2007-07-05 13:14:57 · 30 answers · asked by Amanda R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because your a LOSER
2007-07-05 13:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by fa q 3 · 1⤊ 11⤋
Because women are fixers. You thought you could fix him, make him a better man. You worked hard at it, treated him kindly (better than he deserved) and got nowhere. He left you for someone more like himself. You, however, didn't get to finish fixing him. So now you're left with unfinished business, and he doesn't even care.
No matter how bad he treated you, there were some good times. You keep thinking about those, how much fun he was, and the promise and potential you saw in him. That's what you can't forget about him. But he proved what kind of a man he was when he left you for her.
Forget them both. You're much better off without him. You don't need a man who needs to be fixed. Go work with a charity to fulfill that need. Instead, look for a man who would swim through shark infested waters just to bring you a glass of lemonade on a hot day. You're worth it.
2007-07-05 20:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by HH in AK 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well he was your partner and there was a time when he cared about you so you are probably missing that time of the relationship and all of your hopes for it. You probably aren't missing the hurtful parts of him.
He gave up on your relationship and went for someone who met his ego's needs, You are still the same good person that he feel for the first time. He probably left for someone who expected less or was able to make him feel better about him self. If he was abusive towards you, he didn't feel good that's for sure.
It's OK to think about him and even be sad for the loss of what you though would happen when you married him. You may never draw a blank when you hear his name! But later you will move on, you will make a new life without him and it won't hurt so much. You will hopefully realize that you have someone who doesn't treat you awful. Remember the BEST revenge is living well.
Good Luck!
2007-07-05 20:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because he left you for a skank after treating you badly. He hurt your self-esteem and left you with a black hole inside. That gave him the power. It sucks. I know all about that. But you can take your power back, it takes some work and some therapy, and some good friends, and maybe a few facials and massages, some pretty new clothes, and even a little make-over, but you need to start loving yourself again. Then you won't think of him that way anymore.
2007-07-05 20:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by desperatehw 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You invested a lot in making the choice and having it turn out badly questions both that judgement and the way it fits in your life. So the proper response is to think back to the situation as it was and try to avoid making the choices ahead the same way. There should have been warning flags (events, attitudes) and if you are aware of them, you will not make the same choices.
2007-07-05 20:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by Mike1942f 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's going to be hard for the next few months but evenually you'll forget about him and move on because you diserve better I know because I have been cheated on by 4 guys and I know that it hurts nobody should be treated that way!
2007-07-05 20:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by Missa~Luvs~U 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably, because he left you before you could give him the boot. If he left you for a skank, be glad you were too good for him and maybe he knew it and that is why he left.
2007-07-05 20:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I suggest, that you spend some time reading books on "self esteem"...obviously someone has HURT yours...I am serious about this...I have been hurt myself...it does NOT feel good...Years later you will look at your current situation and think.."thank God, he left...He is better off with the other woman....you really will think like this...it will be ok...TELL YOURSELF THAT...it really does work..ignore the others...on this...they are being mean...i have been there...everytime you think of this person REPLACE IT WITH A MORE PLEASANT THOUGHT....it does work!!! best of luck!!!
2007-07-05 20:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by sweet 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I disagree with the answers that are out there right now so far. In my situation, when I was in the relationship (marriage) that my husband treated me like crap, I just couldn't get over the fact he was cheating on ME, and doing all these bad things to ME, because my self esteme was high and I thought in his eyes that he should of considered me a catch! In reality, he was just a jerk that was insecure himself and needed to sleep with every s.l.u.t. out there to try to prove to himself that he was sexy or whatever. I stayed with him longer than I should have because I just kept trying to figure out what was going on because I had NEVER been dogged like that before. I guarantee you something though, you will learn your lesson from this (hopefully) and never have to go through this again! You won't forget him, just like you will never forget how to add and subtract, but you will learn from it. Good luck sweetie.
2007-07-05 20:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by Corona 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It just takes time. You're out on your own and he's doing what he wants. Now it's time for you to do what you want. Go out with other single friends and above all don't sit around and feel sorry for yourself. If you've had 1 boyfriend there's gotta be another out there for you. Live for yourself not him.
2007-07-05 20:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by jerry b 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well maby you still have feelings for him or you hate that he left you for a skank.
2007-07-05 20:23:02 · answer #11 · answered by deelmasterskid 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋