Or to have these matters discussed in a classroom. Regardless of whether or not you agree with homosexuality it exists..it always has...it is a part of life. Personally I would rather be honest with my kids about what to expect of life, than having them find out a lot of misinformation in a back alley somewhere. I think that children deserve the truth. Anything less and you are creating a fairy tale world for them. After all, most kids even stop believing in Santa at some point.
2007-07-05 22:59:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes, Scorpius, I asked. But what will you say to them when they come home one day with the information. And they will find out about its existence early in life. My point is: wouldn't you rather be the one to tell them what the world is like?
2007-07-05 23:12:07 · update #1
The first answer is also somehow true.
People are just naturally shy about these things. Others have internalized social ideas and oppressive religious ideas which cause them to believe that the human body is bad, and all things related to it are sinful.
Many religions basically teach their followers to despise life, not to complain, and to just try to get through this existence, in hopes of a better, promised afterlife.
This religious 'Heaven fetish' is built upon and exploits people's natural fear of death.
The entire obsession with despising the human body and controlling it have become in-grained parts of our thinking and social attitudes.
As a result, people are ashamed to discuss normal, biological or emotional realities, like the natural occurrence of gay or straight sex urges in developing teenagers.
If you don't give these kids good, accurate info, then they will get it on the 'street'.
i just saw a documentary about British women in the 1940s who thought they could get pregnant from shaking hands with their brothers or father.
Clearly these women would have benefitted from good, structured sex education before menstruation begins (9-11 years old on average).
With boys, sex education needs to be equally informative, since boys often influence girls about birth control, refusing to wear condoms because it 'doesn't feel good'.
2007-07-05 23:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think this might have something to do with the different generations! The older generation (60+) barely talked bout sex, (let alone gay sex) the not so old generation (40 - 60 year old) talked bout sex and most enjoyed a great deal during the 60's,
sex completely changed from that point onwards!
Talking bout gay sex was still pretty taboo in the 80's, so it's catch up time. The latest generation are bought up with more freedom of choice, speech etc etc.
I have been going to the gay bars and clubs for numerous years and over the last 4 maybe 5 years there are much more younger boys and gals who are out and proud!
Also with the new internet/mobile era we are in kids seem to educate themselves and parents are there as a safety net for youngsters. I think your approach in being honest with your kids is correct, and full respect to you for doing so!
All the best
Pav xx
2007-07-05 23:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by Pav Akhtar 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've never understood that either. It's my opinion that honesty is always the best policy with children. Personally, I think our kids will never even think twice about it all. We have a large "adopted" family unit. Friends who're more like family than some of our "real" family. And some of our daughter's uncles are gay, one of her aunts is in a triad relationship, and another of her uncles are bi. I'm hoping that by the time we get to the sex talk we'll have raised her (and any future children) well enough that she'll just assume that gender doesn't matter when it comes to who you love. We'll probably just cover the whole kit and caboodle when we give the "safe sex" talk because really if you don't provide them with accurate information whatever they learn elsewhere might be very very false.
2007-07-06 01:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Parents do discuss this information with their kids. They tell the child when they believe the time is right when they can understand and comprehend.
This isn't the job for schools. When my child was 12, the school discussed anal sex to the children. This is FAR, FAR too young for this information to be given to pre teens.
Why wouldn't you think parents don't discuss sex with their kids? This would be irresponsible of them. Parents do discuss sex, drugs, alcohol, tobacco, and all the other things they will encounter as they grow up.
Are you asking why don’t they teach them that homosexuality is normal and they should try it?
2007-07-06 03:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
My 16 year old daughter told me she liked girls and boys when she was 11 and doesn't feel embarrassed to talk to me (or her father) now. We finally attended the Gay Pride Festivities, which we have missed in the past due to transportation. She's introduced me to her girl friends in the past. I don't care what her preference is; she's doing well and that's what's more important. (Note: when my kids were young I would try to answer any questions they had about many things. Now that they are teenagers, they are more closed about stuff, however they know I'm fairly laid back and takes things in stride, mostly.)
2007-07-05 23:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by Keselyű 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Parents have enough of a hard time talking about sex between two hetero's and then you throw in homosexuality! lol No, serious speaking as a parent, I have discussed lighter points of sex and they are very very aware of lesbians and gays as they have many loved one's around them that are lesbian and gay. It was a conscious decision I made as a teen seeing an older cousin ridiculed by my own aunt that made me seek out why she was so angry and what was so wrong with him...it taught me humility and to never act like that with anyone. My kids will be loved no matter who they chose to love. I already told them they are giving me grandkids no matter what! lol
2007-07-05 23:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by M R 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think it's because so many parents are afriad that thier kids will turn gay/lesbian when they are older or they think that thier kids will grow up too fast. I was never told about the possibility of a girl liking me when I was little so when my friend wrote me a note and told me she loved me, I didn't know how to handle my own feelings about that and ended our friendship. I wish my parents had told me about lesbians/gays before that happened and maybe I'd still have that friend.
2007-07-05 23:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda K 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are so right. My sister has 2 boys & when they were younger I explained that in life sometimes you love a man & sometimes you love a woman. But it's ok whoever you love. Their father for whatever reason did not appreciate that but I didn't care, my kid already knew & kids talk
2007-07-06 06:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by For Da Be Dan- Liza p 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because they are afraid their kids will be gay I guess.
You sound ok so I hope if you start talking about the gay thing and one of your kids happens to say, it's funny you should bring that up because there's something I'd been wanting to talk to you about and they tell you their gay, well I hope you are just as kool then.
2007-07-05 23:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Bleu 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know in my own case, my mother was just misinformed about gays. I obtained a pamphlet from PFLAG at a Gay pride parade, and I bought a book about that topic at Barnes & Noble.....I read them both, and highlighted and made notes and then gave them to her.
2007-07-06 01:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by Duane D 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋