A question about marriage and the stages of marriage?

Question

In marraige there are stages you go through the honeymmoon stage where you cant get enough of eacother, The I dont like being married stage, the we have been through a lot stage and also the stage of being true companions and loving one another with out all the high expectations.

My husband and I are at the companion stage and I dont feel all that romantic I love him dearly and would die for him but at this point with all I have been through this year being friends in enough at this point.

My question is have you ever been thorugh these stages of marraige and is it normal for marraige to be common place and ordinary at times? Society emphasizes the romantic part of a realtionship but that does wear off. What is the best way to enjoy the season of marriage that you are in?

Answer 1

Society does emphasize the romantic part of the marriage relationship, just as society emphasizes an excessive divorce rate among married couples.
It's normal for marriage to feel ordinary at times. In fact, I'm in the companion stage of marriage right now. But that doesn't mean having a passionate love affair with my husband!
If you are looking to put that "spark" back in your relationship, try a weekend away (maybe where you two honeymooned?), going through your wedding album, etc. Remembering WHY you fell in love with your husband might be the key . . .

Answer 2

First there is the pre-marriage state. If you like the person, you normally do or say what you think they want to hear; as well as dress and act within those same guidelines.
After the 'I Do's', there is a "honeymoon" state, of being nice while feeling the person out....what are their 'real' likes and dislikes....how far can you go without offending or giving the spouse regrets about who he/she hooked-up with.
Then there is the time spent together going out, taking trips, and perhaps even buying a new home, (all joint agreements, of course).
That's when the babies come, (or in marriages outside of procreation years) the financial struggles start. As well as the control struggles.
Then one or both start looking at what they had prior to marriage, ....freedom of money, pleasures, controller, and a number of other responsibilities and obligations the person never considered, before tieing that marital knot.
If they have children, counseling could be a very good choice. Children need BOTH parent,( with a healthy emotional, stable home life). If there are not children involved, the option is yours, without worry of harming an innocent child......even if the other adult in this scenario acts like a child! Or you could live in regret for 20 or 30 years.

Answer 3

Marriage is what you make it. Romance doesn't have to wear off as you put it. It sure can get more intense and better if you work at it. If you are going through menopause or the beginning stages, that could be your problem. Go to the doctor and have him or her do a hormone count. Don't go with hormone replacement, because that is cancer danger, but there are a lot of natural helps. Maybe you are just bored with the bedroom scene, think up new and exciting ways to be intimate. Sure makes for a better relationship.

Answer 4

Yes, I think you can have stages in marriage and, yes, marriage can have routine in it--but, the stage you are in now might be a little dangerous--you say you dont feel romantic. Dont let your marriage become complacent and no romance---your husband's eyes might wander looking for affection. Talk to your husband, talking and communicating can be very sexy---it sounds like you have a good marriage and you have a good head on your shoulders---find ways (and with help if need be) to put romance back in your marriage.

Answer 5

We never had those stages.

Being friends and companions is part of being married but it shouldn't take the place of the romantic/passionate part.

You may need to work on being lovers....try some long weekends away, or staying at home but not answering the phone or going out for a whole weekend.

The more you work on the romantic part the closer you'll be.

Answer 6

Sometimes, letting go seems like the easiest thing to do. But think about this: you've invested so much of your time and energy into another person; you've made a solemn promise; and you still know there's love, even if it's hiding underneath the surface. This website will show you how to save a marriage and avoid divorce, even if you're the only one trying https://tr.im/CjR6l

Answer 7

We were best friends before we married and never went through these stages either. After 11 years of marriage, we are still best friends and love each other just as we did when we married.

Answer 8

To me, the "durable" diploma is right now figuring out that your marriage (or substantial relationship) will stay to inform the tale the 'next financial ruin' - that's AFTER the teen/s have left domicile and is in college. If there's a relationship nonetheless there, previous elevating toddlers, then this is the "durable" diploma.

Answer 9

Naturally, as humans, we tend to get tire of things, both living and non-living, just like cars, gf, wife, husband, house, toys, tv, hp, colleague, friends etc etc....we all like new things, that is why the marketing of goods and the change of design or technology is critical to entrepreneur doing business.

It is naturally, in relationship, you then to tail off after the honeymoon till you reach lonelymoon. From hugging each other while walking to you walk at the back and he walks in front kind of situation is very common in husband and wife relationship, a point of totally understand each other will cease all fun and romance in it. First is darling, then honey, then hello, then yo!.

To enhance relationship, just like things, you need to be creative and able design different models in your relationship so as to get excited and lookforward to something with a kind of good feeling.

Example, plan trips, exercises, sex enviroment, cooking, outting, gathering function, game, and many other events together, look forward to all this events and you will find you have many things to talk about before and after each events. This enchance your relationship communication with a common goal, it also help both to stay together and focus.

So, rather than doing nothing whereby you look at me and i look at you kind of boring relationship, create some events that will bring harmony and togetherness in your relationship.
Start planing.

Answer 10

I can agree with the honeymoon stage and then directly to I don't like being married stage....

I think thats the stage I'm in right now....i hate being married.