the sake of our adult daughter. She's in her last year at uni and we don't want anything to get in the way. He's just a fat slob that watches tv all day. Like I said, we have nothing in common.....Divorse?
2007-07-06 00:35:48 · 46 answers · asked by In the same boat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-07-06 00:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
You're bored? Have you tried doing something about your boredom, to spice up your marriage? Marriage is not a boyfriend/girlfriend thing which you can decide anytime that you want out. Don't you have respect for your vows? The Bible says, "let no man separate what God has put together". Maybe your husband is fat cause you haven't kept him in shape. Don't ignore him and an affair is definitely not the answer.
Should your daughter find out what you're up to behind her father's back don't you think she might fail her exams/university just because of the disappointment caused by you? What kind of a mother are you? What kind of a wife are you? and what kind of a human being are you?
"Do to others what you want done unto you". How would you feel if you found out he's cheating on you while you've been a good wife all along?
You say you have nothing in common, why did you get married in the first place?
Sweety, try and work at your marriage and forget about the other person and definitely confess your sins to God. Good luck.
2007-07-06 02:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that UNI as in University of Iowa??
Look, your daughter is an adult there is no reason to stay together because of her at this point. Being bored is not a reason to have an affair....infact, I can't think of ANY reason to have an affair. You have nothing in common because you allowed it to get that way and instead of working on things you went and found someone else. You know you married for better or worse and his being fat and lazy isn't a reason to leave a man. If a man said he was leaving his wife cause she got fat everyone would be calling him a *sshole.
What is funny is all you state here is that "he is a fat slot that watches TV" Very fixable, so in my opinion there is so much more that you failed to tell people here and if not then you really are a shallow b*tch
2007-07-06 00:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Staying for your daughter is an excuse! How would you think your daughter would feel after she's done university and then you divorce? I don't think it would matter either way, whether you divorce now or later. When you divorce after her university is done, don't you think she will realize you have been having an affair all along? She might disrespect you more if you stay because of her and keep this affair going. Best to have some respect for her and your husband and divorce now. She will find out later anyway, that you stayed because of her being in school. Best to get the divorce now!!
2007-07-06 03:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce and soon. My wife and I were staying together for the kids ages 12,10, 7 but then we realized that we were making our kids unhappy by staying together but not being a loving family. Dump the slob but when splitting up assets be sure to split evenly or give more than you receive. Then get out and live the life you have been missing. Your daughter is an adult and she should only want to see you happy.
2007-07-06 00:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 00:26:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither you nor your husband are happy and to top it off, you're having an affair.
Your daughter is an adult, she'll cope with the fact that her parents are divorcing....or, would you rather she found out about your affair?
Which will affect her more, do you think?
Definitely get the divorce...even though you despise your husband, he still deserves another chance at happiness....and by the way, so do you.
2007-07-06 01:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, your husband suffers from depression. What I would do is think about your truth! Always remember that you are a role model to your daughter. And, trust me, she probably knows that the two of you do not have a happy marriage. Not every choice we make in life is the right one, however it is possible to right a wrong. What I mean is, you made a bad choice in a mate, unless of course he is willing to change. Only you know him and what he is capable of.
If I were you, I would think long and hard about number one, being honest, and number two, not being a martyr for the so called sake of your daughter. Good luck.
2007-07-06 01:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Rogue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter would rather have two happy people as parents then one that thinks like you do. Hes a fat slob? Come on get out and find someone you love and let him do the same. You said "adult" daughter that was the key plus I also find it foolish to stay together for the children they feel the distance of an unhappy marriage and you will scar them for that as well. So unless you are happy either get help and if its beyond help be honest and get out.
2007-07-06 00:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, spelling class.
Seriously, I guess if I had a whore for a spouse I'd be a fat slob that watches TV all day. Put your nasty legs together and give the poor man a break and leave. I bet he won't be a fat slob for much longer after you leave.
2007-07-06 01:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
hello ma'am, in a relationship we really don't look at the person based on similarities. Destiny is the right word for your problem, God gave you the people you need not the people you want. Maybe this is just a test for the both of you on how you really love each other, my advice is that just hang on and have faith and trust with each other, remember both of you walk on the isle and promise to God that for "in sickness and in health, for death do us part" reminisce all the best things that both of you have shared. One of it is your lovely daughter. BE strong!!i know not only you who is struggling other married couples also do When time comes you will realize and look back the past, and you are relief having a smile on your face and strongly say "WOW WHAT A LIFE":)GODBLESS...you can do it!! FOr GOD nothing is impossible!!!
2007-07-06 00:56:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋