Someone I know from college has just confessed to fancying me and has asked me out on a number of occasions. I only have eyes for one person and it isn't him. I've held off this college friend but he has just asked me out again. This person I am in love with works away alot as he works for Haven Holidays (It's a bit like Butlins) and doesn't know how I feel about him. I miss this person alot and I've just agreed to go out with this friend from college in order to forget about him. I feel guilty because this friend really likes me and I feel that I'm giving him false hope of us being together. What should I do? Should I come clean to this friend about my true feelings or just leave it and hope for the best?
2007-07-06 02:31:07 · 12 answers · asked by firegirl999 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The reason I haven't told this friend my feelings is because I'm afraid it will jeopardise our friendship. In response to the pink panther, I respect your answer but I think this is more than infatuation beacuse infatuation lasts only 6 months and I've had feelings for him 5 years, I can't stop thinking about him, I get butterflies and my heart races when I see him/think about him and I dream about him all the time.
2007-07-06 02:54:46 · update #1
You are asking the right questions so the only thing left for you the do is to answer them, you strike me as being sharp and smart so you know what to do , whats important for you and your wellbeing be the way to go about.
2007-07-06 02:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by ajal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go out with the guy from college and still have a good time. Just keep things at friendly level. You never know. Sometimes the one you think you don't like as a boyfriend turns out to be the right one for you. There's no point waiting on a guy who doesn't even know you love him. by the way, you have to know someone well to really love them. You are infatuated with him. that's not real. go out and have a real date with a real guy and have a good time.
2007-07-06 02:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you do need to be honest with the new guy. Let him know you still have feeling for another (you don't need to go into detail) But give this guy a chance.
Since you don't have a relationship with the other one and he doesn't even know I think maybe you need to let go and move on.
Who knows things could work out better than you thought
2007-07-06 02:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by glbenner 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not really in love with this friend, you should not go out with him and give him false hope - your heart is elsewhere, after all. You should tell your feelings to the person you are in love with, and see what happens. If he is not interested, then you can go out with other people to forget about him.
2007-07-06 02:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When people open themselves up to having feelings for other, they are also open to the fact that they may get hurt. Break up with the guy you dont love. One day he will see that you dont love him enough and he'll hate you for that. Give yourself time and find a way to be with the one you want.
The one you are with may become the reason why the one you want cant be with you...
2007-07-06 02:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this other lad is away alot then you're bound to have fun with other people and specially if he doesnt know but you need to let him know you like him so you know whether your wasting your time hanging around. At the minute if your holding back jst because you've got eyes for one person only you will be gutted if you find out he doesnt like you and youve been wasting your time hanging around. but the college friend....if you like him, whether its as much as you like this other person then see what happens but if you really dont think you like him then let him go because the longer he's with you the more he will like you good luck xx
2007-07-06 02:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by xXkizXx 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you shouldnt do that..if you know he likes you then you need to come clean. dont play with him! would you like it if you had games played with you? funny thing is you got yourself fixating on this one guy and maybe the one who really likes you would be a potential mate/bf for you..but you are worried about the one you cant have.funny how we humans are..
just tell him! you just wanna be friends..but dont go out on a date with him..its not fair to him, how would you feel if that was done to you?
2007-07-06 02:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by raul d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
treat others hearts with the same tenderness and respect that you want yours to be treated. how would you feel if this guy that you genuinely fancied did this to you because he really fancied someone else.
this sort of behaviour only leads to heartached. respect your friend, and yourself
2007-07-06 02:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come clean or you will end up really hurting him. What your doing is called stringing him along.
2007-07-06 02:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by HeatherzFeatherz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah u tell him about ur reality... he will feel a bit sad but if u will not tell him the truth he will feel more sad.. so its best to tell him the truth... maybe he can be a gud frnd of urs..
2007-07-06 02:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by sangeeta 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋