Am I the only one who had this happen to?

Question

When I was in a third to 5th grades, I kept having a crush on every single girl that I wanted to date, kiss, whatever. As I started to grow older, I was exposed to some sexual relations with my distant cousins and neighbors who were all boys. At first it was gross, but I quickly got used to it, because it was all "part of the game". When I was about 13, 14, I remember a strong attraction towards men. At 16 I wanted to date one. I started studying sexuality and quickly adopted the label "gay". I dated guys, broke up with them many times, have been in abusive relationships and never got what I needed out of them. Than, at about 21, I started to feel like I didn't want to do anything with guys anymore, but the idea of me being "gay" kept me from discovering my attraction towards girls which I've kinda left at my 5th grade. Now, I'm 24 and I feel grossed out by all the things I ever did with guys, and feel an extremely strong attraction towards women. No one believes me, but I'm not gay!

so I guess the question is, since it happened to me, it's possible that not all men who say they're gay really are gay.

Answer 1

"No one believes me, but I'm not gay!"

I think that says it all.

Answer 2

Is it possible that you are bi?
At some point you were involved with both genders.

"Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.[1] However, some bisexuals are and remain fairly static in their level of attraction throughout their adult life."


When I was in high school the cheer leading squad was coed. Our sophomore year, boys and girls slept with each other. Junior year girls slept with girls and boys slept with boys. Senior year they were all having orgies. By now I'm pretty sure at least some of them have gone on to get married, I guess I'll just have to wait for the next reunion.

So to answer your question;NO, YOU'RE NOT THE ONLY ONE THIS HAS HAPPENED TO.

If you say you're straight I believe you, but in my opinion you should let your future significant relationships know about your past sexual preferences.

Answer 3

You sound like sexuality in your youth left you confused and unable to differentiate between strong attractions and the abusive sexual experiences that you were subjected to. That is NOT unusual among men or women who have been sexually molested. This is one significant reason that sex should be delayed until a person is old enough to deal with the emotional consequences. Sex too early is abuse, and it sounds like that was your experience.

I hope that you can seek out a therapist to help you deal with all this. It's not uncommon, but it can lead to an inordinate amount of pain and adjustment problems.

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Answer 4

oh my gosh! this happened to my friend and he thinks hes like the only one in the whole world who went through that. I think alot of people go through that, its just that no one talks about it. "gay" is finally starting to become a normal part of culture, but more so it seems with girls than guys. Being bisexual can still be pretty taboo especially for guys. i think almost everyone goes through a point like that in their life even if its just when they're confused, but most people don't have the courage to come out and say that they feel gay, but its totally normal to switch feelings like that, you just clearly have the courage to be open about it. And as for people not believing you, well they probably do. It makes alot of people, even if they support 'free love', feel better about their maybe confused feelings or about themselves to call someone else gay when they're not, even if they have been. when you're confused you feel better telling some one else they are. And even if they aren't against homosexuality, bisexuality or "switching" could still be an uncomfortable topic for them and they probably feel better sticking you with a label. don't feel like you have to defend yourself, if they're really someone who cares about you, they'll come around and you shouldn't have to feel like you need to prove yourself. and even those who really don't believe you, so what?! you know that you'r not gay and thats what really matters, and besides (atleast i got the impression) you aren't against lgbt's you're just not one. when they see you getting women, they'll know. but when you seem so eager and over the top about getting women or you seem afraid to have any kind of even strictly just buds relationship with a guy, then it really will seem like you're hiding some false persona. but good luck with all that. I can give you my friends email if you like because its always nice to have some one who's going through the same thing to talk that stuff over with. hope I could help! =)

Answer 5

Those experiences with those guys in your past life are sort of like "experiments and phases"you know?? Its like,its something you thought about and wanted to try...but in the end it was totally different.Sounds to me like you're straight.If you're that disgusted by your actions...I think that you clearly took the label GAY off of you and threw it miles away!!! Good Luck.