MY BF AND I HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 5 YRS GOING ON 6. I WANTED TIME APART(A BREAK) TO MAKE HIM REALIZE THAT WE BOTH NEEDED TO CHANGE. HE QUIT TELLING ME HE LOVED ME, ACTING WEIRD WHEN HIS FRIENDS WERE AROUND AND NOT ANSWERING MY CALLS. I CRIED FOR A WEEK. THEN WE SPLIT. ITS BEEN THREE WEEKS AND I WENT OUT WITH FRIENDS AND HAD FUN. NOW I REALIZE THAT HE HAS CHANGED SO I WANTED HIM BACK AND NOW HE DOESNT WANT ME BACK. I HAVE BEEN CRYING FOREVER IT SEEMS, BC I KNOW NOW THAT HE IS THE ONE AND HE CAN BE AWESOME. I CANT SEEM TO LIKE NEONE ELSE NOT EVEN A LITTLE. HE SAID HE WANTS TIME APART TO HAVE HIS FUN NOW AND MAYBE EVENTUALLY WE WILL BE TOGETHER IN THE END AND HAVE A LIFE TOGETHER BUT HES NOT SURE. HE SAID TO GIVE HIM A FEW WEEKS BUT I DONT THINK I CAN HANDLE THAT I WANT TO BE WITH HIM NOW. WHAT DO I DO?
2007-07-05 19:04:43 · 23 answers · asked by Sexy E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you give him the break he wants after all he gave you the break you wanted didn't he ? your fun is done with now you don't want him to have his fun is more like what you are trying to say . your a little selfish don't you think . oh and next time be careful for what you ask for as you have learned you just might get it . sorry if i sound mean but maybe it's time for you both to move on .
2007-07-13 18:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only one thing you can do. Exactly what he wants which is to continue on this break - this long, long, long, long break - I wouldn't wait around for him.
If he thinks you might 'eventually be together in then end' then he's probably thinking that might be the day that he's run out of wild oats to sow. Stay home and crochet dishtowels to pass the time if that's the case. You'll have a very quiet life living alone waiting for him to come around.
So, start dating. Impress yourself!
Realize what message he gave you: he wants to date. In a really good mood, you might even be one of those dates - some night when he's having fond memories of you - but that will hardly be a commitment.
You've been together 5 yrs going on 6. That means what? That you've spent a lot of time with this guy. OK. It's not like money in the bank - it's not like your time together was a savings account and now you'd like to get the cash, thank you.
Just don't spend that much time 'being together' with the next guy you're involved with. Have fun, date, really start getting social and getting around and think about what it means to really 'move on'.
2007-07-10 18:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do, and what you SHOULD do is take time for yourself, don't think about looking for someone else at this point, they would only be a rebound anyways, but also don't sit around waiting for this guy to get his head on straight!! Go out and have fun, lots of it!! Long relationships are tough and I'm sure he just wants to have his fun right now. How old are you guys?? If you're young and this is the only substantial relationship either of you has had then he's probably feeling like he really needs a break. Just go out and have a good time girl!!
2007-07-13 11:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, sweetheart, you two have been together for almost six years. If he didn't change during that period, there's no way he changed in three weeks. Maybe the time apart gave you the chance to view him differently, but that doesn't mean he is actually different. Regardless, if he wants space, give it to him. Six years is a long time to be committed to a person, especially if you're young. Relationships can't be forced. I think you should take this time apart to re-examine your relationship. Who knows, maybe in the end you two just weren't meant to be together. And that's OK! You will grow from this. For the time being, just go out and have a good time with friends and/or family. Give him time to miss you. When he's ready, sit down and talk. After six years, he owes you at least that much.
2007-07-06 02:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's that old saying, "if you want to see God laugh, tell him your plans." My point is, for most of us, nothing turns out exactly as planned.
You may have felt a week or two away from one another would be sufficient to restore some luster. And for you, that may be true. Although I think you were just beginning the "missing you around/lonely" stage. But keep in mind that some people do not even begin to feel the sting (either way it goes) too soon. As bad as you feel right now, force yourself to get up, shower and perform your daily tasks. And a least once a day, remind yourself why you asked for the break. That should help you.
2007-07-06 02:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make anyone love you. I know first hand that it hurts and you want the here and now while you are full of life, but it never works out that way. Your heart will lead you and if its where its suppose to be it will be and if its to be elsewhere then it will be. You both just need some time work on you and just let things happen. I still greive. Just like you 5 and half almost six. The fall before our sixth he did the same and called it quits. We have a child and i'm havin a hard time cause i still love him so. But it is what it is and wherever God puts me is where i'll be. much luv!
2007-07-13 00:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by alicxvia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to do - he has been clear that he does not want to be with you, at least for now. And you said that you wanted time apart so what gives? You wanted this, you said.
See this time as a gift to you - examine your life and if things are the way you want them to be. Really look at what made you want to take a break in the first place. This time apart could be great for both of you.
2007-07-11 21:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by banana6464 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. you were going to reject him and he beat you to the punch. Now you are hurt because he is continuing to reject you after six years of being together. Move on- find someone who will make you happy- dont wait for him to sow his seeds- you should have more respect for yourself to do that and if he really wanted to be w/ you he would. him saying that maybe there would be a chance is his way of leading you on . Dont be that girl. be the one who picks herself up off the floor , dusts her knees off, and realizes that the six years were not a waste but a learning tool to use in your future relationships. dont take him back- no matter what- because there will be too much baggage that you both may not be able to get past. but you can see about just being friends- if you still wanted to have him in your life. there are too many men out there to be sitting by the phone for one ..
2007-07-12 19:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by my1k1mi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please listen to me!!!
DO NOT beg him...please don't loose your dignity and your self-esteem. He obviously doesn't want you anymore and there is NOTHING you can do about it. If you bug him, you'll just push him farther away and kill any doubts he might have on whether it was a good decision to brake up with you. At this point you don't like anyone else because you're still not over your BF....but go out have fun concentrate on your school or hobbies ...RELAX..and then analyse the situation. Because if at a certain point YOU wanted time apart from him..it's because your feelings for him have also changed!
2007-07-12 16:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by Bonita 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He is not that into you because he was showing classic signs of taking you for granted. If he comes around fine, consider it. Take back your power. Chose to go on with your life and have fun.
Life is too short to chase after someone who is not showing you the type of respect you deserve. He doesn't need to chase you because you are throwing yourself at him. Stop. Date, go out with friends, find the man who will treat you like the princess you are.
2007-07-13 18:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by sandy_uf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋