What is up with all these married men? Want to have affairs then fine but stop whining all the time....I hate my life, I hate my wife, nobody appreciates me, bouhouhouhou....why do men stay stuck if they are so miserable? and pls. don't tell me i am deluding myself, that i want him to myself, coz i don't...I just want to know why they can't just seem to enjoy the affair without depressing the hell out of me...
2007-07-05 23:38:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sweetheart (you don't sound 70) some married men feel that they have to do this sort of thing for two reasons -
1)They hope you'll pander them like children, and
2)They feel guilty for doing the dirty on their wives.
This type of guy is probably a church goer, or half-hearted Christian. They aren't worth the trouble.
There are stable men out there who have swapping arrangements with their wives, and usually they both have several friends, sometimes casual. See if you can find some of them on the swingers lists.
2007-07-05 23:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound more like the wife, if you ask me... An affair should be the spice, that keeps a marriage on the rails, if you catch my drift...There's nothing sordid about it.... I mean where I live prostitution is legalized, and men do have their anonymous relief, from over stimulation by the media, or whatever it is that makes them hornier then Life. A mistress is the shoulder to cry on when :" My wife doesn't understand me." There it should stop, and you and he do the things, he and his wife have stopped doing for whatever reason... I believe your lover has to make a choice.... Does he complain to his wife about you?? I Don't think so.. It looks to me he now needs a boy friend as well, to complain about the women in his life to....Maibe the magic for you is lost.... Perhaps time to end this affair, before he asks you to marry him...
2007-07-06 00:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Alma of Avalon Grailguard 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They whine to assure themselves that their cheating is justified. They want to make their wifes look like they are indeed the very reason why they cheat and then they feel like asking, if you had to live with her wouldnt you cheat? Its the same with any breakup each makes out the other one to be horrific people and new relationships tend to believe them. My ex did this and that and when you are in love with someone who was married the new gf usually thinks my God poor man what hell he went through. Its the norm. Oh one more thing about married men, they will continue to talk down about their wife just about till you say why not leave your horrible life to be with me suddenly their wife becomes a princess that my God how can you with any heart allow them to hurt their wife? What kind of a monster are you. Then there is the little children that this man hasnt given much thought to while is he out with you he could be with them, but suddenly again the little children need their father. But they sure didnt think of them before.
2007-07-05 23:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have learnt that most times when men say no they actually mean yes. Married Men will tell you that they are miserable with their wives and yet they are not ready to end the marriage, You should let him know that his winning which he is propably doing to get your sympathy is all rubbish.
2007-07-05 23:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by black&proud 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you shouldnt be going out with married men in the first place, then your problem would be solved! how would you feel if you were the wife and your husband was going out and sleeping around.
as for why they stay with their wives its probably to keep up apperances or for the kids, either that or they are trying to trick you into thinking that they dont want to stay with their wives so you will stick around for longer so that they can continue to use you
im sure i will get plenty of negative ratings for this
2007-07-05 23:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by caz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth are you carrying on with married men? If you don't like it then get a single guy.
And yeah I know to an extent how it feels. I have friends who tell me all kinds of crap because I don't know their families and friends so they feel I'm neutral ground.
2007-07-05 23:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by Acyla 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you know what?? what your saying is true.. just be careful that he end up leaving her and then you become the whiny wife who's husband is cheating.... have you ever heard a whiny wife?
2007-07-06 00:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well may be coz hes getting moaned at buy not just his wife but you he has alot of stress because he got to make his wife happy and you personal you should find you own man not steel any other woman's man
2007-07-05 23:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sucks to be you! Why do you get involved with married men anyway? Are you afraid of commitment?
2007-07-06 02:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we stay stuck becouse its hell to sell your house and get half that cash to start over,much easyer to sleep in the spare room and day dream of trading in your mother hubbard for a younger,more frisky model.and i hate moving house,t.vs weight a tonne nowadays
2007-07-05 23:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by TONe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋