From helping other people. Where do you draw the line?
2007-07-06 02:50:39 · 22 answers · asked by Buddy Hodor 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
yea, we all have are personal lines where we can only take so much and it sucks being "that guy" who helps all his friends with their problems. I mean its great, but it really starts to take a toll on your life, when your friends only call when they need to talk about them or their problems, they never call to see how you are. They never just ask about you. You have your own problems and it just seems that you are to busy taking care of everyone elses and you don't have enough time to worry about your own problems. I have obviously been there. Sadly, you have to put yourself out there and tell them that it is time that they take care of themselves because you have to do the same. If you can't do that then you better find someone to vent to because pretty soon you will start to feel overwhelmed with your problems and everyone elses problems.
So, i guess the answer is you draw the line when you start putting other peoples problems before your own risking your own mental health.
2007-07-06 03:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by Bboitano 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When in a leadership position it is always good to have some distance. Their problems become your problems because we sometimes get too involved. Personal issues are taxing. It is frustrating that the best thing people can do is help themselves. It is also critical not to plunge in over your head. I'm not a psychologist so I don't try to play the part.
Where to draw the line varies with the case. People with character problems, ie they spend too much cash---I don't give money. Tough love is usually the best thing to give. In the military there is the phrase "never reinforce a retreat" meaning never waste good energy on a losing situation. That is where you draw the line. Also look long term. If a problem won't mean much in five years then it isn't a problem.
Sounds like you are a leader or otherwise you would not be asking this. It is always lonely in that position.
2007-07-06 10:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Wild Ape 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im generally a nice person and sometimes I go out of my way to help people but I draw the line at people who take it for granted, cause they obviously dont need you. And I hate being used, so I dont go that far
2007-07-06 09:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and I have no idea where to draw the line.
2007-07-06 10:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by Nellie Angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes i do get tired of helping others, especially when i see i have neglected my own problems or have new ones due to my being busy helping some one else. But if some one is in Major Trouble, then if I can help, mostly it is worth it.
2007-07-06 09:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by MintyLass* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My problem is that I don't draw the line. I have been a "care giver" all my life, and I don't know how to stop.
2007-07-06 09:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some very irresponsible siblings and got tired of being taken advantage of many years ago. The line is drawn at my pocketbook.
2007-07-06 09:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually when they start being dependent or when I get to the point that taking care of their problems keeps me from getting my own stuff done. Or when the stuff they are asking for help on is stupid or something so simple they should be able to do it themselves.
2007-07-06 09:56:56 · answer #8 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only get tired helping people when they don't help themselves. Otherwise for my friends, when the going gets really tough, they can be assured that I'll be there.
2007-07-06 10:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one told me it would take years to draw this line...too bad
2007-07-06 09:57:18 · answer #10 · answered by matilda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋