I know it's wrong, but recently I came in contact with his wife. I'm dying to tell her. Is it wrong to stir up trouble? I want her to know what kind of man she is married to.
2007-07-05 15:32:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know what I did was wrong, but I was 19. He was 25 and married with 2 children.
2007-07-05 15:39:26 · update #1
Tiare ~ This fling was before I got married and had any of my children. I have NEVER cheated in my husband.
2007-07-05 15:40:39 · update #2
A few years ago I did the same thing. I wanted to tell his wife but chose not to. I didn't because it was not my problem to tell his wife what kind of man she had, she would find out anyway. You don't need to be the bearer of bad news and why stir up problems for yourself. Let it go, he will get his eventually.
2007-07-05 15:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong to stir up trouble for his wife. Sometimes the wife knows about her husband's infidelity even if everyone thinks she doesn't have a clue. My guess is that she knew years ago about your fling. Leave it alone. If you're married and happy, why do you care?
And, by the way, just because you weren't married at the time doesn't mean that you didn't do anything wrong. You were involved with a man who was committing adultery. That's just as bad.
2007-07-05 22:51:16 · answer #2 · answered by ncgirl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it will make you feel better it might help you, but why start it now if it happened a long time ago. Your guilt was the only one that's telling you what you have done. Try to leave it alone, you can't go back to fix it,it already happen.
One day that man will be punish by god for what he did behind his wife's back, just let the courses do the job. concentrate to what you have now, and you'll see you will be better off not telling...
2007-07-06 02:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to sound harsh, but did you know he was married when you had the fling with him? Then what kind of woman did that make you at the time? I think you should let him make his own karma. You prolly weren't the first or last, and he will be caught eventually, but she might already know, and just deal with it every time, and you might add more hurt to an innocent victim. I'd just move on with my life and not worry about that loser anymore.
2007-07-05 22:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is your motivation?
If its just to stir up trouble for her and her husband - leave it alone. Spite is a bitter dish for everyone who tastes it.
If you really feel sympathy for her, as the spouse that was cheated on, then you still have to consider whether at this point in time (a few years on, by your own description) there is going to be any benefit to HER to find out now.
So look into your own heart for the motivation and do not what you would WANT to, but do the RIGHT thing.
2007-07-05 22:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You knew he was married so what kind of woman does that make you? You also sound very bitter. Maybe the real reason you want to tell her is that you are angry that she is still with him and you're not. She has been hurt enough by your actions even if she knows nothing of you. Leave her alone.
2007-07-05 22:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
YES! It would be very wrong to cause her pain for what YOU and her husband did! It wasnt her fault and if he cheated once he will do it again - she will eventually figure it out... but if you tell her its because you want to get even with him! You would be causing someone that has a cheating husband even more pain! Do you really think that would be the right thing to do???? Yeah.. I think NOT!
2007-07-05 22:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by ronnad1975 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
OMG, you have one baby from a guy you still love, two more from your husband and now an affair!!! your poor children- the question really is what kind of woman are you
2007-07-05 22:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should keep this to yourself. You will only cause him and yourself trouble and heartache. She will figure out what kind of "man" he is and when she does it will be worse on him that this ever could.
2007-07-06 00:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never cheated on your husband, but how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot.
2007-07-06 03:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋