One of my Co-workers instant message me that he hadnt see me today was it over jokingly and my husband saw it. Now he is thinking I am cheating on him. I told him he was playing but he said that a man would not say that to a married woman. What should I do?
2007-07-05 15:57:59 · 15 answers · asked by shelly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
uh. yeah. a man would say that to a married woman. but the problem is, he shouldn't have. cheating is anything that makes the spouse feel uncomfortable. it's your responsibility to not continue in such a flirtation. (honey, he was flirting with you). i do not allow any man or woman to say anything to me that they could not say in front of my husband. if they can't say it with him standing next to me, they shouldn't be saying it at all.
2007-07-05 16:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your co-worker that while you understand it was a joke you don't feel appropriate (as a married woman) joking in such a manner. Make sure he knows you're not upset and that you are still his friend but that you just don't want anyone to get the wrong idea. Then tell your husband that you apologize for any misunderstanding or any hurt feelings but that you love HIM and have no interest in anyone else. Tell him you see his point, feel he is right, and have asked your co-worker to correct his behavior. That being done there should be nothing left to fight about. Your coworker will see and respect your relationship with your spouse, and your husband will see that you respect not just your relationship with him but also his feelings. The best part about it is that you stop a problem before it gets out of hand AND you prove to hubby that his trust in you is well warranted. Hope that helps!
2007-07-05 16:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by boitchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband might be over reacting to this situation--it sounds fairly innocent to me, but you really should not IM married persons---IM persons and especially married persons, sounds like there is something secret going on, so be safe, and dont do it.
Try to explain to your husband not to become over alarmed and if you need to, have the co-worker talk to your husband to say this was all a joke, but dont do this again!
2007-07-05 16:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by skyward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does your co worker have your cell number ? Your have a good talk with you husband because this thing can get out of control quick
2007-07-05 16:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by wrongedincali 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make that guy apologize to your husband for his bad joke. Take your husband to work and introduce him to the jokester and make him tell your husband the truth.
2007-07-05 16:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to Im Me we will go beat the crud out of that guy together!
2007-07-05 16:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Feeling Lucky? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're telling the truth, you have nothing to worry about. Another question to ask is why your husband doesn't trust you to where he needs to snoop on your phone?
2007-07-05 16:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and why would he joke like that? Are you flirting with this guy or is it the guys nature to joke that way? Assure your husband that nothing is going on.
2007-07-05 16:03:49 · answer #8 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have your husband talk to your co-worker about it, and did u show show him your whole convo?
if he's understanding enough which he should be, he would trust you.
2007-07-05 16:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by blondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess your husband is jealous - lots of "flirting" goes on at the workplace & thru interent - he just needs to grow up.
2007-07-05 16:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by Suzi 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋