I'm having the I'm 25 what do i do with my life crisis, anyone care to give me your opinion?

Question

I'm a 25 year old woman, soon to be 26. I graduated college about 3 years ago, and am currently working in my almost 3 year job. The pay isn't too good, but since I still live with my parents that hasn't really been a big issue. I don't know if I should try to get a better job, cause I'm comfortable where I am, but am concerned with the little money I'm getting there. I am totally afraid of change, and don't know how to deal with the job hunting while i got one. When does one go to interviews?

My other issue is with my bf of 4.5 years. He has said he doesn't want to be tied down with me, that he still has so much to do with his life. He doesn't work yet, and he got into a big fight with his family. So now he has the urge to work and leave. So his 'so much to do' has been cut down to 'get a job and get out', so now he tells me we should rent together, since my parents will probably want me out soon too . He doesn't 'love' me, but says he cares. Do people get together for love anymore?

Answer 1

My advice is to summon up courage first. You need it to tell this guy that it is over. You need it to take the steps to seek another job. Prospective employers should respect the fact that you do not want your present employer to know that you are looking. If they cannot handle that, do you want to work for them. The other side of the job hunt thing is to find something that you LOVE to do, because that usually means that that is what you are meant to do. Courage is also needed to say to mom and dad that you are seeking to move out.
People who truly love you will support you in this effort.

Answer 2

your guy said"he doesn't want to be tied down with me, that he still has so much to do with his life" and only now after he is being kicked out he wants to settle, no way. He is only using you for the time being and he will drain you of any money you do and will have. You don't need a child right now. As far as you, you said you graduated, do you have a degree. If so then you continue your current job and surely you have accumulated some vacation days and you can use them on days you need to go for interviews. You will not get further if you don't put yourself out there. You just have to do it. Good luck with your life. Hope this helps a little.

Answer 3

Sure they do. Probably not as often as they use to, but it still happens. Do not move in with this guy. You said he doesn't love you, and it seems that he just needs your help, which is the wrong reason to move in together. I know that you're afraid of change. Everyone is! But, that's how you grow. Change is inevitable, and instead of letting it get you down, do what's best for you, and it'll work itself out. Once you are out on your own, I'm sure you'll feel much differently. And no relationship should be one-sided. If he doesn't love you, after 4-5 yrs., cut your losses and move on. It'll be hard at first, but you'll see that you deserve better than that. Trust me, a few years from now, you'll look back on all this, and you'll be glad that you decided to change for the better. I really hope this helps!

Answer 4

You are still young and while you have your parents' support, you should adventure out. Try new things, try new jobs and find out what you like to do as a career not just a job. When you move out then you'll be tied to all the financial burden and will not be able to change jobs as freely because you will be worried about paying your rent and your bills.

As for your bf, he may be using you as a "roommate" more than live together as lovers. If he doesn't want to be tied down, then it is time to move on. Don't waste your youth on someone that doesn't love you.

Answer 5

The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step*... Get started*... Do like the clock does, keep moving*... You only get out of life what you put into it*... You need to terminate this relationship with this guy ASAP*....