my boyfriend and I have been together for alomost 4 years and we just moved in together but through out those 4 years we have fought non stop im talking at least every other day and since we've moved in it's worse. after 4 years should we finally just realize that were not meant to be?
2007-07-05 16:23:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ah... yes!
2007-07-05 16:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by Karen C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read your question again and I think you've answered it yourself. And you would absolutely be correct! I think you need to just come to terms with the fact that you two are not meant to be. It's completely normal for couples to have arguments and disagreements about things from time to time, but not every other day. That's not healthy for either of you. I know 4 years is a long time, but don't let the years you been together KEEP you together. So it took you 4 years to realize it wasn't meant to be, at least you realized it before many more passed. And I know it's probably hard to accept but you guys shouldn't be fighting like this. If your bad times are beginning to outweigh the good, throw in the towel. You deserve to be happy and so does he. The old saying "life is too short". So good luck to you : ) and I hope you make the right choice.
2007-07-05 23:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the same boat I just got out of. I was with my recent ex for almost 17 months and we lived together for 14 of those 17. Between 2 states 2 houses and such. We got back together after she stayed behind to wait for the last lease of the house to get up with me here and after 1 month she stated for the sake of the kids she had to move to be with their father. I have tried for many months to make this work but it's just not the time.....it sucks.... My recommendation is communicate and talk all the time, ask questions of each other and then you'll get your answer if it isn't time, then it's time to make a break, nothings forever and guaranteed. Might as well take it as learning experience and remember life is too short to be miserable and living in a fog!!! Good luck and keep talking.
2007-07-05 23:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by Stymie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt sound like a very pleasant life together. If you really love each other I would suggest relationship counselling, but if things are getting worse, maybe a trial separation to see what feelings you have for each other. Good luck!
2007-07-05 23:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Missy Lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is bad before you move in together...it will get worse...
if it is bad before you get married...after it will get even worse...
IF you TWO want to work this out you have to figure out a new way to "fight"...I'm willing to bet you fight about the same stuff over and over and over again...and that is because there is no resolution to the problem.
you can write a list of what you do or don't like about each other ... and ... write down your questions when the "argument" is about to occur...don't use words...just write.
whatever you do...don't get married if you are fighting like this already.
2007-07-05 23:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by makinitthru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years and no commitment (engagement and marriage). Wasted a lot of time and moving in the wrong direction.
2007-07-05 23:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not meant to be. You should enjoy each other's company and rarely argue and fight. Find a guy you can get along with and let him find another girl and do the same.
2007-07-05 23:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be living together if you are not married. If you don't get along, why stay together. Move out and find someone you are compatible with and marry them, before you move in together.
2007-07-05 23:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is a lot of time to let it go. see if the both of you can get help to fix it
2007-07-05 23:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking this because the fighting makes you unhappy....you cant spend the rest of your life fighting with someone...it doesnt work....your not married and no kids...id get out.....you got your whole life ahead of you...life shouldnt be that stressful and conflicted.....get out Sista....
2007-07-05 23:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer X 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like you both need to give each other space, to see
what the deal is. things change, when you move in together
it just different. place to be in. may you need to take some
time from each other to find out if this really is worth trying
to keep it.
2007-07-05 23:33:07 · answer #11 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋