im 18 and live in spokane and getting kicked out for supproting myself and my fiencee in less then 15 dyas. im trying to think of programs to look into like financial aid or housing things but i just dont know how. pluss how do i get around with no car? and still have to do all this ontop of highschool senor yar , fiencee and possible baby on the way, this is insane and i just dont know what to do.i cant join the military because i need to be ther efor taking care of the baby, and my feincee wont let me... im trying to find more employment but its tough and i only make around 400 a month, rent is 450-550 a month here, pluss food 150, and electrical 50-100, and phone 45, and who knows what els. please post any ideas please i need help fast!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-05 15:42:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Personal Finance
Ultimately you have two choices: earn more or spend less.
Some ideas:
* Investigate night school or adult school. You can typically find information about this from your counselor at your high school. You can take classes at night or on weekends to earn your diploma or get a GED, which will allow you to work more hours during the day.
* Your fiancee needs a job.
* Get a two bedroom apartment with another couple as roommates. Even if the rent is almost the same, splitting bills and helping each other with groceries and such is helpful.
* Find somone nice enough to let you live with them.
* Learn to ride the bus system in your city.
* Talk to your fiancee again about the military. If you're married, she'll get a housing allowance whether you're deployed or not. However, you will need to get your diploma before they take you in. (Very rare exceptions.) Explain to her that this will be room, board, and money, and you shouldn't be so quick to rule out something that may be the only viable option.
* Is your fiancee getting kicked out too? If not, don't drag her and the hypothetical baby into this, crash at a friend's house and leave her be at her house until you can get a real job.
2007-07-05 16:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you are in this fix, but welcome to the adult world. If you still have a year of high school left, and are only 18, you are not acting responsibly at all having a fiancee and a possible baby on the way.
That said, you are where you are. Sounds like you might have to work a couple jobs - and so will your girlfriend - to make enough to live on. And lots of people work while they are pregnant, pretty much right up to when the baby arrives, so that's not an excuse not to.
Good luck. I don't have any good answers for you - at this point there probably AREN'T any good answers. At least not unless one or the other sets of parents is willing to let you live with them, and support you for a couple years at least until you're ready to support yourself. If your parents and hers just heard about the baby, realize that they are probably still kind of in shock over all this - once they cool off a little, maybe you can all sit down together and figure out a way to live.
2007-07-05 15:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Judy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with your churches, call social services, etc
You and your fiance need to make some hard choices. The military would be a good idea, think Coast Guard - you would still get an education, and be stationed in the US. While in training - she and the baby could maybe stay with one of your parents. If you are going in the military - perhaps they will see you are trying to be more responsible and be willing to help.
Be sure to acknowledge you all screwed up and that you should have kept your pants on - as should she have.
But until then - both of you need to get to work.
If you have any skill in sales - contact me - maybe I can train you and in addition to your current work, you could try working as an Account Manager for one of my business. It's commission, but has a residual component that could help long term.
2007-07-05 15:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mike Frisbee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you only make around $400 a month how did you think in the first place that you could afford living when your rent is more than that. Think the only thing you can do is actually work full time or two jobs in order to support yourself
2007-07-05 16:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just learned a very hard lesson in economics .
AND welfare (housing / financial aid) is barely enough for a packet of kool-aid and a loaf of bread .
Car ? You will be riding the bus for years . It will be a veryyyyy long time before a car will be in your budget (which requires insurance payments that are high until you turn 25) .
Neither of you has the income to provide for yourselves , let alone provide for a child .
If she truly cares for the child , she will make a plan for adoption and never have sex without birth control again . And you will NEVER again have sex until you have the income to support babies .
If she is selfish and immature and insists on keeping the child (dooming it to a life of poverty and hardship) then your life is also going to be very hard and the child will probably experience lots of hostility as his parents fight over $$$$ they don't have .
Please , It is time to love the child more . . .
Having sex without protection was selfish enough .
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2007-07-05 16:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apply for as many jobs as you can, and hopefully one or two will hire you.
2007-07-05 15:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by PH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world!
This is exactly why children shouldn't be having sex.
2007-07-05 16:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by Gary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋