ok buying a house and talking about "house bills".John informed me he does not want us to have a house phone and if we do he does not to be listed in the phone book he wants a unlisted #.Now he said i could list my name but not his.When i asked him why he gave me plenty of excusses but could not give me a "good" reason.The funny thing is he was listed for 10 yrs with his exwife and could care less(we are getting married and he is STILL listed with her and that bothers me but he could care less about being in there with her)I know for a fact he does not ow anyone money or running from the police so what could it be?
2007-07-05 15:37:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe being listed for 10 years gave him the reason he didn't want to be: disturbing phone calls, telemarketers, etc. Now that he has a chance to change it, he's grabbing that chance. Tell him how being listed with his ex-wife makes you feel however, and ask him to take his name away next year.
2007-07-05 15:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by blue_girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sweetie…I think you’re stressing out too much and that’s ok that you feel like that because it’s just your feelings and no one can change your way of thinking. Furthermore Im sure you have a lot on your mind right now since your getting married and since this is going to be something very New to you but Im going to be honest with you sweetie But honestly nothing is weird about there relationship. I think it’s very thoughtful and sweet of this man to take in your boyfriend at a young age and to bring him up as his son. That takes a lot of kindness and spirit and for him to do that is so Courageous This man looked after him all these years because NO one wanted him as a child And honestly if he didn’t do that Then your boyfriend would have not had a dad growing up and he would have been all alone and maybe ended up on the streets with out a family or anyone to care for him or to love him so I think you should see it as a blessing that Your boyfriend has someone that loves him and cares for him And you should call him whatever you like because it doesn’t change anything No matter what you think your boyfriend will always see him as his Dad…and You should just Be appreciative Good luck sweetie and God Bless
2016-05-19 03:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We listed our phone in my husband's name when we were in our first house. He was called constantly being asked for jobs. When we moved, we put my name in the phone book and it limited the number of calls that we got.
It could be a very simple answer. Don't make it more than it is. If you are getting married in just a few short weeks, you need TRUST or don't get married.
2007-07-05 15:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He obviously can't do anything about already being listed with his ex in an old book. Maybe he just doesn't want to be listed in the phone book so people can't get his number.
2007-07-05 15:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by elijahjaye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My number is unlisted because I do not want family members harrassing me.
but that's just me.
I think you need to tell him to start caring AND to get his name removed from her phone bill. that is NOT okay.
some people just enjoy privacy or maybe he's cheating and would rather not have his girl on the side call you to inform you?
I don't know but something doesn't really sound right....
If you want a home phone- you get a home phone and simply put it under your name.
2007-07-05 15:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmm... well it may be a lot of reasons. Did you saw the divorce papers? If you are gonna be his wife, better ask him to remove his name in the list with her. If he don't want, ask him a good reason, a very good one because you don't accept this from your future husband. Tell him how you feel.
2007-07-05 15:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by jalelw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to always be honest with you about everything or your marriage won't work. Don't nag him about the phone subject, but when the situation presents itself again, tell him you need to know the truth. I'm a digger & when someone is trying to hand me a bag of bologna, I know it even before the bag is handed to me.
2007-07-05 15:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he really officially divorced? Sorry first question that came to mind especially if still listed with so called ex.
2007-07-05 15:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Pengy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't think of why he'd do that. Is he still trying to hang on to his last marriage? That would worry me that he still has his name on the ex's listing. Doesn't look right. I'd pin him down on this because it seems to be weird.
2007-07-05 15:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by Snowflake 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is still married to the ex?Or is wanting people to believe they are still together, many reasons, but tell him he either gets his name off her phone number and you 2 have one together or marry someone else.See where THAT leads.Something is not right about all this.
2007-07-05 15:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋