Do you believe in a marriage that the man should have the first and last say on things or only the final say?

Answer 1

No! What kinda marriage is that?? Marriage is a partnership- it takes 2!! Everything should be talked out together!
(He can have his way though sometimes!)
carla

Answer 2

I believe the man in any relationship/marriage should have his say anytime he wishes to say something. I have deep respect for my man - I wouldn't be with him if I didn't. I always give his opinions serious consideration before I decide what I will do. And he always considers what I have to say before he decides what he will do.

To be perfectly honest, I believe the woman must RESPECT the man. And yes, he may have the first, last or final say in anything, as he so chooses. But I also believe the man must LOVE the woman. This means that although he is the leading authority - "Man of the house" - he must be understanding and caring enough not to ignore what his woman needs, not to do things that hurt her or the family. If he forges ahead with whatever he wants regardless of his womans inability to accept it....
He will loose her respect. When a woman looses her respect for her man, the marriage is over.
Likewise, when a woman doesn't respect her man, she will loose his love.
Either way or both ways - One leads to the other - the marriage falls apart.

Marriage, explained In the simplest terms: If a man doesn't Love the woman - he won't respect her. And if a woman doesn't Respect the man - she cannot love him.

Sounds old fashioned. But it is true.
(although few men can accept the other role) I have seen a few relationships where the roles are reversed, but this principle still applies.

Answer 3

No. A marriage should be of two people that have equal say. They decide on things together and they compromise. Is that so much to ask for?

Answer 4

Marriage is an equal partnership. No one person should make all the decisions in the relationship. They should be mutually decided.

Answer 5

marriage is a partnership.

and I also believe that most marriage ceremonies are leaving out the " to obey your husband " part. Which just goes to show you the way things are shifting.

Answer 6

I have to tell you that these kinds of questions are really bugging me right now because I am leaving my husband of almost 17 years.
He was rotten to me when I had cancer, he was not there when I had spinal surgery, he complains about the cost of my meds that keep my alive, he wants to sell our family van to make extra money, he locked me out of the family account, he ditches us when we to church and he's just been all around nasty.

What could I have done to change this? Not a thing. And I need to leave to preserve my health and be around for my 3 kids.

What do you make of this situation, Sandstorm?

Answer 7

if two people are willing to get married to one another; they each get half of the say in everything. no matter what. the world should work that way too; men and women should be equal in everything that they do; unfortunately this is not the case. it should be though.

Answer 8

In marriage there are two people, so in decisions there should be two people deciding. I think both male and female, or female and female, or male and male should have ALL say

Answer 9

Final say and it is not easy all of the time ,cause there are times at that one crucial time you want to say something, yet you are bound by a creed, a creed of your own marriage.

Answer 10

No, decisions should be made together as a couple. One person's opinion is not superior to the other's.