I'm shocked. I just heard that someone thinks I'm very arrogant and disrespectful. Although I think I am not. In fact, I have average to low self-esteem. On the other hand, some people think I'm very unassertive.
I hate it when people judge me unfairly. It's causing me troubles in life, especially at job interviews. Is the problem in me, or in people?
2007-07-05 12:19:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Because people are all different and have different perspectives..you can't expect them to think like you
BR
2007-07-05 12:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by Big Red 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Remember everone comes from a place of different expectations of how someone should act. I have had the same kind of comments. If they go both way too much or too little on the same topic you're are probably about right. (Everyone has opinions, appriciate that they take the time to share them). I loved the book "Personality Plus" Littauer...It shows you how you are how they are and why you see each other the way you do and most importantly what to do about it. GL
2007-07-05 19:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by allgravi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you're projecting your inadequacies to the point of arrogance. People with low self-esteem come off as having a bad attitude. This dilemma lies within yourself. Maybe some introspective thought would be beneficial.
2007-07-05 19:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by JESSICA G 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The impressions people get are always colored by the type of person they are. Statistics say one out of three people you meet will dislike you on sight. Unless the person who thinks you are disrespectful is in a position of authority over you, I wouldn't worry about it. They just feel threatened. And remember, you wouldn't worry nearly as much about what people think about you if you realized how seldom they do!
2007-07-05 19:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by mommanuke 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What do MOST people think about you? Don't let one spiteful person ruin your self-esteem.
I am a quiet person, and I have been told by a friend that I can come off as a b*tch. But that's just because I like to keep to myself.
Don't let wrong people get in your way. You know who you are, and present yourself in your unique light.
Have a nice day.
2007-07-05 19:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by cve5190 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe we don't really notice it, but everyone acts differently around certain people, just like we do not REALLY realize what we actually sound like when we speak.
Also there is the interpretation that others have of us, and pre conceived ideas they also may have before they even know us.....
It is a totally normal thing... unless you are on t.v or radio all the time...
DON'T WORRY ABOUT!
DON'T DWELL ON IT!
DON'T LET IT CHANGE WHO YOU ARE!
DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT.
2007-07-05 19:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one who just meets you is able to form an adequate impression of you. That means that you're sending them mixed signals. Why would they think you disrespectful? Get your act together. Decide how you want them to see you and then become an actor and act the part. Dress the part. People will believe what you tell them, not only verbally, but non-verbally.
2007-07-05 19:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Actually I had to do a study on myself for my psychology class and I was surprised at the results. I had different groups, Family, Friends and Co-workers. I asked them all the same questions and they all responded differently. I think we act different in different situations, around different people. Just be a good person in general and you should be well liked by everyone ;)
2007-07-05 19:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah Smile 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think this might help you...it did me...
what other people think about you is none of your business....
think about it...no one KNOWS you all of you....so how on earth can they really even judge you...they judge you by their own opinions which are based on the reality of their thinking only...not the truth. And there will always be greater or lesser than yourself...people will always think what they want about you regardless of how you act towards them...when you let other peoples opinions get to you .....you are letting them hurt you...no one can hurt you unless you let them.
Love them where they are at...you know the truth about the situation...and if they are attacking you they feel vuneralable to you...get to know yourself better and do not concern yourself with what others are saying...
2007-07-05 19:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by rowdysunsetart 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Both...and if job interviews are an issue then practice in front of the mirror... be aware of your body language and how you come off..the tone you use when speaking and the language you choose to use.
2007-07-05 19:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
ok maybe to u u sound nice and all that but to other people u might sound all that stuff but try being extra nice and showing people u care and just show a different more caring side of ur self!
2007-07-05 20:20:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋