For the past year, women have been texting my husband at hours of the night. I ask to see the phone, he hides it. He spends hours on the internet, chatting with “friends”. A friend created a fake Myspace page (w/o my knowledge) to contact him, Within 1 day; he was giving out his cell phone number, and willing to meet up with this person. This friend created the Myspace account after seeing a singles ad of my husband’s on other website, (It was created while he was in a relationship with me) wanting to catch him in the act.
He always claims it’s always someone else’s fault. When confronted, he says, it’s a lie, someone’s out to destroy my marriage. I found a picture of a half naked “friend” of his on my computer, with other pictures of her scantily dressed. When asked, he claimed they weren’t for his use, she wanted to pictures of herself for a website.
He claims he never cheated (had sex), but I’m not sure. I told him I want a divorce; am I overracting?
2007-07-05 13:34:57 · 29 answers · asked by silentprimadonna27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
More detail, my husband and I have no children. He's asked me to have children over the past year, but I refuse. Guess the maternal part of me knows something my heart/head doesn't.
The pictures were taken just 3 days after I confronted him about the Myspace/personal ad. (This all happened last week) When I asked for the divorce, his solution was, lets take a vacation without all the distractions. He couldn't believe I was willing to give up 8 years "so easily". When asked him to go to marriage counseling, he flat out said no. He wasn't going to let someone just point out all his flaws.
2007-07-05 13:55:10 · update #1
He doesn't sound trustworthy to me. I think you are right to divorce him. You will be much happier without him. Good Luck!
2007-07-05 13:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by serendipity_siren 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK. I've been in a VERY similar situation before. And once I FINALLY got out of it, I found out through people that had no idea who I was, that he was sleeping with several different women. I can't say definately because I don't know him, but it sounds to me like he is being unfaithful. If I had it to do over again, I would have left him after the first time I felt like I knew for sure he was cheating. But instead, I stuck with him for almost 6 years and now, 2 years later, I still go every 6 months for some and every year for other STD tests because some STDs can take years to even show up in your blood stream. Not trying to scare anyone. Just stating facts.
2007-07-05 14:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by lpn_jess_2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see crimson flags too. You the two are shifting way TOO rapid!!! You met him in April and 3 months later are making plans the marriage. not a stable thought, quite with a guy that purely have been given divorced. The letters are fishy, yet in fact you won't be in a position to truly believe somebody after in basic terms being with them some months. stop with the marriage plans and purely date like regularly occurring human beings for a minimum of a 365 days.
2016-09-29 04:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are overreacting but do you really want a divorce? Maybe you would like to work things out instead. If you choose to work things out, he needs to stop spending so much time online and stop putting himself on the singles ads and you may even need counseling. The singles ad thing is what would have been the deal breaker for me if I were you. He should spend his time and energy on your relationship. I consider what he is doing cheating.
2007-07-05 13:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You either need to go ahead to counseling on your own or better yet, go see the lawyer and file for divorce then go to counseling if you want to.
You are NOT overreacting...in fact I think you 've been very patient and given him all the chances in the world to clean up his act and preserve the marriage.
You deserve better than this guy. Get a divorce and find someone else!
2007-07-05 14:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by krebskat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not over reacting if he's going to that kinda measures i.e hiding the phone late night texts single ads....not a good sign u need to get evidence against him with it maybe seek counseling if u want to save the marriage otherwise i think u might want to look into a separation to see how things work out. but good luck in whatever u do.
2007-07-05 13:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AGHH! Run, don't walk, out of that realtionship now! Yes, he is cheating, and no you are not overreacting! From what you wrote down the prognosis is poor at best in my opinion. Get your family and friends for support and then leave him. If you want to find out for sure, hire a private eye or tap his phone or something. They have all sorts of ways today. Good luck!
2007-07-05 13:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by edie08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I'm one of those that do not believe in divorce but there are some exceptions to the rule. Just by all the info you provided I would say it's time for you to leave. I don't think I would have ever let it get that far.
Good luck!
2007-07-05 13:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by Suzy_305 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're husband is most likely trying to protect himself by playing this game with you.. When you are in doubt about his extracurricular activities, you're most likely right.!!! I had a problem like this that lasted 10 years( DUMMY). Finally I got really strong and I left him... It was hard to do, as we were together for 20 years..But, it wasn't quality time at all. I feel I wasted the best years of my life... Call him to the carpet sister...He quits or else.. Don't do like I did!
2007-07-05 13:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by Thunderrolls 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not over-reacting. Someone is out to destroy your marriage and it's HIM. My no-fail rule in life is to tune out what people say (because they'll always lie) and look at their actions (actions tell the true story). His actions speak volumes. Don't let him make a fool out of you. Let the bimbos have him while you find yourself a better mate.
2007-07-05 13:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Adivorce sounds like a good Idea I wouldnt believe him! You shouldn't have live worrying about what hes doing that's not a happy marriage anyway.
2007-07-05 13:39:18 · answer #11 · answered by babygrl20052000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋