant again.
It can damage a relationship as one partner will feel more strongly about the termination than the other ,even though you think you both agree at present. there is the moral question you will not be able to avoid it- it is in your nature-independent of any religious views. The risk of infection/other complications although small is present and can lead to infertility .Could you accept that risk. you are using condoms .There are more effective means of contraception-have you explored these.pills/injectibles etc. It is good that you are considering all circumstances but the practicalities are different from the theoretical.
2007-07-06 10:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you probably shouldn't have your mind set on abortion if you aren't even pregnant. But anyways I have had one. I think it made my relationship with my boyfriend stronger. We both went through it together. Emotionaly I was crushed. After the procedure I had a panic attack. Just knowing that my baby was down the hall from me freaked me out. I will never get over it, and I will always love my child. However I don't regret it. At the time I believed it was the best decision not for myself but for the child. Abortion isn't easy at all. It's not something that should be taken lightly and it is NOT a form of birth control. Physically I can't say I remember the actual procedure. I was so incredibly sad and focused on my baby that If it was painful I didn't notice. After the procedure they give you some pills to fight infection and tell you to take tylenol for pain. You bleed a lot and there is some cramping. Despite what others may think abortion has less than a 1% chance of causing infertility. It's actually much safer than childbirth. Please don't decide right now to have an abortion. If you do have an unplanned pregnancy think it through, do what's best for the baby.
2007-07-06 11:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good lord! There haven't (at the time of my posting) been any "abortion is a sin" rants and yet there are two people on here bashing pro-lifers. And you're calling them brain dead? Uh, ok.
In any event. I really don't think it's possible to make THE decision until you're in that situation. You sound very responsible, in that you use two forms of birth control. Good for you!! One person's abortion experience will not be the same as another persons. It's impossible to know how you would deal with it, once it's done. I have one friend who really had no problems with her abortion. Another friend of mine struggled immensely with it, and still struggles with it today (almost 20 yrs later).
It CAN hurt a relationship if your partner doesn't agree with your decision. Yes, it's your body, but his child as well. Can you see the irreparable harm that could cause in a relationship? Like I said, should you ever be in that situation, you'll have to weigh everything then. Best of luck to you.
2007-07-06 11:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had one when I was 17 and I have no regrets at all. It was the best thing to do at the time and at that age it would be wrong to bring a child into the world.
Physically I had no side effects what so ever. My period started the very next month as normal. Mentally, I guess I blocked it out. Then one day yeeears later my now partner asked if I had ever had one. I told him and broke down. I guess because I was older and finally understood the huge decision I had made. But still no regrets.
I am definitely pro-choice and I think it's terrible how the pro-lifers preach. You can't have a objectionable opinion until you've been in the situation.
2007-07-06 10:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by Danni 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I guarantee that with this question you will get rants about how abortion is a sin.
As long as you are careful and using two forms of birth control it is VERY unlikely that you will get pregnant. Keep using two methods of birth control and most likely you will not get pregnant until such time as you actually want to.
2007-07-06 11:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you say you're gonna have one, I always did too, until I got pregnant. I was 24 and with the guy for 3 years and we wanted to keep it. I had a miscarraige at 6 weeks. I'm with the same guy and its a year later and I'm 16 weeks pregnant. My point is, you cant really say what you would do when you are pregnant unless you ARE pregnant.
2007-07-06 10:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i had an abortion and the only side effect that i had was cramping really severe. you may or may not bleed after you have one. they will prescribe you pain medicine to take. if you do have to go, you will have to ignore all the protesters that are going to be out there and yelling at you. you are not doing anything wrong.
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2007-07-06 21:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had an abortion and honestly I would never do it again...mentally i had a hard time with it.
2007-07-06 10:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by inmybiz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋