I am 23 and married with two children. I have been talking to some family members and have found that as you get older it seems like you only really keep a few friends. Is it normal to loose friends as you age? Is it normal that my only friends are related to me? I have found the same situation with people who are not married and have no children. I am I normal being friendless or does everyone hate my family so thats why we have no friends:)
2007-07-05 09:36:19 · 26 answers · asked by Amber G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yeah. I find that it's a very natural thing. We all grow-up, move away, find others we relate more to, we all just end up doing our own things and naturally part, you know?
I too am in my early 20s and have a few close friends. I am totally fine with it too! I think it's better to have a few close people than to have tens of people.
2007-07-05 09:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for friends to fade off as people get older. If someone says they have a lot of friends, they mean they have a lot of acquaintances not friends. As you get older and go through some of life turbulence's, any one who is not close to you will most likely disappear. It is only a very few that always stick by the good times and the bad times.
You know that saying, " when you are down on your luck and things are going wrong, that is when you find out who your real friends are."
A true friend will stay in contact with you your whole life and ends up being a part of the family. It is impossible to have all the acquaintances you've known to keep that kind of contact. You would never have enough time in the world for everyone. You start out with a whole bunch of acquaintances and as times goes by they eventually wade off and go their own ways and if there are any still around when you are older, than consider yourself lucky. Most people are too busy with what is going on in their lives to be available for someone else. These are my theories as to why people end up having fewer friends or no friends as they get older.
2007-07-05 10:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by CARM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really lose friends, you just figure out who the real ones are. Someone once told me that if you have more than five real friends, you have to stop and redefine the term. So if you used to hang out with 20 people, at least 15 were just aquaintences. You called them friends, but that's what they really were. Having a true friend is a commitment no less than being married. You have to work to maintain the relationship and that can't be done with 20 people.
2007-07-05 09:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jason Stock 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that everyone hates your family its just you have to have a good personality. I moved schools 3 diff. times and it is hard to make new friends when your older. Because you start going places and you have more stuff going on in your life. But just go out to some events and start some conversations with some parents and maybe you will become friends. Best of Luck!!!!
ABBEY ALWAYS
2007-07-05 09:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by abbs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem now after I lost my husband. There is no one that comes around or even calls or invites me anywhere, unless it is a drunk party. I am not interested in a bunch of drunk idiots. I would just like a few friends to have fun with and go shopping, stuff like that. They are all busy with kids, ball games, working and theri families. They have too many things going in theri lives to have time for others.
So sad.
2007-07-05 10:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by lana s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you get older you change and have more things that you have to do. I have also found that people tend to be more selective as far as friends go. Then you break into catogories of married, married with children, divorced, and single. These groups tend to stay together and this is why I think you have less friends as you get older.
2007-07-05 09:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by aitkenpatty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal unless of course you are a social butterfly. People get older and move on and get busy with their own immediate families. It's part of the circle of life. I am now 40-ish and have only a few friends and the rest are co-workers.
2007-07-05 09:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by Joey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would agree, when I was 23 I had tons of friends but, soon people pair up and have families, or move because of jobs, I believe it does become harder to meet people as you age and become involved in work and family commitments
2007-07-05 09:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by unpublished critic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it has nothing to do with age i think everybody goes through losing many friends at certain points in their lives but be happy for the friends you do have because they were the honest and true friends that stuck it out with you. I know being 20 since my mom has been sick i have lost half my friends because they were selfish and were only concerned with petty problems.
2007-07-05 09:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by kaybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is true. I'm about to be 24 and I'm not married but in a serious realtionship. I bearly talk to any of my old friends. Its a sad thing but I think you realize whats important to you as you get older and realize who youre true friends are.
2007-07-05 09:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by das050 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋