My boyfriend had previously fallen hard for a girl who treated him extremely badly...very manipulative, conniving, hurtful etc...she has done and said the most horrible things to him they were never in a relationship however have slept together a handful of times and he had stopped having feelings for her long before i came on the scene. However since i have come on the scene she is texting and calling him constantly to which i can only assume is Jealousy on her part. My boyfriend has been up front and honest showing me the texts and informing me of what she says in the phone calls...its definately not a reciprocated feeling on his part. This woman went as far as to ask him for sex and tried for about 20mins to convince him (it didn't)...i find her to be disrespectful to me and our relationship and this girl is in a relationship of her own....so please can anyone advise me how to best handle this situation?
2007-07-06 00:57:05 · 8 answers · asked by layla_tattoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell her current man to tell her to stop doing this. It will screw up her relationsip enought o make her stop doing that to you guys. And hopefully make her realise she shouldnt be doing this to peopel.
2007-07-06 03:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
First, let me start out by saying you don't have the best quality boyfriend, because he can have sex with women he doesn't care for. He uses them as whores.(You said they were never in a relationship but had sex anyway). Guys have sex to have sex. Women have sex because they think the guy loves her. She thought he loved her, but he never did commit.
Second, if the idiot would quit answering her calls, quit texting her back, etc. she'd quit contacting him.
Third, I doubt her contacting him like she is is out of the blue. I'd say he's been doing her again and showing you the text messages just so you'll think he's innocent. Guys can be very conniving and manipulative that way.
Fourth, he sleeps with her, without loving her, and SHE'S the manipulative one? I'd say you need to quit believing everything your boyfriend says. And get checked out for any STD's he may have given you.
Fifth, HE should be telling her off, not YOU. If he's not man enough to do that, why are you even dating him? She's not near as disrespectful to you and your relationship as HE is. You sure you still want this guy? Need I go on?
2007-07-06 01:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think your right on with the jealousy thing. But i also think that the fact that your boyfriend is letting her text him and that he's answering the phone when she calls is out of line. He needs to set her straight not you. Trust me, you can say whatever you want to her, as long as she knows that she can get your guys attention, it won't matter how mad you get. Make your bf handle it once and for all. He shouldn't have a problem with it if he really wants your relationship to work.
2007-07-06 02:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by beaniebaby 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Be assertive. Do one of the following (whichever one you feel would work best):
- Tell you BF to tell her in no uncertain terms that he is with you and is no longer interested, and that he will NOT answer he calls or return her messages.
- Ring her yourself. Tell her what you think of her behaviour, be a ***** if you have to. Make sure she gets the point. Send a text message if you feel more comfortable.
- Tell her boyfriend. Make sure your BF is ok with this first however. If you do tell her BF, she will hopefully be too busy mending her own relationship to worry about ruining hers.
Good luck!
2007-07-06 01:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
know it's hard, but just continue to be your bf's center. (if you know what i mean)
old crush...super jealous, your probably right on track with that
as for you and your man, if he's really sharing the info with you and being upfront and honest , no only about her, but the way he feels too...then there's no prob for you to fix.
just try to hang in there and put up with that petty crap as best as you can...it only leaves you smelling like the best bunch of roses!:)
hope it works out!
2007-07-06 01:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
... 3-some?
Don't pretend you all weren't thinking it.
Get it on with both of them at the same time and be better at it, so you win sex. Show her who's boss and your relationship can only thrive from that point on. Good luck!
2007-07-06 01:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by HObbES 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You said that your boyfriend has shown you the messages that she sent him. If he was going to sleep with her he would have hidden this from you.
Tell him to block her number.
2007-07-06 01:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by Mami 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell her b/f what she is doing and then maybe she will be too busy dealing with other things to bother him again. good luck.
2007-07-06 01:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋