What is wrong with wanting a beautiful girl?

Question

I hear a lot of complaining about how men only like the pretty girls. Yes that is true for the most part.

But figuratively speaking: Who chooses spam over a nice t-bone. What is wrong with having expectations?

I have a beautiful girl, and she has a heart of gold.

I kind of missed with this question. I was trying to pick at the stereotype of guys who go after attractive women as being pig headed egomaniacs. Because I'm not either of those, but I would never consider being with someone who is overweight, because overweight is a lifestyle choice and no matter how nice she is Id never be able to stand her lifestyle.

Answer 1

Well, when your expectations are something that she has no control over, then I guess that's a little annoying. What if she expects to date only guys with blonde hair or something? If you are really just talking about wanting a girl who takes care of herself, then that's totally OK.

Really, if looks are important to you, then you should feel free to only date beautiful girls - but no one's going to applaud you for preferring girls naturally blessed with good genes, since it has zero to do with how great a GF they could be.

Answer 2

Nothing wrong with it. But to a certain extent, your immaturity is showing. I find it interesting that you did not regard any other expatations you have that would help you to have the most successful relationship.

Maybe you should realize that this is exactly where the stereotype comes from, men who ONLY value looks/beauty and consider attributes like ambitious, hard working, self-confidence, personal accountability as merely "bonuses", or worse as flaws.

It's not all about looks. More often than not in my experience, it is the person who you LEAST expect that ends up being the perfect match for you. Beauty only runs skin deep, and a realationship based solely on that beauty will only run just as deep. If you want to have the kind of fufilling relationship that has more umph than that of a shallow one, perhaps you whould learn to become more open about looks, and further figure out what PERSONALITY traits, beliefs, etc. suit you best, after all is said and done Beauty fades, a deep connection can last forever.

Answer 3

Nothing. But if you're not really good looking, well...

Anyway, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I have plenty of friend who find some guys "handsome", and I usually think he is average at best.

I personally want to go out with someone who I'm physically attracted to. But usually, someone's personality will make me see someone in a different way. But, true, there are some body type or some faces which I know for sure I'll never be attracted to.

I think that people should also look at themselves in the mirror a bit more, sometimes. But then again, there are exceptions...

Answer 4

Your idea of beautiful, just like everyone else's, is cultural. The problem is, the ideal that's held in US media is genetically impossible for the majority of women (we're mostly brown haired or black haired and darker skinned as a whole, as well as shorter.) It isn't you that's the problem, rather the idea of beauty that is. It's all recessive traits (blonde hair, light skin, blue eyes, etc,) and few American women have those.

Also, being overweight isn't always a lifestyle choice. There are numerous hormonal and genetic problems that can cause weight gain and weight loss (hyper/hypothyroidism, GH deficiency, PCOS and so forth.) I honestly think you should be a bit more careful when judging others.

Answer 5

I don't think there's anything wrong with this desire. I mean, we want good food too, don't we? It's all about taking in something that is...just... good. Filling the senses with the most scrumptious options.

What I think is interesting is how diverse the idea of beauty is. I think punk rock girls with smaller breasts and bigger butts are really cute. Bonus points for pink hair. I find the Playboy centerfold blondes to be really boring and I can't tell one from another. There is nothing unique enough to catch my attention.

Answer 6

There's nothing wrong with it, unless you don't know what you're in for. Either heavy competition for an appreciative/kind one, or putting up with a relatively unappreciative being. Although these 2 options aren't the only ones, they're the most likely. There are things worse than unappreciative, like bitter and nasty.

Answer 7

nothing i guess

as a supposedly beautiful girl it can be nice to be looked at

but I wish there was more many times

and I LOVE being with women too and the so called ugly ones or plain ones are just as nice

especially in the bed

my TOY is considered ugly but she gives and gives and gives

don't just think of looks

think of personality and sex as well

you will increase your chances of finding a soulmate and fun!

Answer 8

beauty is in the eye of the beholder, as long as your not looking for perfection {that does not exist}. Theres always someone a little more attractive on down the road and if that is all your looking for you'll probably be alone.

Answer 9

nothing is wrong with wanting a beautiful girl.But remember that beauty don't last forever. so if you are just looking for a beautiful woman and not really looking into her personality you are going to have one hell of a life. don't give up though there someone for everybody.

Answer 10

i understand what u r saying. If u love some body but the way they r makes u to not want to be around them. i am dealing with something like that now. So i don't think it is not that bad to have expectation but not everybody will understand that.