i dont have any friends?

Question

im 17 years old and i dont have any friends at all in fact i have a lot of enemies. nearly everyone in my school hates me and im not being over dramatic cause they tell me they do, one day i went to sit at a table and a girl was there she didnt say anything to me then another girl came to sit down then this kid asked if he could sit with us and she said yea ur at the cool table minus one and looked at me. im nice to people and approach them in a kind way but there turned off by me and literally hate my guts i have like 100 people who have blocked me on aol nearly 65 people who wanna kill me lol, and when i do get friends it seems they are fake. like i go tro the gym every week and i made friends with this kid who seemed like me he was good lookin and had no friends either but he was a cool kid and nothing seemed wrong with him besids bein into fighting and star trek a little too much but anyway he turned his bk on me and the few kids ive talked to in school ended up makin fun of m

me like 3 weeks after i started bein friends with them idk what it is ive also bnever had a gf im prolly just ugly and people nenjoy bein assholes cause i approach girls and tease em and flirt and everything and once they know i like em its over for me =( im so lonely and depressed

im 6'2 about 163 pounds im tone and strong, i have long ear its like down past my ear but not long like a girls to myshoulder or anything lol and im athletic but noone talks to me idk what it is

Answer 1

I'm guessing you are the smelly kid that wears hand-me-downs

Answer 2

Stop picking on girls...1st...
2nd....look at yourself and your ways and ask yourself this question, "If I were someone else, by the way I'm acting, would I want to be my friend?" ( I know, a bit confusing but I think you get the picture..)
High School is a cruel place to be sometimes....
you have to be the bigger person and you have to have some self worth...people gravitate around outgoing, smart, funny,etc people.....try smiling, being friendly,approachabel...
people don't like you because they don't know the real you...show them who you are...I bet people will start to like you once they get to know you.....God made you special so DON'T LET A BUNCH OF IMMATURE TEENAGERS MAKE YOU FEEL INSECURE ABOUT WHO YOU ARE!!!!
There are alot of people in school that feel the same way as you do....even the popular kids feel this way....think about it, those people are popular therefore they have a bunch af fake friends....I would rather be alone than have 2 faced back stabbers as friends....wouldn't you??
Look to God for friendship and trust Him...He's probably protecting you from alot of junk.....Be the person that God made you and if you gain a few friends in the process, Great, and if you don't...don't worry about it..just know that you are just as good a person as they are, maybe even better, so go to school with your head lifted high...you need not be ashamed of who you are....kids can be cruel, that's just part of life...you be the bigger person and forgive those who hurt you ....It won't be like this forever, this I know for sure....don't let it have a negative affect on your life.....I'll be praying for you.

Answer 3

I was the same way in school, you need to stand up for yourself. I am so sorry you are going through this, people can be so cruel. Speak to your guidance counselor, and make sure that no matter how hard it is to keep a smile on your face. I hate to say this but the kids at school finally left me alone when i kicked the girls *** who had been making fun of me. I hope this was of some help and i am so sorry you are going through this it will not last forever.

Answer 4

You are not alone. In your school, there are other students who feel they are on the fringe of things, without friends, unliked, unwanted. I don't why our school leaders are not more aware of these kinds of problems. Is there a counselor? Are your teachers aware of how you feel?

No seventeen year old should feel he has "enemies." Enemies are for wartime, not everyday living. First, stop thinking of these people as enemies. They are enjoying your misery. They are just stupid kids who do not really know you.
Do not respond to them. Just smile, and walk away.

First, I would advise you to talk to a counselor, if your school has one. Secondly, start enjoying yourself. Join a club, maybe even two clubs. Go to the meetings. Get involved. Don't purposely try to force friendships. They will come when you meet people with the same interests you have.

Don't describe yourself as "ugly." Many l7 year olds think they are ugly, and they are always being too harsh on themselves. Learn to like yourself. And stop hitting on girls. Be friendly to them, but stop trying to prove yourself in that way. It isn't necessary.

Try to better yourself in at least one subject, whether it is writing, music, sports or art. If you become a top student in any one area, you will get the attention and praise you crave.

So, now get going with it, and start holding that head high! Get lots of exercise and get that 6 ft. body of yours in shape. You have a great many happy years ahead!

Answer 5

It sounds like you must have said or done something that turned some away from you, and the word might have spread.

These questions you need to mull over to yourself.

First, do you keep yourself clean?
Second, what is your attitude like?
Third, do you have a weight problem?
Fourth, how do you approach others? With a smile, and a friendly word, or a frown, and a "hang dog" look ( this means, looking as if the whole world hates you).
Fifth, You're not going to make friends if you're always complaining about everything.

These are just a few suggestions, you may come up with some of your own.

Answer 6

well i wasnt the popular kid in school either i had my little group but we were not the "IN CROWD" if they dont want to be youre friend then so what there not goodenough to be no matter if youre the wierd kid the fat kid the smelly kid that wears hand me downs(as theone above who is probobly still a bully said) it doesnt matter everyone has feelings right. god has his reasons for or for not placing people in youre life. just focus on school and at times such as lunch time get youre lunch a good book and drown out the negativity of these people and he will send someone youre way bc god knows best. but off the preaching just be youreself and dont change for anyone make them like you for who you are not what they want you to be,graduate get out of high schoola nd make something out of youreself...i was the ugly duckling in school but now ihave tons of friends a husband and 3 children and i never changed a single thing about me i just always believed in myself knew i was beautifull inside and that i was a great person and would be a great asset to the world....good luck sweetie but remember BE YOURESELF

Answer 7

I think someone has undermined you with rumors so everyone else thinks you're bi, or prejudiced, or raped one of the girls, weren't able to perform.....Somebody started a campaign against you. If I were a PI, I'd track it to its source...

Just wait for college. Nobody knows you, Nobody cares about who you were in hs. If you pick a good friendly state school, and stay in the dorm, you won't have any problems friend-wise. You'll start off cool until you prove everyone else that you're not.

Good luck.

Answer 8

The previous answers have been excellent. I would only caution you not to get too deeply involved in any social network. Make friends, but watch out! Things are frequently not what they seem. A few months ago, a teenager killed himself because he got such mean stuff said to him on the site (maybe he let his user name be known to local people, or maybe he said too much on th net, & they figured out who it was). It may be better in the long run that you're alone. Bye.

Answer 9

Next time there is a new kid at school try and make friends with them. If it doesn't work then ask your parents to transfer you to a different school.

Answer 10

Just be yourself . What you think is what you get in life. Don't beat yourself up and think that you do not have friends. Here are some good thoughts to tell yourself. Look in the mirror and say, I am a worthwhile person, people like me and I like them. I do not have control over other people and forgive them for not doing what I want them to.
there are people that are waiting to love me and I welcome them into my life. I am a lovable, worthwhile person and I am unique because there is no one else exactly like me. I love , and say your name, I love me.And everyday expect a miracle. I expect a miracle, I want it , I want it now. I know that I will meet new friends now , that will like me for me.

Answer 11

I feel really bad. But you should just be yourself. Don't let people judge you. Join a club that you would enjoy and maybe you will meet people that will enjoy the same thing?!?!?!