When I am out with my 4 month old son, people say how happy he is and how cute. Then they pinch or rub his chubby cheeks! How do you prevent that from happening? Can you even? I don't want to be rude, but I don't know what those hands were doing right before they are putting them all over my son! Please help if you have a pleasant suggestion on how to make it clear I do not want strangers to touch my son.
2007-07-06 00:52:25 · 13 answers · asked by ErinElissa D 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Do relax, won't you please? The world already has too many people acting neurotically. Those people are only being nice and showing their appreciation for your new born. Where those hands have been? Please! Where have your hands been? Your attitude doesn't predict anything good for the child's future, it only shows over protection as if the child were your property. Someday, in due time, the child will show you it is not so and you'll suffer. Let the child live for Chryssakes! And learn to live too, aren't we all bothers and sisters or has the world really come to this? Sorry, you can give me a hundred thumbs down for my answer but that's what I think and I'm not a liar.
EDIT: Secondly, I'd like to let coreysbaby know I do have a kid and he's and has always been a great kid. So, do not assume just because some people are less neurotic than you and others. Society has gone to the dogs.
2007-07-06 01:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
First, i would like to say to Jorge S that answered this question, that it is quite obvious you dont have any kids, or the maternal instinct that comes with being a MOMMY!!
I have a 2 1/2 year old, whom i obviously am not to worried about exposing to "germs" anymore. I also have a 6 day old baby, whom i do not let people touch. I believe the baby carriers are a good idea, convienent; maybe not so much. It definetley isnt convienent to mess with one of those for a quick trip into the grocery store. I think just asking anyone who looks like they might be about to sneak a touch, that you would prefer if they didnt. Make up some story about a low immune system, so it doesnt look like you are being "overprotective". Another good idea is to carry with you, some of the hand sanitizer, and keep it in a very visible place. If someone doesn't get that, than i am sorry they lack common scence!!
I hope i have been of some help, and Congrats to you. Hopefully, your babyboy stays that happy!!
2007-07-06 03:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by tony-n-skys_mama 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First, I'd like to point out that your son is no longer a newborn. Secondly, I would second the suggestion that you get a sling instead of using a stroller. A simple, "can you please not touch him", will send the stranger on his/her way. There is no reason to be dishonest about it.
I can understand why you wouldn't want strangers touching a baby because of the pinching (why do people do that?), but I also agree with Jorge. Don't get too neurotic about it.
2007-07-06 03:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by TotalRecipeHound 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is really a problem.
You can not predict weather this person will pinch your son or not. And there is no use of being rude after this gentleman has pinched the baby.
One thing - just tell in the beginning that the baby starts crying loudly if touched & then it becomes a big problem for you to console him. So please dont touch him & many many thanks for not touching.
2007-07-06 01:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ramesh M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found that the best way to protect my baby was to wear her in a Baby Bjorn or baby sling. She then becomes an extension of your body, and most strangers will limit themselves to cooing and waving.
I think there are two reasons for this:
1) Most of the baby is covered by the carrier, and
2) The stranger would have to invade YOUR personal space, which is much more uncomfortable.
2007-07-06 02:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by stormsinger1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-07 08:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them that you are really worried about him getting sick and that you even make your family wash their hands before touching him. Every time someone would come over and try to hold my baby when she was born, my grandmother(whenever she was around) would tell them to wash their hands. Trust me people understand, and most won't think you are being rude. He's your baby and it's your job to do what you think is best. Congrats!!
2007-07-06 01:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
my son is 1 now but when he was first born and sometimes even now people want to touch him. the best thing i found was i got a fly screen/sun shelter to go completely over my pram and if he was unsettled and i needed to go to the shops i had a pouch so people couldnt touch him i found this worked well
2007-07-06 01:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by ally oop 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just ask them not to do it. You are his Mommy, you have the right to tell them no.
2007-07-06 01:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Erika 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y do u have to nice?? tell them flat out do not touch my kid
2007-07-06 06:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by lisamarie7901 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋