I'm a lesbian and i'm totally head over heels in love with my colleague.....So i'm actually facing 2 problems, first of all, i don't know whether she's into girls and secondly, how do i hint to her that i like her without saying it to her face?
I can't stop thinking about her .......pls help!!!
2007-07-05 17:27:57 · 13 answers · asked by kittie O 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you don't know her well enough to know her preference then you must be in lust. You need to get to know her better, then you'll know where you stand.
2007-07-05 17:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by justme 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
woah! stop right there. don't go any further. First of all, see if she's into guys or females. And don't look for hidden meanings because I know us women love to look for those. Once we have something in our mind, we only look for clues to confirm our suspicions. but the problem with that is we can be so focused on one thing and not see the big picture of where she's actually talking about a man and it's not a subtle hint that she's really talking about you... get what I'm saying.
so check to see if she likes women first. If she doesn't. don't tell her. What will that accomplish? Absolutely nothing. If she does, then flirt with her a bit. see if she flirts back. Believe it or not, just because 2 women are lesbians, doesn't necessarily mean that they'll be attracted to each other. Try these and hope it helps.
2007-07-05 17:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first make sure you find ourt if she's into girls. Sometimes you can actually "trick" them into becoming that way. Especially if she doesn't have a problem with gays or anything. Maybe you should have a girls night out with her. You might get something out of her. Or play truth or dare. Hehe. I know it's kinda a kid game but it can work. They're no other way.
Now after you find this out you may not have to tell her exactly. She might like you and you just don't know it. So when you do find out, maybe she'll drop hints. And you'll know when she's doing it. Trust me. But if you don't find out she likes you first, you should drop hints. Unfortunately that can only happen if she likes girls. She might shock you so follow you heart. Not your head. Your head adds to much confusion to everything. Good Luck.
+Katryna+ =]]
PS: I know all this because I'm bi. =P Seriously though.
2007-07-12 10:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kittie,
Maybe your just over stressing on this. I have a female co-worker who approached me and told me she was attracted to me and wondered if I might be interested in getting to know each other better. I am a straight female.
I did not take offense or walk away thinking she was sick. Really it was flattering. I told her I was straight and really had no interest in other woman that way, but I would be happy to get to know her better as a friend if she wanted.
You know we hear all the time that we need to be intentional about reaching across racial lines to embrace people who are different then us. We need to do the same sexually also. Just because two people have different sexual directions does not mean that can't be friends.
I've had to tell her a couple times to quit staring at me! but I do that with males so no big deal. We have coffee and talk on the phone now, share about each others love lives and other things, just like I do with any of my straight friends. She also is my best baby sitter.
I also introduced her to her current crush, a clerk at one of the stores I shop at. So none of that would have happened if she hadn't of tried.
If you do ask and she takes offense well then she wasn't worth your time.
good luck
- Inez
2007-07-10 06:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Inez K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well stop because you can be sued. sexual harassment in the workplace is ANY unwelcome sexual overtures in case you havent noticed, those who are full of hate and rage toward us will stop at nothing to see us out the door.
All she has to say is that you look at her funny when no-one is around and your professional life will be in runs before you know it. Even if she said yes it mightr not work out and you would still have conflict Dont do it.
If work takes all your time and you cant do a lot of dating at "normal" times then use a service like lavalife's WOMANLINE. I found my gay boyfriend of 8 years now on the MANLINE.
Unless you can find another job easily look elsewhere for your soulmate and forget this one.
2007-07-10 23:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, find out for sure whether she's into girls or not, then it'll be a little easier for you to confess this to her. I think you should just tell her that you like her, I'm sure she'll be flattered, and if she doesn't like you, then the worst she can do is politely decline and you'll remain friends. But if she gets really rude or offended about it, then she's not a good friend.
2007-07-05 18:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by ☮Witty Sarcasm♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what she thinks about a two girl realationship first and then you'll find out what she thinks. the send her a little card that could give her a little hint about your feelings...good luck
2007-07-12 19:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jst try talk to her about homosexuality and see wat she thinkx of it...if she reacts positively jst take a deap breath and tell her that u are lesbian..if u stll cnt do it in her face txt her or call her or email her and tell her about you...then after you see her reaction then it will be up 2 you to tell her how you feel about her
good luck girl..
2007-07-05 17:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by chokl8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask her if she likes girls. If she does, write her a note saying you like her.
2007-07-05 17:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well write a note or think of somthing. me i would of told her. take a chance! good luck!
2007-07-12 11:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by dustin v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋