How do you know if some really and truly.......???

Question

loves you. Do you just trust your instincts or is there more to it than that?

Sorry, should have been "someone" not "some"

Answer 1

Yes, you should always be able to trust your own instinct. I call it that little voice inside you. It is your sixth sense and it is there for a purpose. If you are emotionally wise, your little inner voice should be prompt and accurate…


What I have learned from life regarding love so far (and I use this to identify and perceive):

• On this planet, we are all just a bunch of individuals yearning to be loved unconditionally, and best of all… we are all capable of loving unconditionally.

• Give first and you shall receive, if you don’t receive, the other one cannot give.

• Love is an emotion with a healthy appetite and it feeds on LOVE. And then, in between it snacks on respect, trust, honesty, communication, friendship and forgiveness.

• Passion is just always hungry. It is never content. Passion is not an emotion, it is a fire. It can keep any relationship warm, but it can burn it out as well.

• Real love is never urgent… it is patient. There is no pressure and there is no expiry date. You can forever love someone in secret or in absence, still it can die if it is not taken care of and nourished with the abovementioned ‘diet’.

• Sometimes when you doubt if someone loves you, have a look into your own heart first and investigate your own motives. If your happiness depends on the love in your life, then you don’t truly love.

• You need to love yourself first before you can love anybody else. Same goes with respect, forgiveness, honesty and trust.

• Love is not about quantity, but about quality. Rather have 5 amazing minutes than a whole day taking each other for granted.

• Broken hearts cannot love unconditional.

• Broken hearts are highly contagious, one broken heart can cause another to break as well. Isn’t it suppose to be the other way around?

• To be in love can put you on cloud 9, but if you are on cloud 9, it does not mean that you are loved.

• Love is about the inner beauty that two souls share on the same level and has nothing to do with the physical beauty or the material possessions of each other.

• The language between two bonded hearts is a secret language which is seldom spoken, it is a connection between two souls which needs no words. If that language is not there, that is when your innervoice starts to speak up.


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In a nutshell… okay okay, in 3 COCONUT SHELLS, I know it’s a mouthful. xx

Answer 2

You trust your instincts, of course, but you need to stay in a relationship with your eyes wide open. If kindnesses, gifts, laughter, etc., is shared, that is a wonderful thing, and is representative of reciprocal love. If it is one-sided, that's a strong indicator that it really isn't love at all.

When jealousy and distrust is the rule of thumb, it isn't love, as true love is based on faith in one another and the knowledge that you can always trust your partners ability to make healthy choices.

Hope that helps a little bit and that love is always returned to you with a true and loving spirit! Annie

Answer 3

I do believe that you trust your instincts to a certain extent, but if you are wise, you will look at the persons beliefs, their character, and who they keep company with. Yes, I realize that it may be cynical of me, but to just trust your emotions, you might not like who you have picked in the end. Oh yes, the feelings for one another should be mutual.

Answer 4

Well, I did trust my instincts, but they were 15 years worth of wrong.

Answer 5

If you trust your insticts then they come back to haunt you (experience talking) I think they have to SHOW they love you. The little things, that your on their mind, they've missed you, a simple kiss on the temple, hand holding, a look. There is more to it than just instinct, if they love you they show it!
And if they aren't around to show it, they STILL do, by letters, songs, well wishes - love should know NO boundries when it is true!

Answer 6

It's in their eyes and actions.
Very few can lie with their eyes.
I don't trust words anymore. Actions speak louder.
I look to these two things and use intuition.

However, I would say that I've had someone truly love me and still do me wrong. True love doesn't always mean that person will treat you the way you should be treated.

Answer 7

Its instincts for me, I knew my boyfriend loved me before he actually said he did, its just a feeling and just some of the things he said.

Answer 8

Instincts are just not trustworthy ... we can convince ourselves of anything. What does "love" mean anyway? Isn't it actually a combination of liking, friendship, affection, admiration, respect, consideration, support, protection, encouragement ..... if these have been demonstrated in the other person's behaviour towards you (and towards the people and things YOU care about) AND you detect a certain glow in the genuine warmth of their smile, I think you can feel pretty assured.

Answer 9

Instinct is certainly important but it's the whole issue of love that is "unconditional". To know this about someone and their true feelings for you takes time but, I believe, If it's that kind of true love, you simply "know' it after awhile!

Answer 10

Sarge, I'm glad you've asked that important question. I feel that Love is something that comes from The Heart. Not your head? Not your Wallet? And not the other areas. It has to be between the Hearts. Once the two, really communicate? It's magic. The two Hearts, make it happen. If the talking is from ANY other area? It's bound to fail. If the Heart is in charge? It'll work!! Good Luck!!