I know there are many men out there who do not take responsibilites seriously but it is also about time women took their responsibilites and realised they are only half of a loving parental unit.
I get fed up with hearing about CSA and how it fails women.
My husband pays £1000 per month for 1 child. He is left with enough money to pay the morgage no more. On top of this he is denied access to his daugther, by the mother not the legal system and has no spare money to fight this.
My husband was left with his daughter when his wife walked out. through the divorce he had to buy his ex wife out of the house. When she decided 4 years later to walk back in an take their daughter away my husband was powerless to do anything as he was merely the father.
my husband was also not entitled to benefits or to calim support from his ex while he had care of his daughter.
This is not a unusual story and feel it's about time fathers had their rights as parents equalised.
2007-07-05 14:09:52 · 5 answers · asked by kris 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
It is a huge ammount you are right. He might make a fair ammount of money, CSA take over 2/3 of his wage so you can decide that. And no his child has no special needs.
I agree men do need to step up to their responsibilites, my husband tries to and is not able to (other then finacially, which is not all that is needed to raise a child)
2007-07-05 14:19:58 · update #1
I'm not suggesting my husband should not pay for his child or that her mother should have no contact, I just feel that it should be a fairer balance, my husband should have as much right to a relationship with his daughter. Which has got to be right for his daughter too.
I'm glad things have worked well in your situation. It is not all that often u hear a happy ending in these siyuations.
2007-07-05 14:34:16 · update #2
JC :- it doesn't all money paid by my husband goes to his ex-wife
2007-07-06 14:02:54 · update #3
Many men are not informed of their legal rights, when the mother walks out a her children's life, Run, not walk back to court to get a court order, changing the custody situation. The court does not care about who took care of the children , She could come back into their lives 5 years later and the court order in place states that she has legal custody of the children. She gets the children, plain and simple.
What is worse she can sue you for back child support as stated in the court order. I do not know the legal system in England but it may be the same. If your custody issue changes go back to court and get a new order to reflect the change. and never (I say Never) go to court without a lawyer.
2007-07-05 14:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some of the money the CSA take goes to paying for the CSA, & to paying off their debts. Fathers should have equal rights to mothers when parents split up.
2007-07-06 19:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by J C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you aren't telling the whole story. That's a HUGE amount of child support for him to be paying. He must be making a fair amount of money and/or have a special needs child. Second, although women need to step up to the plate, so do men.
2007-07-05 21:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i have had custody of both my children,they are out now,1 in college and 1 in the army.
i am a man,lol,my wife had them at first,and was so addicted to drugs,that i stopped paying child support and brought them food,kept the reciepts.
it got so bad i was considering the m word,but they spiraled so out of control,they dropped the kids off one day and never came back.
i raised them and i am poor and happy for it.
she is noe ok and we are best friends,my kid is visiting her as we speak,so never judge a book before it is done is my motto.i love my ex,she had problems,i had problems,but now we are all happy.
i am sure my kids will have issues,but to take away their mom was not an option,everyone has issues and need time to deal with it,i just am thankful i was here for my kids.
and she did try to get money from me(well her addicted idiot boyfrind)but i held fast and did not smear her,and she i a gret person now,as is her husband.
a good lesson to not quit on people.
now my kids have both parents,albeit we are not together,but we get along,and my kids at least know that we both love them.
2007-07-05 21:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by dave 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
its because women are trying to be equal and all the power to them but when you use the government and getting carried away with child support your just a parasite
2007-07-05 21:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋